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    Hi, my dad broke off his marriage to my mom after 20 years and the divorce was messy. He cheated on my mom and my mom, sister and I were upset about him just walking out of the family. He cheated on my mom with his now girlfriend (15 years younger, 35) and told me he wanted to marry her. I know he will have another child with the girlfriend but i've never met her nor do I want to. I feel upset that he wants to do this just 2 months after finalizing the divorce with my mom. My mom does not know this but my sister and I do.

    What are your thoughts on this situation?
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    I am sorry that no one has responded and I am really sorry your family is having to go through this
    horrible situation. Sadly, I can't give you advice. Parents are human and make mistakes. If he marries his girlfriend you are going to have to decide what kind of relationship you want to have with him moving forward. No matter what though you are caught up in a sad and hurtful situation and you are going to, understandably, protect your mom and the 'original' family. If possible I think you should seek professional counseling and encourage your mom to do the same. She has been wronged and hurt and having to navigate a whole new life. I don't know how old you are but I imagine you are old enough to decide what works best for you as far as going to your father and spending time with him and his 'friend'. Nobody here can advise you other than to say your situation is sad and unfortunate but I also imagine others on here have dealt with this issue. Family's handle it differently with children eventually accepting the new marriage of their parent (even it that person entered before the parents divorce - cheating) and build good relationships and then there are kids who never speak to the parent again. You have to do what your heart tells you and no matter what you choose it will be a hard decision for you..... but it will be the right decision for you. Again, if possible seek
    counseling. Wishing you the best and hoping for peace for you. Good Luck.
 
 
 
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