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Original post by unprinted
Yep, everyone has a past. Some begin the job of sweetening it by lying to their friends: 'Oh, no I don't have sex with them... they just give me the money for my dazzling personality.'


And so what if they have sex with them? As long as its consensual what on earth is your problem?

I hate to break it to you but you can get paid to show up and ask questions if you're an escort/sugar baby. You should read up on sugar babies and escorts before making sarcastic remarks in a desperate attempt to look tough.
Original post by Gogregg
You can be a sugar baby who doesn't have sex with the sugar daddy.


You can, but you are unlikely to get any clients.

As I said, sugar baby =/= prostitute.


And as I said, in the vast majority of cases it is simply a euphemism for prostitute, just as 'escort' is.

Denying that is either misleading people into thinking there is a queue waiting to give them money in exchange for going 'Oh I know...' / 'Ha-ha, very funny' a lot, or helping con people who are having sugar sex into thinking that it's not sex work they're actually doing.
Original post by MrsSheldonCooper
And so what if they have sex with them? As long as its consensual what on earth is your problem?


A variety of things means I don't have any problem with people choosing to be paid to have sex.

I do have a problem with people who want to be paid being ripped off by the predators who are out there looking for fresh victims, and the way to help minimise that is by helping them be clear about what it is that they are doing, whether they're calling it 'sugar babying', 'escorting', 'prostitution', or anything else.

I hate to break it to you but you can get paid to show up and ask questions if you're an escort/sugar baby.


I haven't said that it never happens. But it's very rare. (If you want to be paid to show up and ask questions, get into market research...) The prejudice against sex work means that people doing sex work to denying it to their friends is much more common.

You should read up on sugar babies and escorts before making sarcastic remarks in a desperate attempt to look tough.


I'll just say that when I was asked to give expert evidence in a court case involving an escort a couple of years ago, I had endorsements from a rather large set of sex work projects and academics in the field saying I knew what I was talking about.
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Original post by Radmanistan
The only people who are actually against it are unattractive men afraid they will never get girls and ugly old shrews who are jealous, it's a perfectly reasonable lifestyle choice.


Now, forgive me if I misunderstand, but I thought most of the 'sugar-daddies' were 'old ugly shrews' who were minted and had to (in effect) pay for it. So surely the guys who'd be close minded to it are the working classes who actually get girls from their looks not their money or worse working class men who aren't particularly attractive nor unattractive so the girls look over them as they don't quite have the body, but they have no money either. Either way you look at it I stand no chance of ever getting a girl.. even a sugar baby :frown: So sad.:frown: I so sad:frown:
I really dislike the concept of it; But each to their own and people should do what makes them happy.
Original post by unprinted
You can, but you are unlikely to get any clients.



And as I said, in the vast majority of cases it is simply a euphemism for prostitute, just as 'escort' is.

Denying that is either misleading people into thinking there is a queue waiting to give them money in exchange for going 'Oh I know...' / 'Ha-ha, very funny' a lot, or helping con people who are having sugar sex into thinking that it's not sex work they're actually doing.


How many marriages are basically long-term prostitution? We shouldn't blame women for choosing to get into these kinds of relationships when the whole society is geared towards rewarding men highly in preference to women and whilst there is still a very difficult labour market for women, with well paid jobs hard to access in many areas.
Reply 126
Can you pm me how you got into it? xI wanna become one x
Where did you find a SD in oxford? I feel like there aren't many around the Oxfordshire, berkshire area..Also, how you keep anonymity?
Original post by Lulu24
Where did you find a SD in oxford? I feel like there aren't many around the Oxfordshire, berkshire area..Also, how you keep anonymity?

Take it you're no longer a Muslim?
I’ve had a few experiences in the past. These days is getting more difficult to find a legit SD though. The important thing is: don’t let them exploit you and ask for an adequate allowance. If they say “I don’t want this to feel transactional, I’ll help you every now and then” don’t fall in the trap! They’ll get what they want from you and then disappear once you start to ask for something more substantial than a t-shirt from H&M. One trick that I use: I say my previous daddy (or my best mate’s SD) used to give me xx, I expect something similar. If he doesn’t like to handle cash you can set up a Bitcoin wallet and get paid in Bitcoins or ask him to buy you a small box of choc or a nice Card and hide the money inside so it doesn’t feel “transactional” (spoiler: most of the times it’s just an excuse for not paying!!)
Again: say your previous daddy used to do like this so you expect the same