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WIll my mental health improve if I find an accepting bunch of mates and success? Watch

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    Diagnosed with severe enduring mental ill health.

    But I've been unloved and unsuccessful for 12 years and this must have an impact right?
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    I honestly believe that if you want your mental health to improve, you have to love and accept yourself for who YOU ARE first, before seeking validation from others.
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    Other people can help, but you have to be your biggest helper. Learn how to be comfortable with yourself and your mental health should improve. Accepting friends can also help. Success, not necessarily. Success isn't the same thing.
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    A support network helps but self esteem definitely comes from within.

    I recommend counselling. This in turn can make it easier to get out there and meet people.

    Wishing you well.
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    My answer to you is yes to both: your mental health will most likely improve if you a) succeed b) find an accepting bunch of colleagues. In fact, one complements the other. When you are winning people love hanging out with you and you feel confident and stable enough to be adventurous and social. I know people with a difficult history of mental illness who are winners today, and they are winning big.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vvr8AjT0aD0

    "May you be favored with the future of your choice; may you live to see a thousand reasons to rejoice!"
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    Try some form of therapy. Success is great, but it doesn't help if you don't love yourself first.
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    You aren't going to find people who accept you completely. You need to find confidence and belief in your own. Don't put your happiness in other people. Take your medication, find interests you enjoy, and work towards success. People will come and go. Trust me on this.
 
 
 
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