Positive motivation for weight loss

but thats what i wanna become

For me when I start cutting from December 1st 2016 onwards, I have a set goal date I.e to look at my leanest for a fitness expo (body power UK May 2017) and just want to bring a better physique than this year summer. Obviously, everyone has different goals but if you set yourself a goal perhaps to either
to be x weight or look/feel physically/mentally better.

The thing you have to remember throughout your journey is this...
"slow progress is better than no progress".
As long as you don't quit/stop ... you'll get what you want. ^

Are you still overweight or simply looking to shift the pounds for vanity reasons now? If you're not overweight you probably don't have many calories to eat every day. I personally find it really difficult to eat at a calorie defecit after a few months. If you don't need to lose weight for your health any more, why don't you bump your calories up to maintenance for a month or two and focus more on gaining strength then come back to dieting after a few months off, while still doing positive things for your body?

How long did it take kvothe?

Are you at target or how far from it?

How far to go?

How much and what sort of exercise are you doing?

Think youi both missed the point he is making, but as he hasnt bothered to come back then will leave him to explain it.

I've lost around 30 kg and for the majority of it, I was motivated by disgust.

I hated how I looked in the mirror and felt people judged me (due to anxiety) and just wanted to get to a smaller size. But now my self-esteem has improved and I no longer am that bothered by what other people think. This is good from a MH perspective but it means from a weight loss perspective, I've lost my main motivation.

I don't like what I see in the mirror, but I'm also strangely comfortable. Telling myself "eat less you fat ****" doesn't have quite the same effect or appeal.

Does anyone have any advice on finding a positive basis for further weightloss ? I still have away to go but my loss has gone to a snail's pace :/

As @Hype en Ecosse has said there is literally no other way to explain it or do it.

Calories in vs calories out. It's simple maths.

You may have made changes and I'm sure they're great, but evidently they've not been enough. If you're not at a calorie deficit (eat less than your TDEE) for a long period of time you simply won't reach your goals. It's that simple.

This is definitely it and I won't argue that but the process of weight loss itself is more complex in my opinion.

First and for most you really have to tackle with the inner demons that cause weight gain in the first place (emotional eating/ Binge Eating disorder etc) , then I believe to have to get rid of the "all or nothing" approach to weight loss (this is where I think most people fail) because everyone has good days and bad days with food, you just have to try and get in more good days than bad.

There also needs to be a set routine and structure to your life rather than just calorie counting anything on mfp. For example, it's probably more beneficial to repeat the same meals because you know the exact calorie count rather than experimenting too much with food and over complicating everything and end up messing up and then giving up.

I think it's mindset that is what is the biggest struggle when it comes to losing weight.

Are you using MFP?

Imo you could take a break fro a few weeks.

What I would be doing besides sticking to the calorie control, would be to adapt the exercise.

Get faster and stronger and that should be giving you motivation that you are getting in better shape. It just gives you an alternate set of targets where you cna make progress. It will also speed up the weight loss. It will also help with depression. Do 3 weight sessions and then add in some cardio.

I get what you mean as now you feel you have done most of it, but this is why you need to focus on the different phase to push yourself to target.

Tell me about it! I hear stories of people getting addicted to exercising and eating healthy, which I was for a period when I lost around 50kg. But now im in the same position as you, not so bad at the moment, much better than before but still some pounds need shifting but motivation is very low.

First and for most you really have to tackle with the inner demons that catilsuse weight gain in the first place (jemotional eating/ Binge Eating disorder etc) , then I believe to have to get rid of the "all or nothing" approach to weight loss (this is where I think most people fail) because everyone has good days and bad days with food, you just have to try and get in more good days than bad.

I was mostly just arguing against the argument Fatima had made that she did all that and yet it didn't work, because if she had eaten at a deficit for a long period of time she would have lost weight. Unless of course there is something medically wrong with her, in which case she should go to the doctors.

I agree with this 100%. At the beginning of my journey I'd start to eat healthily and cave after a couple days. Once my diet plan was ruined, it was easy to think "ugh, I clearly can't do this" and delay trying again till the following Monday. And then begin and fail again. Once I realized it wasn't the worst thing in the world if I had a bad day, it was easy to get back on track that day or the following day and eventually it became the case that eating a pack of croissants and then drinking 12 bowls of frosted flaked disgusted me.

I completely agree with everything you said. Weight loss in terms of logistics is incredibly simple, but actually doing what you have to to get there, emotionally and psychologically can be very hard depending on the person. And I agree with all the points you made.

I was mostly just arguing against the argument Fatima had made that she did all that and yet it didn't work, because if she had eaten at a deficit for a long period of time she would have lost weight. Unless of course there is something medically wrong with her, in which case she should go to the doctors.

This is definitely it and I won't argue that but the process of weight loss itself is more complex in my opinion.

First and for most you really have to tackle with the inner demons that cause weight gain in the first place (emotional eating/ Binge Eating disorder etc) , then I believe to have to get rid of the "all or nothing" approach to weight loss (this is where I think most people fail) because everyone has good days and bad days with food, you just have to try and get in more good days than bad.

There also needs to be a set routine and structure to your life rather than just calorie counting anything on mfp. For example, it's probably more beneficial to repeat the same meals because you know the exact calorie count rather than experimenting too much with food and over complicating everything and end up messing up and then giving up.

I think it's mindset that is what is the biggest struggle when it comes to losing weight.