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just a bit of background, my boyfriend and i have been together for half a year and we live 2 hours apart, we see each other about every 2 weeks. he has just turned 22 and i am about to turn 18. we have a really great and trusting relationship in general. I'm just confused about something. on instagram, in his recent searches he has looked up girls that live in his city so I'm guessing he knows them. i've seen that he has searched for girls before but i just let it slide. one of the girls he looked up posted a provocative photo of her and he liked it, and he also liked another picture of hers from april. he also looked this same girl up on Facebook. he never likes other girls pictures like this and I'm just really confused, it is normal for your boyfriend to look up other girls and look at their pictures? it's normal to check out girls yeah, but i don't get why he looks them up. also, just a disclaimer, i don't 'snoop' on his phone, we both allow each other to use one anothers phone whenever because we have nothing to hide, i saw this on instagram and Facebook because his friend had posted a group picture of us and we wanted to see it and his phone was closest to us so don't worry I'm not like that. thanks, any advice/help would be greatly appreciated. x
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Anonymous #2
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Maybe he has a crush on them
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Maybe he does , not that sure really
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Maybe he has a crush on them
most of the girls he looks up post sexy pictures, so maybe he's just being a typical boy and wants to look?
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Why does he look up girls that live in his city, unless he knows them

Look up monkey branching

Sounds like he will cheat on u. No its not normal from a decent guy. Looking maybe. Adding girls on social media bad
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Guys like seeing sexy girls. Sorry.
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Guys like seeing sexy girls. Sorry.
^ it's true. He also sounds really weirdly desperate looking up the same girl on multiple social media sites.
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^ it's true. He also sounds really weirdly desperate looking up the same girl on multiple social media sites.
Looking up naked girls in porn, glamour mags = normal

Girls in his city and adding on FB seems like he is looking to cheat. OP sounds naive no offence OP

If it was just people he met. Why doesnt he look up guys too
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Looking up naked girls in porn, glamour mags = normal

Girls in his city and adding on FB seems like he is looking to cheat. OP sounds naive no offence OP

If it was just people he met. Why doesnt he look up guys too
I agree 100%. Honestly, trust your gut.From someone older and (hopefully) wiser, if you feel suspicious you most likely have reason to be.

I presume this is your first relationship?
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Looking up naked girls in porn, glamour mags = normal

Girls in his city and adding on FB seems like he is looking to cheat. OP sounds naive no offence OP

If it was just people he met. Why doesnt he look up guys too
no he would never cheat, trust me he is not like that. he does look up guys too, like his friends. he never added any girls, i didn't say that, he simply just looks.
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no he would never cheat, trust me he is not like that. he does look up guys too, like his friends. he never added any girls, i didn't say that, he simply just looks.
You said he looked her up on FB tho, and also only girls from his city. If he just wanted hot girls, celebrities are way hotter than your average girl sorry.

Are you sure he's not messaging them or texting. Sounds to me, like he is unsatisfied with something about your LDR and sniffing around closer to home. I would talk to him about it

#justsayin
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Girls in his city and adding on FB seems like he is looking to cheat. OP sounds naive no offence OP

If it was just people he met. Why doesnt he look up guys too
Either this was written by a girl or a guy doing a liberal arts degree.Or it's bait (given your username)

What he's doing is normal. He's not looking up guys because if you're straight, searching for guys on instagram isn't visually appealing. It's entirely possible to occasionally look at other girls you know yet have no intention of cheating.

That being said, if he's also messaging then draw the line there. But there's nothing wrong with instagram browsing/stalking
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Either this was written by a girl or a guy doing a liberal arts degree.Or it's bait (given your username)

What he's doing is normal. He's not looking up guys because if you're straight, searching for guys on instagram isn't visually appealing. It's entirely possible to occasionally look at other girls you know yet have no intention of cheating.

That being said, if he's also messaging then draw the line there. But there's nothing wrong with instagram browsing.
It's weird that he's looking up girls in the area. Everyone jacks off to Lisa ann marie and ****.

OP hasn't said if he's messaging or not.

You sound like a guy doing a liberal arts degree. If you'd be happy with your gf doing this with other guys, you're a cuck.
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You said he looked her up on FB tho, and also only girls from his city. If he just wanted hot girls, celebrities are way hotter than your average girl sorry.

Are you sure he's not messaging them or texting. Sounds to me, like he is unsatisfied with something about your LDR and sniffing around closer to home. I would talk to him about it

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yeah but he doesnt add her. trust me, these girls could be models and actually most of them have boyfriends. some of them are just people he is friends with and goes to uni with. he is definitely not messaging them, we spend like 4 days together each time and he never gets texts from girls and I've never seen any from girls on his phone either, he hardly has girls on snap chat. i just guess he's looking them up to look at because even i admit that they are very attractive. i wouldn't jump to the conclusion that it means he's a cheater, because i know for a fact he is not that kind of guy. i just wanted to know if its a normal thing to do.
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just a bit of background, my boyfriend and i have been together for half a year and we live 2 hours apart, we see each other about every 2 weeks. he has just turned 22 and i am about to turn 18. we have a really great and trusting relationship in general. I'm just confused about something. on instagram, in his recent searches he has looked up girls that live in his city so I'm guessing he knows them. i've seen that he has searched for girls before but i just let it slide. one of the girls he looked up posted a provocative photo of her and he liked it, and he also liked another picture of hers from april. he also looked this same girl up on Facebook. he never likes other girls pictures like this and I'm just really confused, it is normal for your boyfriend to look up other girls and look at their pictures? it's normal to check out girls yeah, but i don't get why he looks them up. also, just a disclaimer, i don't 'snoop' on his phone, we both allow each other to use one anothers phone whenever because we have nothing to hide, i saw this on instagram and Facebook because his friend had posted a group picture of us and we wanted to see it and his phone was closest to us so don't worry I'm not like that. thanks, any advice/help would be greatly appreciated. x
If this isn't ringing alarm bells i don't know what will, not exactly a trusting relationship if he does that behind your back ...
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yeah but he doesnt add her. trust me, these girls could be models and actually most of them have boyfriends. some of them are just people he is friends with and goes to uni with. he is definitely not messaging them, we spend like 4 days together each time and he never gets texts from girls and I've never seen any from girls on his phone either, he hardly has girls on snap chat. i just guess he's looking them up to look at because even i admit that they are very attractive. i wouldn't jump to the conclusion that it means he's a cheater, because i know for a fact he is not that kind of guy. i just wanted to know if its a normal thing to do.
Well talk to him if it makes you unhappy. :yep:
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(Original post by Lawliettt)
Either this was written by a girl or a guy doing a liberal arts degree.Or it's bait (given your username)

What he's doing is normal. He's not looking up guys because if you're straight, searching for guys on instagram isn't visually appealing. It's entirely possible to occasionally look at other girls you know yet have no intention of cheating.

That being said, if he's also messaging then draw the line there. But there's nothing wrong with instagram browsing/stalking
he doesn't message girls at all, he only has recent searches of some attractive girls. i know that if he ever did message a girl, it would never be anything more than a friendship type communication. so you do think it;s normal that he has looked up these girls? they all went on holiday together recently and posted some pretty raunchy pictures so...
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he doesn't message girls at all, he only has recent searches of some attractive girls. i know that if he ever did message a girl, it would never be anything more than a friendship type communication. so you do think it;s normal that he has looked up these girls? they all went on holiday together recently and posted some pretty raunchy pictures so...
oh i don't mean he went on holiday with them, i meant that this group of girls all went on holiday together so maybe he just wanted to see what they posted?
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If this isn't ringing alarm bells i don't know what will, not exactly a trusting relationship if he does that behind your back ...
what is wrong with him looking at attractive girls on the internet though? why is it such an issue?
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How do you know what his search history is, who he's messaging, etc?
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