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I'm far too anxious to do anything with a girl.

I'm far too anxious to do anything with a girl. It's strange because I have no issue talking to a girl (even when I'm sober). But I am suffering from quite bad anxiety and it's meaning I'm too scared to even kiss a girl and I'm 20!

I get a lot of stares and quite a few compliments but I'm unable to make the most of it. What do I do?
Original post by Anonymous
I'm far too anxious to do anything with a girl. It's strange because I have no issue talking to a girl (even when I'm sober). But I am suffering from quite bad anxiety and it's meaning I'm too scared to even kiss a girl and I'm 20!

I get a lot of stares and quite a few compliments but I'm unable to make the most of it. What do I do?


Ignore it, see how it goes with a girl, thats the only way to get rid of it.
Literally everyone starts out like this, to get talking to girls and 'making the move' you HAVE to get out of your comfort zone. You can't stand in a club all night and wait for a girl to talk to you.

Obviously drinking helps with confidence but you don't want to be drinking too much that you're stuttering and slobbering everywhere, not making sense. Drink to get you started, but not too much.

Just approach and seem friendly, even if you talk to someone and they reject you (which will rarely happen so instantly) that is ALREADY an achievement! You'll get the rollercoaster ride feeling and your body will just be telling you to escape the situation and run now, it's only doing this because you're anxious and it's something new to you. We can't do this for you or take any of the anxiety away from you, only you can have the willpower to kick your own ass and go talk to another human being.

Good Luck OP and if you need anymore advice PM me.
There is nothing wrong with that! Maybe you just like her very much and that is why the interaction seems so overwhelming! My advice would be: just treat her like a very close friend, without the thoughts that you like her in any other way. You have to make yourself feel comfortable to the point where you can make the first move!Don't rush, take it at your own pace! Hope it works out for you
Original post by Anonymous
I'm far too anxious to do anything with a girl. It's strange because I have no issue talking to a girl (even when I'm sober). But I am suffering from quite bad anxiety and it's meaning I'm too scared to even kiss a girl and I'm 20!

I get a lot of stares and quite a few compliments but I'm unable to make the most of it. What do I do?


do something with a boy then
Don't rush into things, take deep breaths and just chat to them normally. The natural interaction will be a lot more attractive than if you pressure yourself to try and impress them.
As another poster has stated, there is nothing wrong with that! I am like that. Everyone gets anxious.

Start socialising and talking everyday, to every possible chance, ask about their day, how are they, what their plans are etc.

Just talk to women with no expectation. Try volunteering and joining clubs to acclimatise yourself in order to practice getting comfortable and growing your confidence.

I wish you the best of luck!

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