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    Okay, basically before me and my boyfriend actually became official... in my eyes he was the perfect guy (because we were best friends before). He would never do anything to annoy me and I genuinely thought I'd marry this person. Even when we were just friends, we would have meals together and make a lot of effort to see me. However, since we've only been together for a month.. most of the time I've been crying a lot. To set the scene, it's currently summer which means we have a lot of free time, which I thought we would use up a lot, because we're both going to different universities in September (so we should be making the most of the time we've got). Btw we already talked about long distance before and both agreed we were willing to make it work. I had a conversation with him last week telling him I haven't been happy this was mainly because I only see him once a week (twice if lucky) and he's never bothered to come to my house or anything. Since being together we've only been on one date! and after that meal he literally messaged his best mate to hang.. which made me feel like ****. He just doesn't make me feel special and wanted, like he was perfectly fine with seeing me once a week??! and it's terrible when my friends are like awww I bet you guys can't keep your hands off each other.. cause it's literally the opposite. it's literally small things he does too like, he's never offered to pay for anything, once he ordered pizza and I had to walk to a cash point to pay him back. He never says good night.. just goes offline like I don't even mean anything. When I got upset about never hanging, nothing changed and he never offered to see me the next day even though he had free time. When I told him I cried.. it really affected him and he told me that he couldn't believe he made me more sad than happy. He said that morning after he was feeling "fed up" and still hasn't come clean to what he was "fed up" about which is annoying af. I just don't get it, I feel like he's pushing me away and I don't feel like he even wanted this relationship because it was me who asked him to be relationship, which I hated cause I literally dreamt of himasking me so I knew for sure. It's weird thought because now and again he tells me that he misses me and I just sit here like... why don't you see me then??! I've stopped arranging things to see if he actually makes an effort. I just feel so unwanted, especially when all my other friends get to see their boyfriend 4 times a week! like I would understand if I couldn't see him when we're at university because there's something physically stopping us but here... there's nothing. And the last time I tried to meet up with him, he literally sent back "I'll keep you posted" like ) okay sure, don't go out of your way to see your girlfriend.
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    Let me make you feel better. I dont have a boyfriend to make me not feel special.

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    (Original post by PrincessBO$$;[url="tel:66564704")
    66564704[/url]]Let me make you feel better. I dont have a boyfriend to make me not feel special.

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    tbh I feel more single than ever... and it's weird cause I'm not actually single
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    (Original post by PrincessBO$$)
    Let me make you feel better. I dont have a boyfriend to make me not feel special.

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    :kissing2:
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    Maybe get a new boyfriend.
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    I've been in two kinda similar situations. It just doesn't sound like it's working out. Maybe you should break it off before it gets worse. You shouldn't be in a relationship that makes you miserable, and not happy.
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    Paragraphs... was difficult to read as well.

    In short he isnt a good bf. he isnt that into you. You wnat different things . You worry about it too much.
    Imo it wont survive Uni.
    Start thinking about findining someone else at Uni.
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    awww :jumphug:
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    (Original post by hannsworld)
    tbh I feel more single than ever... and it's weird cause I'm not actually single
    I cant say i know how you feel cause i dont. I suggest you tell him how you feel. If he still is empty and cold with you then
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    (Original post by PrincessBO$$)
    I cant say i know how you feel cause i dont. I suggest you tell him how you feel. If he still is empty and cold with you then
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    hahaha thanks for the advice


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    to be honest it sounds like you've told him how you're feeling, perhaps you need to decide if you want a relationship on these terms? it's not abnormal for people to take it slow and not want to spend every moment together but perhaps you're not compatible on this?
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    Tell him as it is and give him an ultimatum. Either he makes more effort or this isn't going to work. A big part of a relationship is feeling desirable and if you are not getting that feeling then it is best to end it rather than force a relationship you ultimately aren't happy in.
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    (Original post by PrincessBO$$)
    Let me make you feel better. I dont have a boyfriend to make me not feel special.

    https://media.giphy.com/media/nG20qfsUdScxO/giphy.gif
    Same could be said for us guys that would love to have a girlfriend.
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    A lot of boys are pretty rubbish at being boyfriends at this age.

    It isn't personal.
    They just don't get it.

    They treat girls like their other mates.
    Which is cool if you're happy being just another mate.

    I would think about not doing the long term thing when you go to Uni.
    If it's meant to be you'll get back together later.
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    (Original post by hannsworld)
    Okay, basically before me and my boyfriend actually became official... in my eyes he was the perfect guy (because we were best friends before). He would never do anything to annoy me and I genuinely thought I'd marry this person. Even when we were just friends, we would have meals together and make a lot of effort to see me. However, since we've only been together for a month.. most of the time I've been crying a lot. To set the scene, it's currently summer which means we have a lot of free time, which I thought we would use up a lot, because we're both going to different universities in September (so we should be making the most of the time we've got). Btw we already talked about long distance before and both agreed we were willing to make it work. I had a conversation with him last week telling him I haven't been happy this was mainly because I only see him once a week (twice if lucky) and he's never bothered to come to my house or anything. Since being together we've only been on one date! and after that meal he literally messaged his best mate to hang.. which made me feel like ****. He just doesn't make me feel special and wanted, like he was perfectly fine with seeing me once a week??! and it's terrible when my friends are like awww I bet you guys can't keep your hands off each other.. cause it's literally the opposite. it's literally small things he does too like, he's never offered to pay for anything, once he ordered pizza and I had to walk to a cash point to pay him back. He never says good night.. just goes offline like I don't even mean anything. When I got upset about never hanging, nothing changed and he never offered to see me the next day even though he had free time. When I told him I cried.. it really affected him and he told me that he couldn't believe he made me more sad than happy. He said that morning after he was feeling "fed up" and still hasn't come clean to what he was "fed up" about which is annoying af. I just don't get it, I feel like he's pushing me away and I don't feel like he even wanted this relationship because it was me who asked him to be relationship, which I hated cause I literally dreamt of himasking me so I knew for sure. It's weird thought because now and again he tells me that he misses me and I just sit here like... why don't you see me then??! I've stopped arranging things to see if he actually makes an effort. I just feel so unwanted, especially when all my other friends get to see their boyfriend 4 times a week! like I would understand if I couldn't see him when we're at university because there's something physically stopping us but here... there's nothing. And the last time I tried to meet up with him, he literally sent back "I'll keep you posted" like ) okay sure, don't go out of your way to see your girlfriend.
    I usually dont say this, but if you guys have been dating for like only a month and he's already being lazy in the relationship, then you really should dump that zero and get yourself a hero
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    Dump him, search for someone better. Break up your text with some paragraphs.
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    Sounds like he is taking you for granted, I would confront him and tell him that he needs to treat you better.
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    (Original post by PrincessBO$$)
    awww :jumphug:

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    You are just his girlfriend - not his wife - don't expect that special treatment.
 
 
 
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