The girl I have a crush on

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    I didn't really know where else to turn, so I went to random strangers on the Internet.

    I've been talking to the girl that I like quite a bit. I actually asked her for a drink after work but she works late" I'm visiting her facility (we work for the same company) just in different location in a month or two. She said she would give me the grand tour of the facility and we could go for tea.

    The conversation has sort of died a little bit and I can't really think of a way to get it going again?

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    What do you have in common, if you know? You can try that as a starter.

    Just be a bit careful as well, she could just be establishing a business relationship instead of an actual one.
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    (Original post by SeanFM)
    What do you have in common, if you know? You can try that as a starter.

    Just be a bit careful as well, she could just be establishing a business relationship instead of an actual one.
    Both work for the same company. From the North.

    True. Although I'm quite sure she knows I like her, hell probably most the grads know. We flirted a good amount at the last grad event.

    I'm still struggling to think of something to say. We've been talking for weeks and I think I might have actually ran out of things to say. :0


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    Maybe take it easy for now and let there be a lull in the communication for a bit but as your visit gets closer strike up the conversation again. When you are about a week out contact her again and remind her of your visit and ask if that grand tour will still be happening and if she says yes then tell her you'd like to also go for tea or coffee and see how she responds. If she's interested she'll go for tea or be very, very apologetic for why she can't and try to reschedule for another time. Since she is someone who you've known for a bit, and have flirted with, then at tea just go ahead and properly ask her out. If she 'works late', is 'busy' etc. then take the hint and leave it as a professional relationship but, hopefully, she'll say yes! Good Luck!
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    Go for tea? Cute. Is she introverted? If not, you're deep in the friendzone, but hey ho. Share most recent convo for suggestions
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    Maybe just find a time when she is free and say "how about that tea/drink?" And if all else fails bring it to her to show you are actually committed and say something like "I brought the drink to you"
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    Just get excited about your weekend, and then ask about hers.

    Generic small talk to get it going again. Fact is, if you're running out of conversation this early, that's a bad sign
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    (Original post by GingerJoe)
    I didn't really know where else to turn, so I went to random strangers on the Internet.

    I've been talking to the girl that I like quite a bit. I actually asked her for a drink after work but she works late" I'm visiting her facility (we work for the same company) just in different location in a month or two. She said she would give me the grand tour of the facility and we could go for tea.

    The conversation has sort of died a little bit and I can't really think of a way to get it going again?

    Any advice?


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    You guys still in touch?
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    (Original post by Hopefully1)
    Maybe take it easy for now and let there be a lull in the communication for a bit but as your visit gets closer strike up the conversation again. When you are about a week out contact her again and remind her of your visit and ask if that grand tour will still be happening and if she says yes then tell her you'd like to also go for tea or coffee and see how she responds. If she's interested she'll go for tea or be very, very apologetic for why she can't and try to reschedule for another time. Since she is someone who you've known for a bit, and have flirted with, then at tea just go ahead and properly ask her out. If she 'works late', is 'busy' etc. then take the hint and leave it as a professional relationship but, hopefully, she'll say yes! Good Luck!
    A grad week has now been organised for a fortnight before so I'll see if she'll like a drink then as she won't be working late.

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    Go for tea? Cute. Is she introverted? If not, you're deep in the friendzone, but hey ho. Share most recent convo for suggestions
    She is a little actually. But very nice all the same. Most recent convo, I organised a charity exercise event. Talked about that and she said she was gutted she couldn't go, said the photos looked great. Monday must have been a killer (it was) and how she's moving house and asked me what I'm up to. - So just chit chat.
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    (Original post by GingerJoe)
    she said she was gutted she couldn't go, said the photos looked great. Monday must have been a killer (it was) .. just chit chat
    Friendly, if quite friendzoney, but early days..

    how she's moving house
    This is would be an opportunity for you to probe a little, and subtly/not so subtly communicate interest :innocent:
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    If you ask her out for tea let us know! I don't think only introverts would like going for tea. It is a good, casual first step. I really, really, hope this works out for you! Again, do let us know. BUT, IF it doesn't get back out there and find the next girl! You're going to be a great 'catch' for some girl!
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Friendly, if quite friendzoney, but early days..

    This is would be an opportunity for you to probe a little, and subtly/not so subtly communicate interest :innocent:
    Any examples of a no so subtly interest comment?
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    (Original post by GingerJoe)
    Any examples of a no so subtly interest comment?
    "Oh aye? Who's the lucky man? :P"
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    Compliment her maybe? ☺️
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    "Oh aye? Who's the lucky man? :P"
    I'll see if I can work that into the conversation.

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    Compliment her maybe? ☺️
    Of course.
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    Small update: We had a business week away with around 100 other staff.

    Turns out she is even more shy than I thought. Can't really present in front of a crowd and was always surrounded by a few close friends. I have another meeting with her soon up north at her facility which will be more just us.

    How do you ask a shy girl out? I only ask as everyone I have gone out with has asked me out.
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    Id thought that I'd give you all a update.

    I did ask her out. She is seeing someone however. I think I missed the opportune moment by along time but I've learnt from that so there is a silver lining.


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    (Original post by GingerJoe)
    Id thought that I'd give you all a update.

    I did ask her out. She is seeing someone however. I think I missed the opportune moment by along time but I've learnt from that so there is a silver lining.


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    That sucks when did she start seeing him? When you both were flirting you should have asked her out for drinks instead of waiting 3 months.
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    (Original post by chikane)
    That sucks when did she start seeing him? When you both were flirting you should have asked her out for drinks instead of waiting 3 months.

    I don't know, I would assume very recently. I agree, I should have. I in part left is so long as I wouldn't have be able to do it in person until this week.


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