Longing

I thought I'd grow out of it. But at 26, I've still found someone that I missed and can never have yet want so bad. So bad it gives me emotional tension, a strong yet futile longing. Do we ever get the person that makes us feel that way?
I wish now I had got out there, I've been detached from the right company too long I feel I've missed out on love. Shes taken.
Anyone else feel this way?

Reply 1

dh00001

yea, its always the way.
maybe its one of those want what you cant have things

Reply 2

Planto

Suck it up. If you waste your time fretting about what you can't have then you're disrespecting yourself. And nobody who disrespects themself deserves to be respected by anyone else.

Don't make yourself suffer. You have your life and there's plenty more to do with it.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

All the time I've been an idiot, self-obsessed thinking I need no-one, and then someone comes along who makes you feel totally different, then just as they move you so much it's too late. They're taken. And you wish you'd met someone, and been more sociable cos now all the nice women are taken. :frown:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Planto

Suck it up. If you waste your time fretting about what you can't have then you're disrespecting yourself..

I wouldn't really agree that I'm fretting, just regretting my lack of sociability, in that I've made very few good oportunities for relationships and it now seems harder to do as everyones taken. And I don't thing having a longing for someone constitutes lack of self respect.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

I suppose my question is, is wanting someone a lot attractive or offputting to that person, can you ever get the person that inspires longing in you?

Reply 6

dh00001

you can yea but becoming obsseive is going to put them off

Reply 7

Planto

Anonymous

No, but letting it rule you does.

I know what the position's like. And I know it's made worse when it gets to the stage where you feel you've missed your chance. But you have to focus on something else.

But don't forget also that by setting your sights so exclusively on one goal you risk missing many passing opportunities.

Reply 8

Saffie

Anonymous

I suppose my question is, is wanting someone a lot attractive or offputting to that person, can you ever get the person that inspires longing in you?

It's not particularly off-putting, no. It's just annoying/weird when the other person doesn't feel the same way.

And not all the nice women are taken :hmpf:

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Fair enough. I guess I'll just have to try to meet a lot more girls and maybe something special will happens sometime

Reply 10

khil

I think I will feel that way the day my bf decides he wants someone else and not me :redface:

Let's hope that never happens as I think I wanna marry this guy. I've wondered what I'd be like if he married someone else... not nice :frown:

Reply 11

ßlαcksωαn

I think you're obsessing over this particular girl, but it wouldnt have worked out anyway. The past is the past and there's nothing you can do about it. You're probably thinking "oh if only I did this, or didnt do that...." but seriously you're holding onto the past so strongly that you cant move forward. Get over her! she's taken now. Move on mate.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

I just have this feeling the grass is greener, no matter the good stuff I've experienced, I want something more intense and someone who inspire stronger feeling in me

Reply 13

Lucy May

Thers is hope out there, me and my current bf really liked each other for around 6 months before we banged out heads together and realised.

Thing is, i didnt even think he had feelings for me at all! It really was the worst feeling in the world wanting someone so badly and thinking you dont have a chance in hell, it's really painful. But it does happen :smile: