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    This might seem odd to some people, but it's been my life since I was a kid.

    I just graduated uni (lived in halls/student accom for 3 years) and can't afford my own place right now. So I'm back with the 'rents. They've been divorced since I was little and I've always split my time between their homes. They don't live next door, one lives in London, the other just past B'ham.

    I enjoy both homes for their different things and I enjoy both parent's company. However, at my age, it isn't the ideal situation and I will be happy to have my independence, not least because something weird happens everything I get back to one house after being at the other for a while - it feels like I'm a guest and starting all over again (e.g. feel rude just opening the fridge for a snack or getting a shower without checking no one needs the bathroom etc) and it takes me about 2 days to settle in.

    I also get to one and think "this is home" and then go to the other and think "this is home"....and then feel like I can't decide and the ultimately neither of them are my home - they're someone else's. I feel like a couch surfer sometimes. They insist that it's not like that at all (I have a room in each house) and insist it's my home at each and that I'm welcome.

    But I just feel like I have no place to call home and that I'm not grounded anywhere and basically live out of a suitcase.

    Has anyone else experienced this weird feeling? It's like I lose my mojo for a few days every time I switch houses - I get really out of sorts and life just doesn't feel stable and constant - it gives me anxiety and I can't sleep right. When I'm travelling between the two is the only time I feel stable (?!) because it's just me and a familiar route and familiar scenes - same train carriage, same platform, same views out of the window, same newspaper etc - and it feels right and I feel independent and in control for that time.

    So, any 'grown ups' living at home? Any people with divorced/separated parents living in different homes? All of my friends parents are married/together so I feel alone in this especially as a 22 yr old.
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    At least your dad talks to you :sigh:
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    At least your dad talks to you :sigh:
    Yeah that's one thing I'm really lucky with and cannot fault them for - they always put me before their problems and communicate openly with me. They're both pretty chill in that respect - I can chat with them about almost anything. It's definitely not their fault I feel like this since they do everything they can to make me feel welcome.

    Are your parents divorced? How come your Dad isn't speaking to you?
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    Yeah that's one thing I'm really lucky with and cannot fault them for - they always put me before their problems and communicate openly with me. They're both pretty chill in that respect - I can chat with them about almost anything. It's definitely not their fault I feel like this since they do everything they can to make me feel welcome.

    Are your parents divorced? How come your Dad isn't speaking to you?
    dunno where he is
 
 
 
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