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    Sounds like you've got a severe case of Oneitis
    It will pass with time, just try focusing on yourself and meeting new people
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    Runescape relationships.. Oh man I had a fair few of those growing up, never actually met anyone off of runescape, played the game religiously up until about 2013 when I decided it was getting too unhealthy.

    What you need is to forget about love, forget forget forget, move on, and then it will come flying back at you in the future in a way you could never imagine, i've had what you had with girls, no way near the same time scale, but i've gone through the phases where I know im slowly losing them, it took me weeks to get over it, I had to watch a girl I loved fall for a rich guy who drove a range rover and spoilt her, I couldn't do anything about it he finessed her off my hands, I was a broke university student.

    As time passes you heal, I know when you think about it right now you wonder to yourself how the hell can i possibly get over this? Im crippled! But you get over it, everyone does eventually. You have to look at the person differently, you have to search for the reasons why that person wasnt good for you, you have to tell yourself you can do better than that. But the biggest thing is this, that person ended it you over email after years of talking to you. That person isn't a very nice person if they're doing something like that, thats not the sort of person you want to be with, tell yourself that, and trust me you'll get over it

    Edit: Check your inbox loserrrrr
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    (Original post by euphrosyne)
    I fell in love
    Well, I guess this revelation explains a thing or two :rolleyes:

    I knew he was the one .. he broke up with me *over email*
    Apparently you were wrong/picked the wrong guy

    all these years I've spent with him are all wasted
    You feel like you had your time wasted? Karma can be a ***** :console:

    I've become so convinced that I won't ever love anyone again
    Based on what? **** all. That’s just your fears/insecurities talking. Life goes on

    Will I ever be able to move past that?
    Yes. Here’s a good place to start. Good luck kid :yy:
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Well, I guess this revelation explains a thing or two :rolleyes:

    Apparently you were wrong/picked the wrong guy

    You feel like you had your time wasted? Karma can be a ***** :console:

    Based on what? **** all. That’s just your fears/insecurities talking. Life goes on

    Yes. Here’s a good place to start. Good luck kid :yy:
    did you both have a romantic history? :curious: :gasp:
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    (Original post by yoda123)
    Sounds like you've got a severe case of Oneitis
    It will pass with time, just try focusing on yourself and meeting new people
    I'm trying to - only problem is, I don't have that many people in my life! I had a very small circle and I kind of alienated them while I was in my relationship as my ex had moved to a new city and had no one and so I felt like I had to give him all my time.

    (Original post by Apocrypha)
    Runescape relationships.. Oh man I had a fair few of those growing up, never actually met anyone off of runescape, played the game religiously up until about 2013 when I decided it was getting too unhealthy.

    What you need is to forget about love, forget forget forget, move on, and then it will come flying back at you in the future in a way you could never imagine, i've had what you had with girls, no way near the same time scale, but i've gone through the phases where I know im slowly losing them, it took me weeks to get over it, I had to watch a girl I loved fall for a rich guy who drove a range rover and spoilt her, I couldn't do anything about it he finessed her off my hands, I was a broke university student.

    As time passes you heal, I know when you think about it right now you wonder to yourself how the hell can i possibly get over this? Im crippled! But you get over it, everyone does eventually. You have to look at the person differently, you have to search for the reasons why that person wasnt good for you, you have to tell yourself you can do better than that. But the biggest thing is this, that person ended it you over email after years of talking to you. That person isn't a very nice person if they're doing something like that, thats not the sort of person you want to be with, tell yourself that, and trust me you'll get over it

    Edit: Check your inbox loserrrrr
    Runescape was the thing back then! I loved it so much.

    It's so hard to forget though, especially when we lived side by side for 2 years. He honestly slept in my flat every day or vice versa - we barely spent moments apart (unless I was at uni/he was at work) and we both went to Edinburgh alone and gave each other all our time so everything we did, we did together.. that includes things such as food shopping, going out, exploring etc. I honestly have no clue how I'm going to be able to live in Edinburgh and do all these things and just forget that I did it with them and was so happy during it all. I know it's the whole "time heals everything" but I can't live every single day crying every time I think about it. It sucks so much

    But like you've said, I'm talking to myself a lot, telling myself that he wasn't that good and he had many flaws and didn't treat me right a lot of the time. It isn't working as much as I'd like it to but I guess I'll get there.

    Hahaha I'll reply to it now ♥︎

    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Well, I guess this revelation explains a thing or two :rolleyes:
    It happens to the best of us!

    Apparently you were wrong/picked the wrong guy
    I think so too. I'm seriously regretting it all.

    You feel like you had your time wasted? Karma can be a ***** :console:
    Why am I deserving of karma? If that's what you mean..?

    Based on what? **** all. That’s just your fears/insecurities talking. Life goes on
    Based on the fact that I've loved him for 7 years, from such a young age. He was my first everything (first love, first kiss, loss of v card) and any boy who hit on me up until I met him, I couldn't show any affection towards and all I did was compare them to him and they all seemed so flawed in comparison.

    Yes. Here’s a good place to start. Good luck kid :yy:
    I'll have a read of the thread, thank you

    (Original post by queen-bee)
    did you both have a romantic history? :curious: :gasp:
    I think he's either referring to the fact that I was always on TSR and then suddenly stopped, or the fact that he used to be extremely flirtatious and I would join in.

    Btw, I love how your signature is Arabic/English - 'life is beautiful/pretty' :love:
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    (Original post by euphrosyne)
    I'm trying to - only problem is, I don't have that many people in my life! I had a very small circle and I kind of alienated them while I was in my relationship as my ex had moved to a new city and had no one and so I felt like I had to give him all my time.



    Runescape was the thing back then! I loved it so much.

    It's so hard to forget though, especially when we lived side by side for 2 years. He honestly slept in my flat every day or vice versa - we barely spent moments apart (unless I was at uni/he was at work) and we both went to Edinburgh alone and gave each other all our time so everything we did, we did together.. that includes things such as food shopping, going out, exploring etc. I honestly have no clue how I'm going to be able to live in Edinburgh and do all these things and just forget that I did it with them and was so happy during it all. I know it's the whole "time heals everything" but I can't live every single day crying every time I think about it. It sucks so much

    But like you've said, I'm talking to myself a lot, telling myself that he wasn't that good and he had many flaws and didn't treat me right a lot of the time. It isn't working as much as I'd like it to but I guess I'll get there.

    Hahaha I'll reply to it now ♥︎



    It happens to the best of us!



    I think so too. I'm seriously regretting it all.



    Why am I deserving of karma? If that's what you mean..?



    Based on the fact that I've loved him for 7 years, from such a young age. He was my first everything (first love, first kiss, loss of v card) and any boy who hit on me up until I met him, I couldn't show any affection towards and all I did was compare them to him and they all seemed so flawed in comparison.



    I'll have a read of the thread, thank you



    I think he's either referring to the fact that I was always on TSR and then suddenly stopped, or the fact that he used to be extremely flirtatious and I would join on.

    Btw, I love how your signature is Arabic/English - 'life is beautiful/pretty' :love:
    ah I didn't realise it was heavily flirtatious messages sent back and forth.

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    Wow, Runescape... that certainly brings back some dreadful memories! When I was around 12 or 13 my 'gf' (who turned out to be a guy) stole my abyssal whip and disappeared. :lol:

    OP: it sounds like you've been holding on to this person for about 7 years, is that right? Are you still in the UK or did you move back to Dubai? Were your parents aware?
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    (Original post by euphrosyne)
    I had a very small circle and I kind of alienated them while I was in my relationship as my ex had moved to a new city and had no one and so I felt like I had to give him all my time
    You weren't to know how it would pan out but I really hope other young people are reading this - encountered this quite a lot over the years. Best to try always to maintain balance between passtimes/groups e.g. work, hobbies, friends, family, and love interests, where possible

    we barely spent moments apart
    Must have hit you hard, very difficult for those of us who have never been so close/dependent to relate to this but all we can tell you is that though it may seem impossible now, it is possible to move forward independently and to learn to love again

    I can't live every single day crying every time I think about it
    Let yourself mourn the loss, that’s healthy (the medicating, perhaps not so much?). Once you’ve got it all out of your system and are too exhausted/have no more tears to shed, you will feel empty for a while, then you’ll begin your bounce back. Trust me (never been dumped but have suffered deep sense of loss of a loved one)

    I'm talking to myself a lot, telling myself that he wasn't that good and he had many flaws and didn't treat me right a lot of the time. It isn't working as much as I'd like it to but I guess I'll get there
    I’d finish grieving, and focus on being kind to/taking care of yourself before you start to self-coach

    It happens to the best of us!
    Yes and no. There are ways of handling things that communicate value/respect, not to mention candour :indiff:

    I'm seriously regretting it all
    This is our natural, animalistic, reaction. In time you’ll move on from those regrets, take the positives, and be grateful for the closeness you shared together. Those kinds of connections are a real rarity, and though the relationship(s) may not last, they will live with you forever, and you will grow out of them

    Why am I deserving of karma? If that's what you mean
    Re-read the passage, for a clue

    He was my first everything
    'The first cut is the deepest' often rings true re: high quality/enduring first relationships, NGL, but this does not negate the prospect of future romantic relationships coming close, or even surpassing prior experiences in certain respects. If nothing else, our early relationships teach us much about who we are, what we want/need, and how to behave interpersonally so as to please all involved. I know it’s a little crass but it really is a valuable learning experience and actually increases the odds of finding someone who is right for you and being able to form more sustainable/mutually rewarding relations with that person. Course, this is loose empirically based, rather than your case specifically, but try to stay open to the possibility, going forward, when you’re ready to make new connections

    I couldn't show any affection towards and all I did was compare them to him and they all seemed so flawed in comparison
    Well, that won’t always be the case, particularly given what you’ve told us about the way he’s ended up behaving and the flaws you’ve become more mindful of retrospectively

    I'll have a read of the thread, thank you
    No need to read the thread, just that post in particular :yy:
 
 
 
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