Ive been flirting with a man who is decade plus older than me. He actually came at me 1st. I was never interested in him due to his bully ways & cocky attitude but he grew on me. He is very sexy & his appeal screams I'm a man. We discussed having sex. Came up with a date & everything but 3 times now he's bailed on me. Why is he teasing me? Does he really want to have sex or is he just gettung some kind of thrill off of me encouraging him to follow up? Its really annoying. He attempts to kiss me but wont, watches me at work & makes plans with me to get physical but nothing. Why is he being difficult?
Older men aren't like this, well not the ones I've encountered.
My guess is he's getting a thrill out of it, having a younger girl pine over him. I think you should stop talking or messaging him for a day or two and get his reaction, he'll probably start flooding you with messages when he's being ignored.
How old is he? You say older man but you could be 18 and he could be like 25. In my experience men don't really grow up until they're like 35.
I can only offer my view as a 32 year old guy but hope it helps. I am back in college and have been on a few dates with girls younger than me. I set the date and venue and so would never cancel unless something major came up. I would find it creepy and needy/desperate to discuss sex unless it came up during conversation naturally. I hate any kind of mind games and people who mess me about I have a three strike rule, I know things come up so three seems fair. I don't lead girls on for thrills, if I like them I ask them out, if there not interested then we stay friends(hopefully). A lot of guys are hopeless at reading signs of attraction, for example is she twirling her hair because she is A:nervous, B:bored or C: flirting, it can be a little confusing. So maybe he goes for the kiss but bottles because he is unsure, maybe his confidence is fake it to you make or maybe he is just a teaser looking to get a thrill out of the attention. My advice is just move on, it seems he wants the thrill of being pursued( which is nice to be desired) without actually acting like a man and taking direct action by setting a date.
Of course he bailed on you. If he's married and has children then he wouldn't risk doing stuff with you like what if his children find out?
You're both acting like teenagers. You either get together or you don't. No matter how unhappy both of you are, cheating is wrong.
I heard when their in their 50s they turn into little boys again like a mid life crisis they want to be young again