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    Id like to get partner now because i'd like to spend time with someone, not only for love but as friends as well. I want to go 10 years in time and have such memories...

    The thing is in my religion you're not allowed to date unless is for marriage... and if any member were to find out, I could face horrible consequences....How could I be discreet when dating? (If I'm able to get a partner)

    I know i might look stupid taking the risk, but I was brought like this and I'm trying to find out where I belong in this world and maybe this step could help realize if this what I really want or I actually agree with my beliefs...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Id like to get partner now because i'd like to spend time with someone, not only for love but as friends as well. I want to go 10 years in time and have such memories...

    The thing is in my religion you're not allowed to date unless is for marriage... and if any member were to find out, I could face horrible consequences....How could I be discreet when dating? (If I'm able to get a partner)

    I know i might look stupid taking the risk, but I was brought like this and I'm trying to find out where I belong in this world and maybe this step could help realize if this what I really want or I actually agree with my beliefs...
    Why do you want to be a liar / cheat? Just be a good muslim and wait for marriage. It wont be long.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Id like to get partner now because i'd like to spend time with someone, not only for love but as friends as well. I want to go 10 years in time and have such memories...

    The thing is in my religion you're not allowed to date unless is for marriage... and if any member were to find out, I could face horrible consequences....How could I be discreet when dating? (If I'm able to get a partner)

    I know i might look stupid taking the risk, but I was brought like this and I'm trying to find out where I belong in this world and maybe this step could help realize if this what I really want or I actually agree with my beliefs...
    is this religion by any chance Islam?
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    (Original post by PHD2027)
    is this religion by any chance Islam?
    what do you think?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Id like to get partner now because i'd like to spend time with someone, not only for love but as friends as well. I want to go 10 years in time and have such memories...

    The thing is in my religion you're not allowed to date unless is for marriage... and if any member were to find out, I could face horrible consequences....How could I be discreet when dating? (If I'm able to get a partner)

    I know i might look stupid taking the risk, but I was brought like this and I'm trying to find out where I belong in this world and maybe this step could help realize if this what I really want or I actually agree with my beliefs...
    go on tinder
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    (Original post by PrincessBO$$)
    what do you think?
    yes
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    Make it seem to everyone like it is just a friendship. I assume you're allowed to be friends with people? Keep the specifically dating aspect to private locations.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why do you want to be a liar / cheat? Just be a good muslim and wait for marriage. It wont be long.
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    Look I'm a Muslim, and I date.
    I've had a "girlfriend" for 4 months now, and I'm going to be honest, you can make it seem like she's your best friend.
    My "girlfriend" is also my best friend, and that's how we go about doing it, and honestly, we don't do anything that goes against Islam, we just hangout, and have loads of laughs together.
    Boyfriend and Girlfriend is basically just a social status in a way; if you're super close with a girl, she's practically your Best Girl Friend, if that makes sense? Haha
    Hope I could help
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    (Original post by theonecenter)
    Look I'm a Muslim, and I date.
    I've had a "girlfriend" for 4 months now, and I'm going to be honest, you can make it seem like she's your best friend.
    My "girlfriend" is also my best friend, and that's how we go about doing it, and honestly, we don't do anything that goes against Islam, we just hangout, and have loads of laughs together.
    Boyfriend and Girlfriend is basically just a social status in a way; if you're super close with a girl, she's practically your Best Girl Friend, if that makes sense? Haha
    Hope I could help
    What a lovely post! Expect a whole torrent of posts from the Muslims on here saying you'll go to hell and you should dump your gf immediately.
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    Drop your religion and live your life as you see fit instead of following millenia old scripture that hasn't moved with the times.

    I'd say that you'll find it much more rewarding, but each to the own.

    Either that, or just date. And if your parents don't like it, tell them to blow it out their respective arses. It's your life, not theirs.
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    (Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
    What a lovely post! Expect a whole torrent of posts from the Muslims on here saying you'll go to hell and you should dump your gf immediately.
    Thank you With all due respect, I've been called a terrorist also, and any Muslim knows that Allah said only He has the power to judge who goes to Heaven and Hell
    At the end of the day, I want to leave a legacy where I've met and helped people of all races and religions.
    Negativity doesn't have a place in my life, even though I seem to be surrounded in it
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    You don't need to drop your religion but you should take comfort in the fact that exploring and learning about yourself is a normal part of growing up.
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    (Original post by theonecenter)
    Thank you With all due respect, I've been called a terrorist also, and any Muslim knows that Allah said only He has the power to judge who goes to Heaven and Hell
    At the end of the day, I want to leave a legacy where I've met and helped people of all races and religions.
    Negativity doesn't have a place in my life, even though I seem to be surrounded in it
    It's sad that you have been called a terrorist. You seem like a lovely person.

    Ahhh yes but you would be surprised how judgemental and backward some members are.
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    (Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
    It's sad that you have been called a terrorist. You seem like a lovely person.

    Ahhh yes but you would be surprised how judgemental and backward some members are.
    I appreciate your kindness MrsSheldonCooper
    I have come across MANY judgemental human beings in my lifetime.
    Nevertheless, I'm not one to back down out of fear
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    Why do you want to be a liar / cheat? Just be a good muslim and wait for marriage. It wont be long.
    Im not muslim man im just a well brought up christian which is rare nowadays
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    (Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
    What a lovely post! Expect a whole torrent of posts from the Muslims on here saying you'll go to hell and you should dump your gf immediately.
    If a Muslim says to another Muslim or anyone that they will go to hell and are prideful about it, then they should really reflect on their behaviour. No Muslim is allowed to be so certain, only Allah/God can judge, as no body knows the future of others.
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    (Original post by h333)
    If a Muslim says to another Muslim or anyone that they will go to hell and are prideful about it, then they should really reflect on their behaviour. No Muslim is allowed to be so certain, only Allah/God can judge, as no body knows the future of others.
    You'd be surprised at the number of people who call themselves Muslims yet feel that they reserve the right to decree where someone shall go on Judgement Day
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    (Original post by theonecenter)
    You'd be surprised at the number of people who call themselves Muslims yet feel that they reserve the right to decree where someone shall go on Judgement Day
    I understand. No human being is perfect. Sometimes their ego and pride overtakes them unfortunately. We can only advise or deliver a message not start threatening them.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Im not muslim man im just a well brought up christian which is rare nowadays
    The awkward moment when everyone starts bringing up and debating Islam, when OP is Christian :lol:
 
 
 
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