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    Is this normal?

    Say I am messaging a girl, and she doesn't reply for a few hours, I get anxious and think that I said something wrong or that she's not interested in me.

    I respond quite quickly to my texts, be it a guy or a girl and so I have this expectation that their replies should be the same. I'm not saying they should reply instantly, but within the hour or two. It's just when it gets longer than that, I get really worried and it makes the situation with the girl I'm talking to rather uneasy as i'm just waiting there in anticipation for a reply.

    What should I do to overcome this?
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    You get used to it, girls like to take their time.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Is this normal?

    Say I am messaging a girl, and she doesn't reply for a few hours, I get anxious and think that I said something wrong or that she's not interested in me.

    I respond quite quickly to my texts, be it a guy or a girl and so I have this expectation that their replies should be the same. I'm not saying they should reply instantly, but within the hour or two. It's just when it gets longer than that, I get really worried and it makes the situation with the girl I'm talking to rather uneasy as i'm just waiting there in anticipation for a reply.

    What should I do to overcome this?
    It's nothing to do with you personally, girls just love to reply back late and act as if they're playing it 'cool' or hard to get. It's like they get off on it
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    Alternative explanations:
    1. They're busy/were in the middle of something when they received the text and then forgot they even received it
    2. They're doing some weird "strategic" thing under the false assumption that the time you take to reply makes any actual difference to anything.
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    It's nothing to do with you personally, girls just love to reply back late and act as if they're playing it 'cool' or hard to get. It's like they get off on it
    I like your avatar and name. It's cute and adorable.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Is this normal?


    Say I am messaging a girl, and she doesn't reply for a few hours, I get anxious and think that I said something wrong or that she's not interested in me.

    I respond quite quickly to my texts, be it a guy or a girl and so I have this expectation that their replies should be the same. I'm not saying they should reply instantly, but within the hour or two. It's just when it gets longer than that, I get really worried and it makes the situation with the girl I'm talking to rather uneasy as i'm just waiting there in anticipation for a reply.

    What should I do to overcome this?
    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    It's nothing to do with you personally
    Agreed

    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    girls just love to reply back late and act as if they're playing it 'cool' or hard to get. It's like they get off on it
    Actually, most of the time it's just us being lazy or having a life. You guys just think we're playing hard to get
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    (Original post by OGGUS)
    I like your avatar and name. It's cute and adorable.
    Thx
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    It bothers me when my boyfriend does this, but it's just because he tends to be busier than I am and often forgets he's got a message if he's busy
 
 
 
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