Forced into sex

I got involved with a older guy a few months back, i trusted him quite easily and admit that im very naive, ive had problems of being blackmailed in the past. Anyway we were close and he told me i didnt have to do anythimg i didnt want to but after a while he started guilt tripping me into doing things, there was one night and im not to sure how it happened i just rememeber crying and him holding me down to have sex, it wasnt protected and i was tryimg to push him off me and screamed but he covered my mouth, after he admitted it was rape but i dont like thinking of it like that. I dont talk to him anymore but he occassionally messages me and im scared to block him out because he knows where i go to school. Since then ive been finding it really hard to be attracted to anyone or talk about sex without feeling sick, im worried i wont be able to trust anyone again or have any sexual attraction to anyone, any advice would be apprectiated

Tell cops, don't keep it quiet and it'll take time.

Please tell someone. Tell your parents or a teacher or someone. We are all here to help you. That's such an awful thing to go through and keep to yourself for so long.

Please tell someone whoever you feel most comfortable with , I work with both sexual abuse victims and perpetrators. You can message me if you like .

I got involved with a older guy a few months back, i trusted him quite easily and admit that im very naive, ive had problems of being blackmailed in the past. Anyway we were close and he told me i didnt have to do anythimg i didnt want to but after a while he started guilt tripping me into doing things, there was one night and im not to sure how it happened i just rememeber crying and him holding me down to have sex, it wasnt protected and i was tryimg to push him off me and screamed but he covered my mouth, after he admitted it was rape but i dont like thinking of it like that. I dont talk to him anymore but he occassionally messages me and im scared to block him out because he knows where i go to school. Since then ive been finding it really hard to be attracted to anyone or talk about sex without feeling sick, im worried i wont be able to trust anyone again or have any sexual attraction to anyone, any advice would be apprectiated

Thank you! I really feel like i cant tell anyone, im a very anxious person, i physically cant talk about emotions in person because im the person everyone knows to always be happy and everything, im not close to my dad and i dont trust my mum, she'll tell her boyfriend and blame me for it all, when i got blackmailed in the past i was 14 and i rang the police and they investigated it for a year and nothing happened and my mum blamed me and hated me for it

to be honest the police are unlikely to be able to prosecute it as it's your word against his and there's no proof you even had sex now so unless he admitted it the allegation won't go anywhere

if you want to it could still be worth saying something in case other allegations are made against him etc

what you do need to do is talk to someone you can trust who can find you the emotional support you need to get through this, it will take some time but there's no reason that you can't move on and feel okay again, but you need the support of your family and professionals to do that

I got involved with a older guy a few months back, i trusted him quite easily and admit that im very naive, ive had problems of being blackmailed in the past. Anyway we were close and he told me i didnt have to do anythimg i didnt want to but after a while he started guilt tripping me into doing things, there was one night and im not to sure how it happened i just rememeber crying and him holding me down to have sex, it wasnt protected and i was tryimg to push him off me and screamed but he covered my mouth, after he admitted it was rape but i dont like thinking of it like that. I dont talk to him anymore but he occassionally messages me and im scared to block him out because he knows where i go to school. Since then ive been finding it really hard to be attracted to anyone or talk about sex without feeling sick, im worried i wont be able to trust anyone again or have any sexual attraction to anyone, any advice would be apprectiated

You don't have to do it in person. Use your phone now and call the police.

You told an internet forum before the police?

What's his age and what's yours? You said he was an older guy, so are you below the age of consent?

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The issue is that forensic evidence is unlikely to be recovered this long after the act, so it's a class your-word-against-his type of story. While such cases tend to put more weight on the accuser's version of events, I wouldn't be confident in securing any kind of conviction if he manages to cook up either an alibi or a convincing alternative version of events. Do you have any text messages, or other remnants from the night, that can prove unconsensual sex?

Also bear in mind that going through the process of pressing charges may force you to relive the worst of this, and may put you under other forms of stress as your version of events is questioned, possibly both by family, police investigators, and, if it comes to trial, opposing counsel.

I just wanted to point out that it's one thing merely releasing this to the world and telling someone, and another thing entirely to take legal action. The former may be therapeutic, while the latter may be emotionally charged, costly, and time-consuming. Think through your choices carefully.