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    I think I may be Asexual.

    Can people write down checklists of things that would make them think someone was Asexual so I can see what ones I identify with, etc.

    Thanks.
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    1. No desire to be sexual with anyone...

    I'm not sure there is a #2, but I would be amazed if a few seconds of internet browsing didn't come up with a longer list.
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    1. No desire to be sexual with anyone...
    Yes, that's me.
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    As with any other sexual orientation, it's a mix of - amongst other things - attraction, identity and behaviour / 'thought and word and deed'.

    Here, you're not attracted to anyone and you're presumably not being sexual with anyone. Whether or not you adopt the identity is up to you.
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    As with any other sexual orientation, it's a mix of - amongst other things - attraction, identity and behaviour / 'thought and word and deed'.

    Here, you're not attracted to anyone and you're presumably not being sexual with anyone. Whether or not you adopt the identity is up to you.
    Well, I'm attracted to girls I just don't necesarily want to have sex with them.
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    There's a difference between not wanting to be sexual with anyone and not wanting to be sexual with everyone.

    In what circumstances would you want to?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I think I may be Asexual.

    Can people write down checklists of things that would make them think someone was Asexual so I can see what ones I identify with, etc.

    Thanks.
    Asexuality is when there is a lack of feeling any kind of sexual attraction towards another person (i.e. wanting to have sex with them)
    An aromantic person is someone who lacks romantic attraction to any gender (i.e. wanting to date them)

    There is no real checklist, those are the only 'requirements'.

    An asexual person can: masturbate, have and enjoy sex, imagine having sex but not acting on it, literally anything except feeling sexual attraction towards a person.

    You can also be on the asexual spectrum and not be fully ace. I.e. rarely feeling sexual attaction but its not never (grey-asexual), only feeling sexual attraction with people you have a close bond with already (demi-sexual)
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    These labels can be controversial as there are people who will say things like 'you're just making up words', however it can be helpful to those on the spectrum who aren't sure about their sexuality to use these terms whilst they figure it out or even as a long term explanation because sometimes they are much more accurate.

    Check out this website for more general information. It's all down to personal feelings and choice, but remember you don't necessarily have to label yourself. It's fine to just exist as you are.
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    If you don't want to have any sexual relations with anyone, then that surely makes you Asexual? I guess there's no more to add to that...

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    Well, I don't masturbate, have and enjoy sex nor imagine having sex.

    I say I'll remain celebate until the right person comes along but even then I'd only have sex not because I want to but if they wanted to.

    I don't think I'm aromantic because I am attracted to girls and would want to go out with them, I'm just not sexually attracted to anyone.
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    Personally, if I felt like that, I'd classify myself as asexual.

    Having someone be sexual with you only because you want to, rather than them wanting to, is not the most sexy feeling in the world. You'll need to be clear about your feelings with anyone you do get involved with.
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    Having someone be sexual with you only because you want to, rather than them wanting to, is not the most sexy feeling in the world. You'll need to be clear about your feelings with anyone you do get involved with.
    You mean only because they want to, rather than me wanting to? I said I wouldn't necesarily want sex with them but I'd have it only if they wanted to.
 
 
 
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