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    I will try to keep this as short as possible. During Sixth Form I got very stressed, and also lost my Dad and grandma, and I generally lost a lot of self confidence from moving schools, so I developed depression. This last year I have done my first year of uni, but it seems like I can't get out of this depression, even though a lot of time has lapsed and it seems like by now something should have changed.
    At uni I had a lot of free time, unlike before, and I didn't know how to spend it. I didn't do any work for the first two terms, and I didn't go to many lectures, as I found it very unchallenging and unnecessary, as I recognised most of the theories and what we leant from A-level, and I ended up with a 2:1.
    So I didn't feel all that passionate about my course or getting high grades anymore, since my outlook on their importance & relevance has changed. And I tried to go to societies but I just didn't enjoy them that much, and I didn't seem to click with many people, and I didn't feel like bothering to go. I've thought about changing courses but there isn't one that really appeals to me, and I've thought about what hobbies I want to focus on or what career I would feel passionate about, but I really don't seem to feel strongly about things anymore.
    I think I have realised that I am pretty average at things in the grand scheme of things, and I won't be taking any hobby too seriously, so I don't see the point in them anymore.
    It has resulted in me mostly chilling, and being quite inactive, although I do still go to the gym etc. It just seems like I don't know what to do with myself and even though the option is there I just can't bring myself to get stuck into anything and I would rather think about things more and go on the laptop or TV.
    I feel so stuck like I can't get into a routine or keep busy, and I can't change. I also feel very stuck inside of my head, and not really "with it" or switched on to the real world...
    I am wondering, should I just keep on trying out various things and keep doing what I'm doing - the gym and ice skating, and hope that I will fall in love with something again..? Perhaps if i had more self confidence and a better outlook I would see the good in things more? Or maybe I'm just worrying about it too much. I just end up thinking why am I alive.. I'm so untalented and there is nothing I really want to do or work towards, and I'm unhappy and just bored. I just need to find a way to love life again
    like I will look at my boyfriend who studies maths and watch him talk about all of these complex theories and doing assignments, and it looks more difficult and challenging than what I do. Like I would just whip out an essay just to get it over with, or the multiple choice question assignments weren't hard either, and when we had projects it seemed like a matter of going through the motions, rather than a reflection of any skill... I feel so dumb studying psychology, like it's too easy and unscientific :/ but I don't know what else I would study...
    Im not really getting anywhere with this....... I'm just living every day quite easily and feel a major lack of purpose or fulfillment/enjoyment and it's not going awayyyyyyyyy. :/ I'm too indecisive to know what to do about anything ugh.

    Sorry this is so long, I'm amazed if anyone bothered to read it.
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    As short as possible...lol
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    Much of this sounds similar to Anhedonia, which is also a symptom of depression. Since you mentioned depression I suggest seeking professional medical advice. It may or may not be depression, or an extension of depression, or may have another underlying cause. Get professional help as soon as possible.

    Now that the official advice is out of the way lets look at the positive side. You mention that you don't find the work challenging, don't tend to try and didn't attend lectures much. You also said you finished with a 2:1. You also say that you aren't feeling challenged and that the course is too easy. Maybe that means you're just intellectually bored. If you're finding things too easy and not feeling challenged then that suggests you're actually well above average. Imagine what would happen if you did put the effort in. Seek to challenge yourself more, and find ways to build motivation.

    You've identified that your current situation isn't working so continuing with it seems a little pointless. If you want things to change you need to be willing to make changes. Hoping you'll just start enjoying things again won't get you anywhere. Identify what caused you to lose interest and look for ways to rekindle that interest. Find something to get excited about, even if you don't want to be excited. If you don't think your life is fulfilled and you aren't getting enjoyment from things then you want to ramp things up. Do something that seems much harder than you've ever done before. Do things out of your comfort zone.

    Good luck and as always with these sorts of threads I'm always available to chat.


    Oh and btw I did read all of it. So be amazed
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    (Original post by Acsel)
    Much of this sounds similar to Anhedonia, which is also a symptom of depression. Since you mentioned depression I suggest seeking professional medical advice. It may or may not be depression, or an extension of depression, or may have another underlying cause. Get professional help as soon as possible.

    Now that the official advice is out of the way lets look at the positive side. You mention that you don't find the work challenging, don't tend to try and didn't attend lectures much. You also said you finished with a 2:1. You also say that you aren't feeling challenged and that the course is too easy. Maybe that means you're just intellectually bored. If you're finding things too easy and not feeling challenged then that suggests you're actually well above average. Imagine what would happen if you did put the effort in. Seek to challenge yourself more, and find ways to build motivation.

    You've identified that your current situation isn't working so continuing with it seems a little pointless. If you want things to change you need to be willing to make changes. Hoping you'll just start enjoying things again won't get you anywhere. Identify what caused you to lose interest and look for ways to rekindle that interest. Find something to get excited about, even if you don't want to be excited. If you don't think your life is fulfilled and you aren't getting enjoyment from things then you want to ramp things up. Do something that seems much harder than you've ever done before. Do things out of your comfort zone.

    Good luck and as always with these sorts of threads I'm always available to chat.


    Oh and btw I did read all of it. So be amazed
    Thankyou for your advice. I'm going to try CBT therapy for depression, and I'll hopefully find what is causing me to be unsatisfied and unhappy through that.
    Yeah I think I will stick with psychology and work harder in second year seeing as it counts towards my grade. And doing challenging things sounds like a good idea.

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    (Original post by salsasauce)
    Thankyou for your advice. I'm going to try CBT therapy for depression, and I'll hopefully find what is causing me to be unsatisfied and unhappy through that.
    Yeah I think I will stick with psychology and work harder in second year seeing as it counts towards my grade. And doing challenging things sounds like a good idea.

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    No problem. Good luck with the CBT and hopefully you do well in Psychology.
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    I will try to keep this as short as possible. During Sixth Form I got very stressed, and also lost my Dad and grandma, and I generally lost a lot of self confidence from moving schools, so I developed depression. This last year I have done my first year of uni, but it seems like I can't get out of this depression, even though a lot of time has lapsed and it seems like by now something should have changed.
    At uni I had a lot of free time, unlike before, and I didn't know how to spend it. I didn't do any work for the first two terms, and I didn't go to many lectures, as I found it very unchallenging and unnecessary, as I recognised most of the theories and what we leant from A-level, and I ended up with a 2:1.
    So I didn't feel all that passionate about my course or getting high grades anymore, since my outlook on their importance & relevance has changed. And I tried to go to societies but I just didn't enjoy them that much, and I didn't seem to click with many people, and I didn't feel like bothering to go. I've thought about changing courses but there isn't one that really appeals to me, and I've thought about what hobbies I want to focus on or what career I would feel passionate about, but I really don't seem to feel strongly about things anymore.
    I think I have realised that I am pretty average at things in the grand scheme of things, and I won't be taking any hobby too seriously, so I don't see the point in them anymore.
    It has resulted in me mostly chilling, and being quite inactive, although I do still go to the gym etc. It just seems like I don't know what to do with myself and even though the option is there I just can't bring myself to get stuck into anything and I would rather think about things more and go on the laptop or TV.
    I feel so stuck like I can't get into a routine or keep busy, and I can't change. I also feel very stuck inside of my head, and not really "with it" or switched on to the real world...
    I am wondering, should I just keep on trying out various things and keep doing what I'm doing - the gym and ice skating, and hope that I will fall in love with something again..? Perhaps if i had more self confidence and a better outlook I would see the good in things more? Or maybe I'm just worrying about it too much. I just end up thinking why am I alive.. I'm so untalented and there is nothing I really want to do or work towards, and I'm unhappy and just bored. I just need to find a way to love life again
    like I will look at my boyfriend who studies maths and watch him talk about all of these complex theories and doing assignments, and it looks more difficult and challenging than what I do. Like I would just whip out an essay just to get it over with, or the multiple choice question assignments weren't hard either, and when we had projects it seemed like a matter of going through the motions, rather than a reflection of any skill... I feel so dumb studying psychology, like it's too easy and unscientific :/ but I don't know what else I would study...
    Im not really getting anywhere with this....... I'm just living every day quite easily and feel a major lack of purpose or fulfillment/enjoyment and it's not going awayyyyyyyyy. :/ I'm too indecisive to know what to do about anything ugh.

    Sorry this is so long, I'm amazed if anyone bothered to read it.
    You are probably a realist, just like me. Life is dull and boring and worthless, some people just don't realise it.
 
 
 
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