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    So I'm a 16 year old girl and I've just came out as lesbian (don't say it's just a phase because it feels right to me). There's this girl that I've known since 2013, and since then we have become really good friends and have met up a few times (she lives in Warwick which is like 2 hours away from me so I can't see her all the time) and just recently I've started to become really attracted to her and all I can think about is kissing her. It's the first time I've ever felt this way about someone but I'm scared to tell her how I feel because we have been best friends for 3 years now and if she doesn't feel the same then I don't want to lose her and I don't want it to affect our friendship and make it awkward! Help??:confused:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So I'm a 16 year old girl and I've just came out as lesbian (don't say it's just a phase because it feels right to me). There's this girl that I've known since 2013, and since then we have become really good friends and have met up a few times (she lives in Warwick which is like 2 hours away from me so I can't see her all the time) and just recently I've started to become really attracted to her and all I can think about is kissing her. It's the first time I've ever felt this way about someone but I'm scared to tell her how I feel because we have been best friends for 3 years now and if she doesn't feel the same then I don't want to lose her and I don't want it to affect our friendship and make it awkward! Help??:confused:
    Is she bi/lesbian?
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    Why don't you strike a conversation with her in general and start talking about people you find attractive, then perhaps slide into a convo about whether she would experiment with another girl. get conformation about whether she is bi/lesbian and then you can work forward.

    If she's straight then move on, it's not going to work no matter how much you want it to.
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    First wait a bit, if it's recent, it might just be a crush, it might pass and you don't want to go messing up a friendship over a crush.

    Is it worth the risk? You need to try to think objectively about what the odds of her being interested are and if the risk is worthwhile. It is a risk, it will make things awkward if she says no but then what if she says yes?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So I'm a 16 year old girl and I've just came out as lesbian (don't say it's just a phase because it feels right to me). There's this girl that I've known since 2013, and since then we have become really good friends and have met up a few times (she lives in Warwick which is like 2 hours away from me so I can't see her all the time) and just recently I've started to become really attracted to her and all I can think about is kissing her. It's the first time I've ever felt this way about someone but I'm scared to tell her how I feel because we have been best friends for 3 years now and if she doesn't feel the same then I don't want to lose her and I don't want it to affect our friendship and make it awkward! Help??:confused:
    the best thing you could do is talk it through with her, keeping it all to yourself could make things worse and stress you out even more. be confident but make sure you talk to her in person about it
 
 
 
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