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    Just started this thread to see other people's opinions of what it takes to be a good mother.. what do you expect from them at an older age?
    I feel as though mine can be selfish from time to time, she rarely cooks meals for us, we never do things together and she doesn't offer to do little things for us such as giving a lift somewhere. I dont know, I compare her to my other friends' mothers and they just seem much more prepared to help their child with things. Am I expecting too much and being ungrateful because she doesn't treat us to things or offer to help out? I buy everything for myself, from toiletries, shampoos etc to clothes, my phone and tablet. I earn minimum wage and I do struggle to afford to go out with friends.. I'm terrified to think of the cost of uni supplies as I don't think she'll help out with that either.
    We're not close on an emotional level, we don't have heart-to-hearts other than when she complains to me about her boyfriend and I've never gone to her for help with an issue (she's not the most comforting person). Generally she tends to turn things to her own problems, if I complain about being stressed with exams and the tiredness of A levels she'd say she goes to work and irons, cleans etc.
    I get that I'm 18 and should be independent anyway, I don't need a mother to do everything for me although that's not what I want either. Am I in the wrong to expect more? Should I be trying to see things from her perspective more?
    Sometimes I feel she regrets having children as it seems she wants to do the things she wants and spend time with her boyfriend than having do things for us.

    In order to stop this from turning into a therapy session and telling you my life story I'll stop there, but what are your opinions?
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    Just started this thread to see other people's opinions of what it takes to be a good mother.. what do you expect from them at an older age?
    I feel as though mine can be selfish from time to time, she rarely cooks meals for us, we never do things together and she doesn't offer to do little things for us such as giving a lift somewhere. I dont know, I compare her to my other friends' mothers and they just seem much more prepared to help their child with things. Am I expecting too much and being ungrateful because she doesn't treat us to things or offer to help out? I buy everything for myself, from toiletries, shampoos etc to clothes, my phone and tablet. I earn minimum wage and I do struggle to afford to go out with friends.. I'm terrified to think of the cost of uni supplies as I don't think she'll help out with that either.
    We're not close on an emotional level, we don't have heart-to-hearts other than when she complains to me about her boyfriend and I've never gone to her for help with an issue (she's not the most comforting person). Generally she tends to turn things to her own problems, if I complain about being stressed with exams and the tiredness of A levels she'd say she goes to work and irons, cleans etc.
    I get that I'm 18 and should be independent anyway, I don't need a mother to do everything for me although that's not what I want either. Am I in the wrong to expect more? Should I be trying to see things from her perspective more?
    Sometimes I feel she regrets having children as it seems she wants to do the things she wants and spend time with her boyfriend than having do things for us.

    In order to stop this from turning into a therapy session and telling you my life story I'll stop there, but what are your opinions?
    It's completely up to her how she treats you. You can, of course, argue with her but I think it comes down to one's personality. If she has chosen not to care enough, then she probably won't do it in the near future.

    However, I don't know her, I would suggest you talk to her if it really irritates you.

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