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Reply 1
no, it can become meaningless due to other reasons though
nothings normal, nothings wrong. whatever both of you are happy and comfortable.
no dont think that if you have sex it will fix any problems
Reply 2
Do words become meaningless the more you write?
Reply 3
we do it everyday....sometimes 2 or 3 times a day....

we seem to have got into a routine that when we finish 6th form at 3.30 we go to his house and do it...everday...his house is only 10 mins from 6th form and no one gets in until 7ish so we have the place to ourselves...also quite regularly do it a lunch time as well as his house is so near...

at the weekend we will alway find time to do it

is this alot?
Reply 4
are you fine with it? dont worry about what others think.
I think it depends who you are doing it with. I was with a guy for about 2 years and it just became monotonous. It was as if we were only together for sex and it's all we ever really did. It honestly became a bit boring. Also the fact he ALWAYS had to go on top and I wasn't allowed to cum until he was ready was also a pain. The only time it was interesting was when people didn't know. Such as my dinner break, or the car had broken down that's why we were running late. I think excitement has to be there for it to work. Sex sort of became the only reason we saw eachother, other than we had mutual friend's. Therefore it did become a quite a bit meaningless.

With the last guy I was seeing it was always exciting and different. We did do it lots, but it was different from anything else. We would laugh during it and it was just fun. It definitely brought us closer together. Therefore not meaningless.

I think sex is important (at least to me anyway) in a relationship. It's important to be comfortable with someone to try different things. Doing it lots can be both normal and not depending on who you are and what kind of relationship you're in.
Reply 6
You do the same stuff all the time?
Vary it a little. Variety is the spice of life to quote a soundbite...
Reply 7
JC.
You do the same stuff all the time?
Vary it a little. Variety is the spice of life to quote a soundbite...


...definately not the same stuff all the time....bf is quite adventerous and usually pushing the boundaries....I tend to regulate the boundaries...but by no mean make them boring...
Pff, when you're young and especially in a new relationship doing it 4 times a day is completely normal!

When I was first with my bf if we woke up in the middle of the night we'd do it, go back to sleep, wake up do it. Have breakfast, do it again. Go out for the day and flirt and tease. Get home, do it. Have dinner, do it.

Maybe it's getting physically close before you become more emotionally close in the early stages?

If you're both happy - then go along and enjoy your sex drives!
Reply 9
the_amazing_me
I think it depends who you are doing it with. I was with a guy for about 2 years and it just became monotonous. It was as if we were only together for sex and it's all we ever really did. It honestly became a bit boring. Also the fact he ALWAYS had to go on top and I wasn't allowed to cum until he was ready was also a pain. The only time it was interesting was when people didn't know. Such as my dinner break, or the car had broken down that's why we were running late. I think excitement has to be there for it to work. Sex sort of became the only reason we saw eachother, other than we had mutual friend's. Therefore it did become a quite a bit meaningless.


It never ceases to amaze me that such monumental boors actually do exist; let alone that being 'on top' without exception or reprieve can be deemed a genuinely desirable state of affairs for any man that isn't solely epitomised as a fictitious Italian stereotype.
Reply 10
the_amazing_me
I think it depends who you are doing it with. I was with a guy for about 2 years and it just became monotonous. It was as if we were only together for sex and it's all we ever really did. It honestly became a bit boring. Also the fact he ALWAYS had to go on top and I wasn't allowed to cum until he was ready was also a pain. The only time it was interesting was when people didn't know. Such as my dinner break, or the car had broken down that's why we were running late. I think excitement has to be there for it to work. Sex sort of became the only reason we saw eachother, other than we had mutual friend's. Therefore it did become a quite a bit meaningless.

With the last guy I was seeing it was always exciting and different. We did do it lots, but it was different from anything else. We would laugh during it and it was just fun. It definitely brought us closer together. Therefore not meaningless.

I think sex is important (at least to me anyway) in a relationship. It's important to be comfortable with someone to try different things. Doing it lots can be both normal and not depending on who you are and what kind of relationship you're in.


Sex is definately not the only reason we see eachother....he has huge sex drive and I kinda follow....sometimes its is a pain...sometimes fun. We do try stuff...he is always pushing for more or different stuff...I kinda regulate it...though we do get up to more than most I guess....

Its just talking to some close friends they seem to not do it anywhere near as much as we do....one friend is almost like one a fornight on a Tuesday! (how boring!) -
Reply 11
It sounds as if you're concerned that it's getting in the way of other intimate activities (hugs, kisses, snuggles, long conversations)?

You say it 'can be a pain' and your bf is pushy? Sounds like a word might need to be had!
Reply 12
lessthanthree
so what's the problem them?

If you're happy with it..why question?


Its just talking to some close friends they seem to not do it anywhere near as much as we do....one friend is almost like ocne a fornight on a Tuesday! (how boring!) - got me think about how much we do it and the reason why. Non of my friends seem to be that adventerous either and I was in my head going oh...okay...so you don't do that??.. (or they don't let on)...which just made me wonder if I was been lead along by my bf...
Reply 13
blissy
It sounds as if you're concerned that it's getting in the way of other intimate activities (hugs, kisses, snuggles, long conversations)?

You say it 'can be a pain' and your bf is pushy? Sounds like a word might need to be had!



must admit if I was listing pros and cons....cuddly nights in with candles are not enough...

i'm not sure I mean my bf is pushy....he certainly pesters sometimes...as some of you may have noticed from other posts...i wear corsets, wear quite sexy undies as a norm...which probably wouldnt have happened if I hadnt met him...may be...i don't know...
Reply 14
Totally depends on you, your relationship, your sex drives.
You seem to be happy so I don't think you have a problem. I do have quite a (very) high sex drive so the first guy at least fulfilled some of my needs. Other's just don't see it as an issue. I have an older friend (in her 40s) who just doesn't enjoy it. Not due to bad experiences and she says she has done it many different ways. It's just not for her. She's lucky she's got 2 children!! Again, it just depends on the person/people and type of relationship I suppose.
Reply 16
lessthanthree
when it's a pain, don't do it. But don't second guess yourself just because yor mates aren't doing things that you are. but I can't stress enough that if you're not entirely comfortable with things, don't do them

and don't judge other people's sex lives. It's plainly obvious that people have different drives. What's boring to you could be someone else's "WOAH, WTF?!"

I wouldn't have been concerned, but your "just made me wonder if I was been lead along by my bf..." made me think you're not that comfortable.


im not uncomfortable.....someone on here a while ago when my corset wearing was a topic did plainly suggest he might be using me .....that did make me think...but no...i think its deeper than that

agreed....some people OMG is other people BORING.....
Reply 17
alicejb
must admit if I was listing pros and cons....cuddly nights in with candles are not enough...

i'm not sure I mean my bf is pushy....he certainly pesters sometimes...as some of you may have noticed from other posts...i wear corsets, wear quite sexy undies as a norm...which probably wouldnt have happened if I hadnt met him...may be...i don't know...

There's a difference between being submissive for fun and being a doormat. Don't be the latter.

How about organising a cuddly night in with a home cooked meal and stuff for him? Show him how nice it could be to take things at a slower pace once in a while?
alicejb
Sex is definitely not the only reason we see eachother....he has huge sex drive and I kinda follow....sometimes its is a pain...sometimes fun. We do try stuff...he is always pushing for more or different stuff...I kinda regulate it...though we do get up to more than most I guess....

Its just talking to some close friends they seem to not do it anywhere near as much as we do....one friend is almost like one a fornight on a Tuesday! (how boring!) -


I really wouldn't worry about comparing yourself to friends.. when I was with my ex we did it quite a bit... we could quite easily manage twice a day, if not more. It was just the way we were, it was very intense :p:

By comparison, our friends who were in a relationship at the time (despite being farr more candid about such things than us/me) were never quite so.... Just in the sense that to me it never seemed like there was any 'I have to have you NOW' that there was with us. But then, what do I know - that's just the impression I got. I'm that kind of person; if I want someone, I just have to have them, and will quite happily spend the day winding them up until we can.

End of the day, everyone is different. So long as you're happy, what's the problem?
(and I agree, once a fortnight whilst you're a teenager? boring or what? Save it for when you're 40 :p:)
Reply 19
I dont think sex has to become more meaningfull the more you do it
I mean in some cases yeah obviously
But im from my past experiences it can become less meaningfull.
I dont think there an abnormal amount of times you can have sex
But being pestered isnt nice, takes the enjoyment out of it if youre just like "oh alright then..."
And as for the last question, sex can make you closer but id say thats more relevant to the first time you have sex with your partner, i mean when you get into the swing of things, sometimes it can be meaningfull, sometimes it can just be satisfying your needs.