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    I have a really close friend that Ive been talking to for about 5 months now. We tell each other everything, we talk literally all day every day, and about a week ago she told me she loves me but wants to take things slow and isnt ready for a relationship yet.

    She was telling me a few days ago about a guy at work she gets along with really well, says they joke around and eat lunch together. It made me feel jealous, like im being replaced. Obviously im not and its not her fault at all but i have a strong feeling like she prefers him and that he'll take her away from me and she'll end up loving him.

    Irrational and everything but i dont know how to deal with this feeling.
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    Have a threesome.

    Should solve it.
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    power through, if yu are meant to be you will be
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    I personally know first hand what jealousy is like. I would say that you should sit down with her, tell her how you feel, although telling her that you are not saying she can't be friends with this guy. All you need is reassurance. You could always check this guy out a bit, maybe with a bit of Facebook stalking? In a friendly way.
    Good luck x
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a really close friend that Ive been talking to for about 5 months now. We tell each other everything, we talk literally all day every day, and about a week ago she told me she loves me but wants to take things slow and isnt ready for a relationship yet.

    She was telling me a few days ago about a guy at work she gets along with really well, says they joke around and eat lunch together. It made me feel jealous, like im being replaced. Obviously im not and its not her fault at all but i have a strong feeling like she prefers him and that he'll take her away from me and she'll end up loving him.

    Irrational and everything but i dont know how to deal with this feeling.
    I'd stay out of it.
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    It depends how much you trust her. If she doesn't seem so emotionally invested in your relationship then it's her decision.. but honestly this is every lovers paranoia. Everyone gets jealous and to some extent it's healthy, just try not to worry too much and talk to her about how you're feeling if it gets extreme. Good luck
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    Jealousy is a negative emotion, much like anxiety. Negative emotions should never be fueled, never pander to them for it only gives them strength and legitimacy in your mind, never change your behaviors for jealousy and never act upon jealousy. As you grow up your friends will meet people and they will spend more time with them than they do you, its just part of life. Remember though, it doesn't degrade what you have with your friend, its a different type of bond.
 
 
 
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