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    I had a week off work last week (to use up holiday), and everyone was either busy, working or moved back home/away etc so I didn't see anyone other than spending one day with my Nan.

    But to some people, I just feel like second best. Like if they had the chance to go out with me or someone else, they'd pick someone else. If that someone else let them down, they'd then choose me.

    As much as I love my cousin, we went cycling a week before. Lately he keeps wanting to go out with me or go cycling (I love cycling), but it's because he's recently split up with his girlfriend. In the 2 years he was with her, he never went out with me once. We'd only see each other at family parties/meals or Sunday lunch etc.

    A friend of mine wasn't speaking to his girlfriend for a few weeks. We went out a lot in that week, but after that, and even now, he doesn't seem to want to know me.

    Someone I consider to be my best mate has a girlfriend but he goes out with me. He sees his other mates a lot but he'll go places with me too. It just feels like he's the only one good friend I have?

    I just miss going out with people. I feel down because I just worry if people only turn to me when they haven't got anyone else, is it because i'm not a good mate? Or am I boring? In the last week, i've just felt really quite down to be honest, I don't really want to say it, but i've had a few tears too. On some days in my week off, I just couldn't be bothered to get ready or anything either because I just thought there wasn't any point. It's not like me at all.

    What can I do ? :confused:
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    (Original post by 2scotty)
    Hi !

    I had a week off work last week (to use up holiday), and everyone was either busy, working or moved back home/away etc so I didn't see anyone other than spending one day with my Nan.

    But to some people, I just feel like second best. Like if they had the chance to go out with me or someone else, they'd pick someone else. If that someone else let them down, they'd then choose me.

    As much as I love my cousin, we went cycling a week before. Lately he keeps wanting to go out with me or go cycling (I love cycling), but it's because he's recently split up with his girlfriend. In the 2 years he was with her, he never went out with me once. We'd only see each other at family parties/meals or Sunday lunch etc.

    A friend of mine wasn't speaking to his girlfriend for a few weeks. We went out a lot in that week, but after that, and even now, he doesn't seem to want to know me.

    Someone I consider to be my best mate has a girlfriend but he goes out with me. He sees his other mates a lot but he'll go places with me too. It just feels like he's the only one good friend I have?

    I just miss going out with people. I feel down because I just worry if people only turn to me when they haven't got anyone else, is it because i'm not a good mate? Or am I boring? In the last week, i've just felt really quite down to be honest, I don't really want to say it, but i've had a few tears too. On some days in my week off, I just couldn't be bothered to get ready or anything either because I just thought there wasn't any point. It's not like me at all.

    What can I do ? :confused:
    Don't ask them to come out with you until they ask you. Find other friends/girlfriend to hang out with
 
 
 
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