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    I know this is asked a lot but I still want to ask it....
    I am a first year undergrad going out uni this September. I am anxious about meeting people and fitting in with my flat mates etc


    How did everyone else fit in? Did you generally get on with your flat mates? Any issues? Advice?
    What are flat musts and flat must nots?

    How was socialising during the first few weeks? Freshers?

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    (Original post by AJMistry)
    I know this is asked a lot but I still want to ask it....
    I am a first year undergrad going out uni this September. I am anxious about meeting people and fitting in with my flat mates etc

    How did everyone else fit in? Did you generally get on with your flat mates? Any issues? Advice?
    What are flat musts and flat must nots?

    How was socialising during the first few weeks? Freshers?

    Thanks x
    Everyone is just as anxious about it, and if they say they aren't then they're lying! I had a couple of issues about using my stuff/food without asking, but we got over that quite quickly and had a great time overall

    Freshers is great, just focus on having a great time and enjoy yourself before you begin the studying! Freshers definitely helps with creating friendships as it seems to happen quite fast - but don't worry, you will have chances to make more friends when your course begins - especially during seminars when it's a bit more personal
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    (Original post by AJMistry)
    I know this is asked a lot but I still want to ask it....
    I am a first year undergrad going out uni this September. I am anxious about meeting people and fitting in with my flat mates etc


    How did everyone else fit in? Did you generally get on with your flat mates? Any issues? Advice?
    What are flat musts and flat must nots?

    How was socialising during the first few weeks? Freshers?

    Thanks x
    Honey, I wouldn't say it's about fitting in with them. It's just about getting along with them. I didn't like half the stuff my flatmates were into but we managed to talk and go on nights out and enjoy each other's company (until the drama happened!)

    But I think one advice I'd give you is that don't be afraid to know other people from your block or flat. It's so important not to just mingle with your flat. I say it's good for the first few days or even during the whole of Freshers if you have a big lot like I had 19 in at my 1st uni. But this year I had 5 others, so I made sure I mingled with other flats. So from my experience, that's a must. You're all a community! :P

    Must nots: Don't ***** about a problem to a housemate, or none of that nonsense. You'd be surprised how many people **** one another off and so forth. If you have a problem or an issue with one or some of the flatmates, bring them to one side (when there isn't an audience) and just let them know how you feel in a platonic way. If one isn't taking out the rubbish for instance, just pull X to the side and say "Hey, ABC and me have been doing a lot of cleaning around lately, and I think it's so important for all of us to chip in" or something like that. Never be accusatory like "why aren't you cleaning up?" cause often it's the case of just because you don't see them clean, doesn't necessarily mean they don't clean. Also, again, don't cause a scene or start something when there is a crowd. And you be the same if you see others arguing. Mind your business especially if it doesn't concern you. There's a lot of people who LOVE to jump on the bang-wagon of arguments and really make some people feel small and intimidated.

    If your flat get on nicely, it isn't a must but it's a nice idea to do a weekly meal with each other. I doubt it'd happen on the first week as everyone will have their own shopping. But once everything gets emptied, you could propose to do this. It saves so much money! Failing this, another good way to get to know your flatmates (apart from the notorious pre-drinking games you'll have to endure) is walking together to the shops to do your weekly shopping or something, esp if it's a relatively long walk. It's a great way to bond and to get used to one another's company. It isn't a must but, it wouldnt do any harm.

    Socialising was great for me, I met LOADS of people and especially if you have your Freshers on campus rather than around town cause if your freshers is in clubs, the first and last thing Freshers will be doing is trying to hook-up! Every fresher wants to be your friend. I had big hair when I was a Fresher and loads of Fresher's thought it was cool to come and introduce themselves and touch my hair and everyone. I was good friends with them for a while/throughout 1st year. So be cool looking; but ever since primary school kids would be hypnotized by my hair so dw too much about "standing out" or "dress to impress" (which the latter wouldn't hurt if you're into fashion and stuff).

    Oh a MUST NOT, like literally 100% do not have sex with your flatmates my goodness just don't. It will cause some ******** mess that you just do not need. I'm not saying you will but I suggest if any of your flatmates have sex with one another, distance yourself from them. Cause 99% of the time it ends in disaster and then you might have to pick sides, then there becomes groups and cliques and it just gets a bit high-school drama. You don't need that as a 1st year.

    Don't share your alcohol with anyone (if you drink) they'll most likely drink you dry and throughout the year they'll be always expecting some or that "I owe you one in the club" promise always ends up being an empty promise. So keep your money and alcohol to yourself.

    There's more don'ts than do's at uni. But every uni experience is different and some will have experienced the same as myself. But a must is: enjoy yourself! You're only a "real" Fresher once, so don't let anyone stop you from enjoying yourselfl!
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    just try not to piss people off - e.g. don't make a huge mess, don't puke all over the toilet, don't steal food, take your turn cleaning, don't be noisy late at night

    other than that just be friendly and be yourself, it's not as scary as it sounds
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    Just be friendly & try to get on with everyone even if you don't speak it'll just make first year a breeze.
 
 
 
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