how long until you have sex?

Think the main question here is... Is the sexual aspect the most important part of the relationship to you?

From what I've gathered, you guys seem to put an insane amount of emphasis on it but I suppose different people have different needs.

I would not intentionally wait until my wedding night.. but if my girlfriend was a Catholic and she wanted to do that, that would be no problem, and it should be no problem to any of you guys at all! I don't dictate when I want to have sex; it will come naturally to US (not just me!), so I will gladly wait until my partner is ready... No problem at all.

This is specifically aimed at Dan (3232):

May I ask why sex is sooo important to you???
I assumed (although obviously wrongly so) that someone intelligent enough to be going to Cambridge would perhaps have other priorities.
So out of interest is the first thing you think about when meeting a girl sex? And don't you think this attitutde is a bit shallow for someone such as yourself. I'm just trying to say, that maybe if you had a bit more respect for the opposite sex, then maybe you'd receive more respect.
I don't think any decent woman would appreciate being seen as a sex object! Don't you agree??

Firstly, I'd like to point out for the last time that I'm NOT a male. Why does everyone here assume I'm a guy? Secondly, your comments and replies are so disrespectful that I'm not even going to bother replying to them. I think it's all of you who need to do the growing up, not me. I matured ages before you guys and definitely don't need a group of sex-obssessed teenagers telling me that my views are immature. It's attitudes such as these that have resulted in the sky-high numbers of teenage pregnancies, STDs and broken marriages.
Also, Ross-j, I don't think you deserve to have a partner and I'd be interested to know what she thought about this:
"if you meet a girl you like the look of and you get on well obviously youre going to want to **** her"
Or have you not told that to her face yet?
I really think you should be ashamed of yourselves!!

Is it me or are the first few pages of posts of a typical H + R topic just repetitive?

Everyone just says the same thing, worded slightly differently and seem to think that this somehow makes them trisha.

Seems to be that the people who can get sex fairly easily are the ones who want it fast and the ones whose partners wan't to wait till marriage are just trying to make the best of a bad situation. Neither is wrong, as long as both people in the relationship are happy then having a regular sex life is perfectly healthy

Read incredibly boring....

I find it interesting how a lot of people are insulting people who will wait till their wedding night to have sex. I think people who wait are better than people who sleep with other after 5 minutes. That is repulsive in my book. What's wrong with waiting until you find the right person. To some people sex is something very important that they only want to do with the person they want to be with for the rest of their lives.

Someone who wants to wait is not frigid, they just hold a higher value on intimacy. A lot of people still think that there is more to sex than just the physical act. Everyone's values are different, some people do not hold sexual contact up on a pedastool but consider something still special that they wait for a while before sleeping with their partners. Some people don't value sex as an expression of feeling at all and just see it as a means to gratification.

I personally don't have sex with people I am not in a relationship with, I don't like the idea of sleeping with a person that I don't know.

But at the end of the day, sex is a personal choice and it is up to the parties involved as to when they initiate it, if it's on their wedding night or in the bar toilets 10 minutes after meeting that's their choice.

I find it interesting that someone who found it interesting that people who had a particular sexual viewpoint were being insulted then turned around and insulted people with a different viewpoint in the next sentance. And then continued with a complete stereotype and generalisation of who those people were and how they felt.

Int-er-esting. Hmmm.

Until your wedding night? Is that why you're a member of the boredom society?

I didn't insult anyone, I expressed my opinion that it is better to wait and be ready than to jump in bed. Wheras people who have expressed similar thoughts have actually been insulted, being called frigid and the like.

Secondly I made no generalisations at all, hence the use of the word "some". If I had said "all" then perhaps I would agree with you, but I didn't, and was careful not to.