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Counselling.
Hey everyone.
I've posted in the past about my paranoia with my boyfriend. I've decided I need to get help to sort it out and have been emailing a counsellor within the past week talking about getting help. She sounds really nice.
I want to make an appointment for Tuesday but i'm so nervous and scared. I just don't know if I can do it. I hate telling people my problems and I hate going into situations where I don't know what's going to happen.
What do you think she'll say, what will it be like? I'm so so scared but I know I need to get it sorted because this paranoia and not being able to trust is ruining my life and making me so miserable at the moment. My boyfriends friend who's a girl who I have a problem with, it's her birthday next Sunday and I know I need to let him go on his own with his friends and trust him but it's so difficult. I'm so upset he's going but I need to let him go. Otherwise i'd be going for all the wrong reasons. I'd be going to keep an eye on him. Silly cos I know he wouldn't cheat on me, my head's just messed up.
Any info would be greatly appreciated.
x
I've posted in the past about my paranoia with my boyfriend. I've decided I need to get help to sort it out and have been emailing a counsellor within the past week talking about getting help. She sounds really nice.
I want to make an appointment for Tuesday but i'm so nervous and scared. I just don't know if I can do it. I hate telling people my problems and I hate going into situations where I don't know what's going to happen.
What do you think she'll say, what will it be like? I'm so so scared but I know I need to get it sorted because this paranoia and not being able to trust is ruining my life and making me so miserable at the moment. My boyfriends friend who's a girl who I have a problem with, it's her birthday next Sunday and I know I need to let him go on his own with his friends and trust him but it's so difficult. I'm so upset he's going but I need to let him go. Otherwise i'd be going for all the wrong reasons. I'd be going to keep an eye on him. Silly cos I know he wouldn't cheat on me, my head's just messed up.
Any info would be greatly appreciated.
x
Hi
I really feel for you.
I am currently having counselling at the moment but for different reasons, and I felt exactly the same as you....but I pushed myself to do it...and honestly it is so far doing me the world of good..and for me I dont talk hardly ever but counsellors have this amazing thing, where they ask the right questions and you just pour it all out somehow.
I know how scared you must be, and im not going to lie, that feeling never goes away, i see my counsellor every wednesday and I am still nervous to this point...and I have been seeing her for 4 weeks now.
I really think it will do you the world of good...please try.
PM if you want to talk more.
Hope it goes well
Sammi xxx
I really feel for you.
I am currently having counselling at the moment but for different reasons, and I felt exactly the same as you....but I pushed myself to do it...and honestly it is so far doing me the world of good..and for me I dont talk hardly ever but counsellors have this amazing thing, where they ask the right questions and you just pour it all out somehow.
I know how scared you must be, and im not going to lie, that feeling never goes away, i see my counsellor every wednesday and I am still nervous to this point...and I have been seeing her for 4 weeks now.
I really think it will do you the world of good...please try.
PM if you want to talk more.
Hope it goes well
Sammi xxx
I'd say go for it.
I normally prefer to keep things to myself but I know that I'm not going to recover if I do that. I find it easier to talk to people who I know won't judge me and who a bit distanced from the situation.
But I understand your anxiety. I recently had an appointment at the local mental health centre but I was so scared of being honest as I didn't know what would happen if I was. It was so scary, but once I was there it was ok.
Good luck.
I normally prefer to keep things to myself but I know that I'm not going to recover if I do that. I find it easier to talk to people who I know won't judge me and who a bit distanced from the situation.
But I understand your anxiety. I recently had an appointment at the local mental health centre but I was so scared of being honest as I didn't know what would happen if I was. It was so scary, but once I was there it was ok.
Good luck.
Go for it - I'd expect the counsellor above all to listen to you - they're there to help you work things out for yourself while being non-judgemental. That's not to say you won't get input at all because you will, but I'd expect it to be to help the counsellor understand you better and to help you figure things out. Most counsellors are non-directional - i.e. won't say "you should dump your boyfriend" etc.
You may well get taught techniques such as CBT to handle your feelings.
good luck with it
You may well get taught techniques such as CBT to handle your feelings.
good luck with it
As others have said- go for it You've been emailing her & think she's nice, so chances are, when you go in for the appointment you may eventually feel relaxed with her and be able to get things out. You could maybe always express your concerns with her through email (like "I've never done this before & I just wanted to let you know that I'm quite nervous about doing this, although I'm willing to try.) because although she knows who you are, it's slightly more anonymous than on the phone or actually in the appointment itself.
You've been emailing her & think she's nice, so chances are, when you go in for the appointment you may eventually feel relaxed with her and be able to get things out. You could maybe always express your concerns with her through email (like "I've never done this before & I just wanted to let you know that I'm quite nervous about doing this, although I'm willing to try.) because although she knows who you are, it's slightly more anonymous than on the phone or actually in the appointment itself.Thanks for your replies. I think i'm gonna go for it. I'm gonna be so scared and nervous but I think it would be good for me. Especially to start this week as I said, it's this girls birthday on Sunday so hopefully she can make me feel better with that.
I'll let you know how it goes.
x
I'll let you know how it goes.
x
trust me when i first made an appointment with the councellor. i was so scared. once you get there and start talking she will try and relax you. at first i didnt think i wanted to open up and say all my feelings. but she got it out of me in a friendly way and it makes me feel so much better after i talked to her. please go along it will make you feel so much better.
Really? Cos i'm so so nervous right now. I want to pick up the phone with confidence and make an appointment for tomorrow if poss but i'm just too scared. You think it'll definitely make me feel loads better? Especially as I really would like to talk to someone before this girls birthday so I can hopefully be more relaxed about it.
Right i've done it. Wednesday at 7pm. She sounded really nice. I was so so nervous but now i've done it I feel better.
I hope it goes ok. Will let you know how it goes. x
I hope it goes ok. Will let you know how it goes. x
Good luck
Good for you. I hope it goes well
hannah_dru
As others have said- go for it You've been emailing her & think she's nice, so chances are, when you go in for the appointment you may eventually feel relaxed with her and be able to get things out. You could maybe always express your concerns with her through email (like "I've never done this before & I just wanted to let you know that I'm quite nervous about doing this, although I'm willing to try.) because although she knows who you are, it's slightly more anonymous than on the phone or actually in the appointment itself.
You've been emailing her & think she's nice, so chances are, when you go in for the appointment you may eventually feel relaxed with her and be able to get things out. You could maybe always express your concerns with her through email (like "I've never done this before & I just wanted to let you know that I'm quite nervous about doing this, although I'm willing to try.) because although she knows who you are, it's slightly more anonymous than on the phone or actually in the appointment itself.My councellor was too nice and agreed with everything I said, including staying in bed all day, that didn't help it made me like myself when I was lazy.
Anyway she will probably be different.
Riddy
My councellor was too nice and agreed with everything I said, including staying in bed all day, that didn't help it made me like myself when I was lazy.
Anyway she will probably be different.
Anyway she will probably be different.
I did have that problem with my first therapist. She just sat there and nodded at everything I said.
Takes a while to find the right one I guess.
Good luck with it and don't be scared!
I had 3 counsellors and all of them were quite good in their own ways.
My first counsellor gave me techniques to work out what was going on in my head and how I felt about the people around me, usually working on paper (either putting my feelings into words, pictures or diagrams). I found that helped a lot and it was a shame really that I couldn't keep going to her sessions.
My second counsellor was a bit dippy/floaty but I suppose she did listen and it was an outlet for my feelings, of course. I also took my poems along to some sessions and was able to talk about the feelings that I expressed in them, which helped.
My third counsellor was quite good too - she always asked the right questions which made me think about things in ways that I hadn't before considered.
None of these counsellors gave me advice, which in a way infuriated me, particularly with the second counsellor, as it was quite often what I wanted/needed, but they do help in other ways, they will listen, and they won't judge you.
Trust me, it'll help in the long run
I had 3 counsellors and all of them were quite good in their own ways.
My first counsellor gave me techniques to work out what was going on in my head and how I felt about the people around me, usually working on paper (either putting my feelings into words, pictures or diagrams). I found that helped a lot and it was a shame really that I couldn't keep going to her sessions.
My second counsellor was a bit dippy/floaty but I suppose she did listen and it was an outlet for my feelings, of course. I also took my poems along to some sessions and was able to talk about the feelings that I expressed in them, which helped.
My third counsellor was quite good too - she always asked the right questions which made me think about things in ways that I hadn't before considered.
None of these counsellors gave me advice, which in a way infuriated me, particularly with the second counsellor, as it was quite often what I wanted/needed, but they do help in other ways, they will listen, and they won't judge you.
Trust me, it'll help in the long run
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