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    Im 20, nearly 21 and still a closeted homosexual, im too frightened to come out because some family members are very homophobic and ive never had sex with a guy so dont know how much ill enjoy it or if ill be able to satisfy a guy, i just feel so down all the time because of it and because i have tried meeting guys and telling guys i like them and it always ends the same way, they arent attracted to me, i feel like im never going to lose my virginity, come out or meet someone attracted to me or be happy. Meeting guys is really difficult for me because i have serious anxiety problems and never feel good enough to even talk to guys in clubs or bars and am worried if i do ill accidentally out myself before im ready. Im just so scared and it really upsets me, i dont know what to do!!
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    Try not to rush things. You will meet someone and you will gain confidence when you meet the right person. You are trying too hard and you have to like yourself and see the good in yourself before you embark on a relationship. Do try not to worry. I know it's easy to say, but take it slowly and things will fall into place.
    My oldest son is gay so I think I know where you are coming from. Be calm.
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    theres a difference between being depressed and sad/lonely
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    Im 20, nearly 21 and still a closeted homosexual, im too frightened to come out because some family members are very homophobic and ive never had sex with a guy so dont know how much ill enjoy it or if ill be able to satisfy a guy, i just feel so down all the time because of it and because i have tried meeting guys and telling guys i like them and it always ends the same way, they arent attracted to me, i feel like im never going to lose my virginity, come out or meet someone attracted to me or be happy. Meeting guys is really difficult for me because i have serious anxiety problems and never feel good enough to even talk to guys in clubs or bars and am worried if i do ill accidentally out myself before im ready. Im just so scared and it really upsets me, i dont know what to do!!

    maybe your not gay, but your forcing youself to be gay
 
 
 
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