Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free

How can I stop being so incredibly judgemental of people? Watch

    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    I'm so judgemental. To an almost sociopathic level. I have this constant critic inside my scathing about others. For example my friend was telling me about someone she knows who just got cheated on - outwardly I said how terrible that was etc - later I stalked her and thought "not surprised her boyfriend left her she looks incredibly dull".*

    I take actual joy in seeing people's wedding photos and scrutinising every detail of their weddings.

    If someone is fat I judge them. If someone has a kid and then their relationship breaks down - I find joy in this.*

    If someone posts a soppy status I judge them.
    *
    Basically if anyone I know makes some sort of bad decision I judge them.

    I am incredibly socially avoidant. I scrutinise my own behaviour just as badly. I never want to end up on the receiving end of someone judging me. So I never do stupid stuff like put myself out there for others to make judgements and laugh about me.

    It's making me so down. I can't be happy for anyone. It's making me hate people.*
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm so judgemental. To an almost sociopathic level. I have this constant critic inside my scathing about others. For example my friend was telling me about someone she knows who just got cheated on - outwardly I said how terrible that was etc - later I stalked her and thought "not surprised her boyfriend left her she looks incredibly dull".*

    I take actual joy in seeing people's wedding photos and scrutinising every detail of their weddings.

    If someone is fat I judge them. If someone has a kid and then their relationship breaks down - I find joy in this.*

    If someone posts a soppy status I judge them.
    *
    Basically if anyone I know makes some sort of bad decision I judge them.

    I am incredibly socially avoidant. I scrutinise my own behaviour just as badly. I never want to end up on the receiving end of someone judging me. So I never do stupid stuff like put myself out there for others to make judgements and laugh about me.

    It's making me so down. I can't be happy for anyone. It's making me hate people.*
    just to clarify, first example I FACEBOOK stalked her I'm not an actual stalker lol
    Offline

    9
    ReputationRep:
    It just sounds like you're unhappy with yourself/your own life to be honest.
    Offline

    11
    ReputationRep:
    You sound like a bit of a prick tbh.
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by JoshC98)
    You sound like a bit of a prick tbh.
    I know! I don't want to be! I want to just be happy for people and ignore everything else. I never share these thoughts so nobody has any idea I'm such a *****
    • #2
    #2

    No one is perfect, so when you are about to judge someone next time , just ask `is this really necessary ?' no one can live up to everyone's expectation, so it is not hard to find a flaw. But after all, you shouldn't worry too much about other people's opinion, just calm down and take it easy.
    • #3
    #3

    Were your own parents very critical of you during childhood by any chance? I suggest therapy, if you have the money
 
 
 
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • Poll
    Have you ever participated in a Secret Santa?
    Useful resources
    Bizarre things students have spent their loans onThings you should budget for at uni

    Sponsored features:

    Making money from your own website

    Need some cash?

    How to make money running your own website.

    Bianca Miller, runner-up on The Apprentice

    Handle your digital footprint

    What would an employer find out about you on Google? Find out how to take control.

    Groups associated with this forum:

    View associated groups
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

    Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

    Quick reply
    Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.