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    Hi everyone. Basically i'm gonna try and cut it short. I'm a 19 year old Asian Muslim and i have a white girlfriend (non religious) and we have been together for almost 2 years now. (You will understand why i am saying this later) Basically my mum isn't accepting my girlfriend because of the fact that she is white and she is not muslim. For example she is racist towards her and she doesnt like her because she isnt muslim. She barely knows her and she has never spoken to her so its not fair. My girlfriend changed me to a better person and i wanna spend the rest of my life with her. Now i dont know what to do. Im stuck between my mum and my girlfriend. HELP
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    Elope.
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    (Original post by Cap.Henry Avery)
    Ignore her. Bring ur girl back to ur house and start to have sex in the living room while your mother is watching Eastenders or something.
    i actually died reading this
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    tell your mum how you feel about this girl and try to figure out what's really bothering her (besides the race and religion). also consider asking your gf to act more conservatively around your mother (in this context, i mean conservatively in the asian muslim way), it might help her accept that she's a genuinely good person for you. if it gets better, get them to have dinner together with you. you'll have to really work at get your mum to change her mind though, sorry about that.
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    My momma don't like you, and she likes everyone.. (8)
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    I'm no expert but I agree with the person above. I think you should try to find a way where the two can meet and I feel that sje should go the extra mile to please you mum. In the muslium community there has always been a stigma marraying outside our religion, but if you work at it could work out.
    Make sure you nake it clear to your mum that you won't be with anyone else unless its her and try to put emphasis on all of her good qualities.
    Anyway, good luck with whatever you try! Its a diffcult situation
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    Although I feel like this is a troll, my advice is ditch the GF because:

    1. Islamically, you cannot marry her.
    2. You only have one mum and shouldn't do something so (Islamically) wrong and harm your relationship with your Mum (and with Allah) just for a girl.
    3. Your GF helped you 'get better' but not Islamically - a spouse which helps you get closer to Allah is one worth marrying.
    4. It's the right thing to do.
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    All I will say is if this was the other way round and the mother of the white girl was refusing to meet her Muslim boyfriend, because he was a Muslim she would be branded as both racist and Islamophobic. But I forgot, only white people are racist, aren't they?
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    Your mum probably isn't racist. She's probably unaccepting due to the fact you have a girl friend in the first place and be she isn't Muslim. If your mum is traditional and religious she's probably thinking about what's going to happen in the long run; marriage. If you get married and have children, they would take on your religion but more realistically would end up with no religion.
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    (Original post by Tsrsarahhhh)
    Your mum probably isn't racist. She's probably unaccepting due to the fact you have a girl friend in the first place and be she isn't Muslim. If your mum is traditional and religious she's probably thinking about what's going to happen in the long run; marriage. If you get married and have children, they would take on your religion but more realistically would end up with no religion.
    This.

    OP, Tsrsarahhhh probably understands your mum better than you do.
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    (Original post by Zamestaneh)
    Although I feel like this is a troll, my advice is ditch the GF because:

    1. Islamically, you cannot marry her.
    2. You only have one mum and shouldn't do something so (Islamically) wrong and harm your relationship with your Mum (and with Allah) just for a girl.
    3. Your GF helped you 'get better' but not Islamically - a spouse which helps you get closer to Allah is one worth marrying.
    4. It's the right thing to do.
    1) If his white girlfriend is either a Christian/Jew, he's allowed to marry her due to her being among as 'people of the book'. Obviously, people will hate but in life you shouldn't focus on pleasing others 'naysayers' but finding your own personal happiness since you only live once.
    2) It could be his potential spouse depending upon how far invested he is in his relationship, so assuming if she 'was' among of the 'people of the book' mentioned in my 1st point, then the mum is wrong and needs to change her view.
    3) She's helped him improve, which is the main thing that matters. Now given my whole argument if she is among Christianity/Judaism faith, that doesn't necessarily apply.
    4) not necessarily.
 
 
 
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