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    I started by moving to this city and region of the country for University 4 years ago. At first I found it new and exciting because I didn't know anyone here and could make a new life for myself.

    University was great. I made new friends. I got a good degree. And I decided to apply for jobs within the city I went to uni in and succeeded and now a year later I regret it. It's making me depressed. My friends and family are all 4 hours away and even things like the fact that the weather is cooler and wetter up here in general and the different regional accent hits me that I feel like I don't belong here, it doesn't feel like home and I don't want to stay here long term anymore.

    I can't visit home often because of work commitments and the fact my dad re married and my step siblings especially the youngest ones are loud unruly brats so I feel uncomfortable staying in my dad's new house although I am happy to rent my own place temporarily nearby. However the company I work for is quite good for job progression in that after a year's service to the company it is possible to move to other vacancies and they do have an office in my home region. So that is my plan to get out of here but in the meantime every day I have to spend here for roughly another year is depressing me. I have had many occasions where I've just felt generally sad and broken down crying like when a friend from home left after visiting for a few days. I'm planning to see a GP about depression and all of this on Wednesday*to see if I can get some help like therapy.

    Anyone have any advice?

    Sad 23 year old female*
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I started by moving to this city and region of the country for University 4 years ago. At first I found it new and exciting because I didn't know anyone here and could make a new life for myself.

    University was great. I made new friends. I got a good degree. And I decided to apply for jobs within the city I went to uni in and succeeded and now a year later I regret it. It's making me depressed. My friends and family are all 4 hours away and even things like the fact that the weather is cooler and wetter up here in general and the different regional accent hits me that I feel like I don't belong here, it doesn't feel like home and I don't want to stay here long term anymore.

    I can't visit home often because of work commitments and the fact my dad re married and my step siblings especially the youngest ones are loud unruly brats so I feel uncomfortable staying in my dad's new house although I am happy to rent my own place temporarily nearby. However the company I work for is quite good for job progression in that after a year's service to the company it is possible to move to other vacancies and they do have an office in my home region. So that is my plan to get out of here but in the meantime every day I have to spend here for roughly another year is depressing me. I have had many occasions where I've just felt generally sad and broken down crying like when a friend from home left after visiting for a few days. I'm planning to see a GP about depression and all of this on Wednesday*to see if I can get some help like therapy.

    Anyone have any advice?

    Sad 23 year old female*
    This sounds like a really tough decision. It sounds like it would be really good if you could stick it out another year there if the company you work for is the one you want to stay with, if it's affecting your mental (or physical) health though then that has to take priority. Is there any way you can meet people in the area you're in now? Try and get to know your colleagues better, or join a sports club or choir or something else you might be interested! Seeing your GP is a very good call though- hope they help and things improve for you soon
 
 
 
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