The Student Room Group

Why does this always happen?

Is it normal to loose interest in every boyfriend within the first 3 months?? I have only ever wanted to stay with one boyfriend in my life and we had to split up due to the distance. The rest of them I have lost interest in, I can't understand why- they are usually my ideal boyfriend, I am attracted to them, they have a good personality, we get on well and I genuinly want to stay friends with them, just not in a relationship with them. It makes it really hard to break up with them because all I can say is, I think we should just be friends- the lame back out way of breaking up with someone but its the truth, I just simply realise they aren't who I want to be with.

I've tried to be brutally honest with myself to try and find out why I can't remain interested and I can't work it out. I just prefer to be single and am worried that I will never meet anyone that I want to be in a relationship with for longer than a few months! Does anyone else understand what I'm talking about or is it just me? Can anyone suggest why it might be?? I always start off liking them and thinking that it will be different, but it never is!

I'm currently just over 3 months into a relationship with a great guy, but we've gone our seperate ways for the summer holidays and I don't miss him at all, he's asked me to visit and i'm not excited about seeing him like you should be if you genuinely like someone and I honestly don't know why. How am I supposed to break up with someone and give them a valid reason, which he deserves, when I don't know why I want to??

This has happened 4 times now, I really get on well with them but once we break up they usually stop speaking to me and its obviously never the same, we can never just be friends so we usually just end up not speaking and that not what I want to happen as I do like them as people and it causes a rift between groups of friends. I wish I could stay in a relationship but I don't see the point in staying in one that I don't want to be in!
Either you're comparing every relationship you have unfavourably to this one boy you wanted to stay with... or (and I'm really not trying to sound rude here) you're just not really mature enough to have a long term relationship. From your post, you actually sound reasonably old - but maybe you just need a bit of time? And cliched as it sounds, I guess you'll find someone right eventually :smile:
Maybe you are just not ready for full committment yet?
Perhaps its an underlying fear of commitment?
ive gone through the very same thing however im not female, there was this one woman who i fell in love with, and it was such an amazing feeling, i loved seeing her, she made me so unbelievably happy, but eventually (due to one person in our group of friends) things went tits up which through me into unbelievable depression for a long time, since ive been going out with a few women now which they seem great, nice personality, very attractive, we get on well; however my heart just wont connect in the same way it did that once, its just not the same, its almost as if my heart doesnt want to connect, so i cant feel so much pain if we were to break up and yet not having much reason to stay together because i cannot feel anything real, all it leads to is an extremely hard break up where they have connected and yet the only remorse i feel is how much they are going to be heart broken if i were to leave
its a very difficult position to be put in, and i too wonder whether i really will find a person with which i can share that with again?