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    I would really appreciate some honest opinions and thoughts on this current situation I'm in, quite a few times I've had really bad, vivid nightmares about people who have hurt me in the past, even all the way back to high school (I left high school nearly 6 years ago now) and oftentimes they are so vivid and disturbing I will wake up crying. They have sometimes, but no often, happened in the past but with the passing of my grandma, who I was quite close too, a couple of months ago they have become a lot more frequent and I now have dreams about my grandparents and my grandma in particular. It doesn't help that I've lost three other family members since 2012 aside from my grandma. What should I do? I'm trying to get on with life but it's tough with disturbed sleep.
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    Therapy/counseling. It takes time. The nightmares are just a reflection of your subconscious, so learn to cope better with it in real life and it may easy yout dreams. Also make sure you get good good quality sleep being tired, mil drink, relax etc.
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    Therapy/counseling. It takes time. The nightmares are just a reflection of your subconscious, so learn to cope better with it in real life and it may easy yout dreams. Also make sure you get good good quality sleep being tired, mil drink, relax etc.
    What kind of counselling should I go for? Grief counselling or some other type? I've spoken to my GP about it but I struggle to express myself and my emotions properly so they can't help me unless I tell them?
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    What kind of counselling should I go for? Grief counselling or some other type? I've spoken to my GP about it but I struggle to express myself and my emotions properly so they can't help me unless I tell them?
    Maybe just write it down on a piece of paper.
    whats happening
    what you think the causes are.

    As you have said here you have issues with:

    Trauma
    Bereavement.

    It may be you are unable to resolve it by yourself , so it may take just talking and counseling, plus medication plus ofc time.

    Maybe you have to come to terms with the issues and their effect.

    You cna learn some techniques to help you cope.

    Then you need to move forward. Going to take time, determination and patience.
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    Maybe just write it down on a piece of paper.
    whats happening
    what you think the causes are.

    As you have said here you have issues with:

    Trauma
    Bereavement.

    It may be you are unable to resolve it by yourself , so it may take just talking and counseling, plus medication plus ofc time.

    Maybe you have to come to terms with the issues and their effect.

    You cna learn some techniques to help you cope.

    Then you need to move forward. Going to take time, determination and patience.
    Thank you

    Do you have personal experience of issues like this or you just a very sweet person?
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    Thank you

    Do you have personal experience of issues like this or you just a very sweet person?
    Everyobe sooner or later has experience of people dying and not nice experiences. You have quite a lot. You need to recognise it and find a plan which starts to let you cope and then enables you to move forward.

    Learn to like and be kind to yourself.

    Things that might help.
    Talking about things, makes you feel less alone.
    Getting involved in activities so you are socialising or busy, stops uoi dwelling.
    Exercise, helps against depression.

    Whne you realise you have a future, then its easier to leave some of the things behind.
 
 
 
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