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    So you think certain girls are out of your league?

    Why? Is it because you think they’re too “hot” for you? Too smart? Too sophisticated? Or do you just think you could never have a chance with a girl who looks*"that*"good?

    Believe it or not, I’m here to tell you otherwise. No girl is out of your league. If you’re a decent guy who treats women well, you should have more confidence than that.

    For a woman it’s flattering if any man approaches her. And as a direct dating coach, I’m telling you that most men don’t approach girls they find attractive .*In many cases, if a girl is interested in a guy they find attractive, they usually have to approach him. Why is this? I’ve*asked around and the answers astounded me.

    Most guys I know tell me that it’s actually because they’re intimidated (gasp!). Of a girl?! I ask. Why? They say that the number one reason they don’t approach a good-looking woman is because they think she’s out of their league. That’s ridiculous. And both of you can lose out that way. Here’s my point....

    You have a 50/50 shot of getting the girl’s number. But that’s only IF you ask for it.

    Most girls are open to giving a guy their number just because he had the balls to approach them and ask for it. A real man goes after what he wants, and women like that. And so do a lot of women I know.

    So get the idea out of your head that she’s too good for you when you haven’t even spoken to her yet. Maybe you’ll go up to her and discover she’s not good enough for you. Either way, finding out is better than wondering"what if."

    So put on your big boy boxers (or briefs) and go up to her already.

    If you find yourself attracted to a woman, and she glances at you, chances are she is attracted to you too and*"wants"*you to approach her.

    If you get a little smile, that’s a GREEN light!*How do men miss this signal?!*They flash it as obviously as they can. But most of the times, the guy stays put. And then they'rere left thinking he just*wasn’t*that interested.

    It all starts with ‘hello’ guys.
    Just one simple word. Hi.

    So if you’re feeling*froggy*then leap. Nothing’s better than when a girl sees a guy she's interested in and he aactually follows through with a greeting. It opens the door for communication. Even though things have changed when it comes to dating, thanks to technology (not), most women prefer the traditional route. They think if he's interested, he’ll try. So when you don’t, well, girls get the hint.

    What’s the worst that could happen?
    She gives you a fake number? Tells you she has a boyfriend? Politely declines your advance?

    Most “hot” girls are more down to earth than you think. And even more have insecurities of their own.

    So either way, your approach will be flattering and endearing. And it will make you ten times more of a man than the rest of them who don’t say anything at all.
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    Foo.mp3, is any of this serious or is it just something that works in movies and YouTube videos?
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    Move along Dickens.


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    (Original post by nk802)
    For a woman it’s flattering if any man approaches her.
    Really don't like this phrasing and what it insinuates. I think that if someone wants to take this advice they should first attempt to read the body language of the person they're approaching. Some women would rather be left alone and this can be seen clearly in their body language and the way they act. Don't just assume it's ok to approach a woman, it might be more terrifying than flattering depending on the woman.
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    This thread is aids. The league tables exists *rightly* for a reason. People who say this are generally in the championship or lower. Good looking people get with other good looking people, ugly people get with ugly people. It's not hard.
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    (Original post by Zayn is Bae)
    This thread is aids. The league tables exists *rightly* for a reason. People who say this are generally in the championship or lower. Good looking people get with other good looking people, ugly people get with ugly people. It's not hard.
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    (Original post by RickmanAlways)
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    Truth hurts does it?
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    (Original post by Zayn is Bae)
    Truth hurts does it?
    You? talking truth? Its the personality that counts not the looks i know plenty of unatractive people that are with pretty people.
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    (Original post by RickmanAlways)
    You? talking truth? Its the personality that counts not the looks I know plenty of unattractive people that are with pretty people.
    I have to agree with you on this
    I would call myself unattractive
    however I attract the most attractive women
    I have caused a lot of envy amongst other social groups I was in
    I don't even try
    i put my success down to talk, charisma and personality traits
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    (Original post by jamesthehustler)
    I have to agree with you on this
    I would call myself unattractive
    however I attract the most attractive women
    I have caused a lot of envy amongst other social groups I was in
    I don't even try
    i put my success down to talk, charisma and personality traits
    Thanks love your username 👍🏻
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    Its called a hustle sweetheart XD
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    How did you derive the 50/50 chance thing, my probability is rusty so this might be of use


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    (Original post by RickmanAlways)
    Thanks love your username 👍🏻
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    Its called a hustle sweetheart XD
    it is a hustle when you do it once but when the Mercedes is bought by the hustle as well as the other luxuries
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    This post is largely nonsense. I don't think leagues are firm things, attractiveness can be about appearance, personality and interaction and I never been intimidated, perhaps foolhardily, to try my luck with very attractive girls. To suggest approaching unknown girls with confidence, independent of their looks even, will result in a 50% success rate is highly unlikely. And there is no doubt either that very pretty girls are difficult to go out with, just because they have so much more choice.
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    (Original post by nk802)
    No girl is out of your league
    Provided you are at least average in a few key fundamental respects (e.g. health, wit, stature, and aesthetics)

    For a woman it’s flattering if any man approaches her
    your approach will be flattering and endearing
    Depends who approaches and how e.g. there's a world of difference between:

    Tall, handsome, well presented, athletic, open, with good posture and a nice smile, charismatic, playful, witty, and engaging

    Small, fat, ugly, unkempt, poor body language, awkward/nervous, boring, PUA type neg approach, sexist, or outright threatening

    guys I know tell me that it’s actually because they’re intimidated
    Yup. Completely understandable given the concept of leagues vs. approach anxiety and fear of rejection (particularly in social contexts where there's an element of reputational risk)

    You have a 50/50 shot of getting the girl’s number. But that’s only IF you ask for it
    1) That statistic only comes close to applying with average/above average males (as per above essentials) in cases where the girl is approachable (single, and willing to talk to a stranger)

    2) Even if the odds are 5:1 (more realistic), a 20% chance of getting a number, and a 10-15% chance of that resulting in a date with someone you find attractive vs. #ForeverAlone must surely be worth it!

    3) Rule #1: Never ask

    Most girls are open to giving a guy their number just because he had the balls to approach them and ask for it
    Yes, but not just any guy, with any old approach, of course. Most attractive girls are anything from a bit, to extremely, guarded about giving their number to anyone, and this is the digital age so they’re more inclined to exchange other contact details with people they don’t yet know/trust e.g. social media (soft sell)

    A real man goes after what he wants, and women like that
    Indeed so. Problem is, we live in an emasculated society (thanks feminism!) + urban culture/British values dictate that it is improper to talk to/hassle strangers. Ergo, the only people who tend to randomly say anything to attractive women are builders/sexist cat callers, entitled alpha douchebros, and generally rather peculiar/objectifying PUAs

    If you find yourself attracted to a woman, and she glances at you, chances are she is attracted to you too and*"wants"*you to approach her
    Horseshit, sorry. If she looks away and displays an IOI, or holds your gaze miling and/or apparently mesmerised, then the chances are she’s attracted to you to (may/may not want you to approach depending on her psyche + circumstances)

    What’s the worst that could happen?
    Their partner appears out of nowhere and clocks you on the head with a rusty pipe they picked up (speaking from experience)

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    Just kidding :camp:

    She gives you a fake number?
    Test it/back up and go for soft sell instead

    Tells you she has a boyfriend?
    Tell her "contrats", ignore it, and keep on vibeing

    Politely declines your advance?
    Don’t take it too personally (just enough to learn the lessons and build them into your personal development)

    Most “hot” girls are more down to earth than you think
    Meh, I dunno if 'down to earth' is how I’d describe them, but sure, they’re human, just like the rest of us

    even more have insecurities of their own
    Applies to all women
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    No. If you're not good looking and relatively well off, you're not getting any good pussy.
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    (Original post by foo.mp3)
    Tells you she has a boyfriend?
    Tell her "contrats", ignore it, and keep on vibeing
    What? Have I read that correctly? Are you seriously encouraging men to not back off if a woman says she has a boyfriend?
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    (Original post by RickmanAlways)
    You? talking truth? Its the personality that counts not the looks i know plenty of unatractive people that are with pretty people.
    Of course personality counts, but why would an attractive person choose someone who's not attractive with a good personality over someone who is equally attractive who also has a good personality? Nice anecdotal evidence vs swaths of evidence btw.
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    but humans are all ugly? I don't get how they can date each other in the first place ................................ ......................
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    I think he makes sense, personality matters a lot. I don't have a particular interest in looks as long as the girl is quite funny and the bants makes the atmosphere calm. *as long as she has good hygiene and pretty good dress sense then that's completely great*

    If the girl has a BF and politely declines that's not a problem, move on as there are plenty more fish in the sea. I find it quite pathetic that most people on here (males) are slating the OP saying that you need to have particular wealth and looks. They are things that are ADDED but you can't buy personality.

    Don't let the media dictate that you should back off from approaching a girl. That's a radicalist feminist attitude and it shows you are a weak beta who gets walked on like a mat by women. Don't be that please!!

    Use your initiative, to get good grades you need to put the work in - this logic applies to the pulling game. If one fails, move on - it's not the end of the world. She's human, like you so would understand.

    Never, ever make it like it's an impossible game, or you'll be stuck in the same position for a very, very long time.
 
 
 
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