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    I have a close friend who is suicidal. We talk every day. We haven't met yet but we're going to soon. I'm really, really worried about her.

    She's planned how and when, and she says she genuinely intends to do it. I can't get her to open up to me about the details, I'm still trying. She won't tell me because she feels like she's being a burden and she doesn't want to worry me and she doesn't think it'll help. I've tried explaining to her that she'd do the same for me and I care about her etc. but it doesn't work. She doesn't want to see a doctor and was scared to open up to a hotline in case they put her in hospital.

    She feels like she has nothing left to live for. Her parents have said some really awful things to her. I've told her I'd miss her, but she thinks I wouldn't really.

    I've talked to suicidal people before but never someone this intent on doing it. I don't know what to do and I'm honestly scared. All I can do is listen and tell her what a good person she is and try to get her to open up but I don't think it's working.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    I have a close friend who is suicidal. We talk every day. We haven't met yet but we're going to soon. I'm really, really worried about her.

    She's planned how and when, and she says she genuinely intends to do it. I can't get her to open up to me about the details, I'm still trying. She won't tell me because she feels like she's being a burden and she doesn't want to worry me and she doesn't think it'll help. I've tried explaining to her that she'd do the same for me and I care about her etc. but it doesn't work. She doesn't want to see a doctor and was scared to open up to a hotline in case they put her in hospital.

    She feels like she has nothing left to live for. Her parents have said some really awful things to her. I've told her I'd miss her, but she thinks I wouldn't really.

    I've talked to suicidal people before but never someone this intent on doing it. I don't know what to do and I'm honestly scared. All I can do is listen and tell her what a good person she is and try to get her to open up but I don't think it's working.
    Unfortunately there is not too much you can do. If you know her name and address then you could contact her local social services emergency duty team, although, usually they will only assess after a request by family/ the official nearest relative.

    Maybe ask her if she would consider going to her GP or A&E? But try not to continually press it or force it down her throat. Otherwise just be there for her, listen and if she wants practical support then help her then. But you are doing a good job.


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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    I have a close friend who is suicidal. We talk every day. We haven't met yet but we're going to soon. I'm really, really worried about her.

    She's planned how and when, and she says she genuinely intends to do it. I can't get her to open up to me about the details, I'm still trying. She won't tell me because she feels like she's being a burden and she doesn't want to worry me and she doesn't think it'll help. I've tried explaining to her that she'd do the same for me and I care about her etc. but it doesn't work. She doesn't want to see a doctor and was scared to open up to a hotline in case they put her in hospital.

    She feels like she has nothing left to live for. Her parents have said some really awful things to her. I've told her I'd miss her, but she thinks I wouldn't really.

    I've talked to suicidal people before but never someone this intent on doing it. I don't know what to do and I'm honestly scared. All I can do is listen and tell her what a good person she is and try to get her to open up but I don't think it's working.
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    Unfortunately there is not too much you can do. If you know her name and address then you could contact her local social services emergency duty team, although, usually they will only assess after a request by family/ the official nearest relative.

    Maybe ask her if she would consider going to her GP or A&E? But try not to continually press it or force it down her throat. Otherwise just be there for her, listen and if she wants practical support then help her then. But you are doing a good job.


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    I think you can still contact the police if you have her tel number or even email - they should be able to track her IP address
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    (Original post by Ciel.)
    I think you can still contact the police if you have her tel number or even email - they should be able to track her IP address
    They may have changed their policy - I tried this a while back and they aren't able to do this.
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    (Original post by bullettheory)
    They may have changed their policy - I tried this a while back and they aren't able to do this.
    how annoying. looks like she can't be saved then, unless she actually wants to be
 
 
 
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