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    I feel so confused. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and we've had some up and downs already. When I met him he was only six months out of a 7 year relationship and so I was hesitant, but he assured me he was ready to move on. The first months were great but then I started to feel like he wasn't letting me in and when I talked to him he admitted he had his guard up because his ex cheated on him. So I gave him time, and although he's let it down a bit I still don't feel part of his life. If you went to examine his flat and things the only evidence of me you would find is some photos on his phone. He has no pictures up of us, he never puts anything on fb (which isnt a big deal, but at least one picture would be nice). Sometimes it feels like everything I do he judges and criticises, like he's taking out his anger at her on me. I love him but I don't want to be in a relationship where I feel I can't do anything in case it upsets him. I've tried talking about it and he turns it around saying 'what do you want from me?'.

    Any constructive advice welcome please, TIA

    It doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all, you probably should allow him more time to heal

    You're his rebound, I'm afraid to say. People who exit out of long-term relationships and enter into a new one don't find the time to heal, and push all their problems onto the new person.
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