Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    Hi I'm feeling really down and depressed. I'd been with my ex for 2 years and usually when I'm down like this or having a bad day, I'd text or talk to her and it'd help me feel better and relax me. I'm finding it really hard.

    How do I stop myself from texting them when I'm depressed and stop myself looking pathetic. Last time I called she hung up on me. I feel pathetic. I honestly can't help myself. I feel like I won't feel better without talking to her. I feel lonely too.
    • Community Assistant
    Offline

    19
    ReputationRep:
    Community Assistant
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi I'm feeling really down and depressed. I'd been with my ex for 2 years and usually when I'm down like this or having a bad day, I'd text or talk to her and it'd help me feel better and relax me. I'm finding it really hard.

    How do I stop myself from texting them when I'm depressed and stop myself looking pathetic. Last time I called she hung up on me. I feel pathetic. I honestly can't help myself. I feel like I won't feel better without talking to her. I feel lonely too.
    Sorry to hear about how you are feeling, but just know that when your down the only way is up so focus on that (it has always helped me, because no matter how far away that up is, at least you know it will come and it keeps you going).

    As for texting your ex, is this a recent break up or have you been broken up for some time now?
    I think the best idea is to completely block your ex on all social media and have no way of contacting her for a good while. I would personally If I were you permanently delete here number, but because that is to far for some people try giving her number to a friend or family member, and tell them that they can only give it you back when you are not having the urge to text her all the time, and you feel fine without her.
    Feeling lonely is a normal thing, especially after a breakup, but try to do things which take your mind off it and boost your happiness. During hard times I always found it was good to surround myself with family and friends and arrange things to do with them, this will really help if your willing to give it a try.
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi I'm feeling really down and depressed. I'd been with my ex for 2 years and usually when I'm down like this or having a bad day, I'd text or talk to her and it'd help me feel better and relax me. I'm finding it really hard.

    How do I stop myself from texting them when I'm depressed and stop myself looking pathetic. Last time I called she hung up on me. I feel pathetic. I honestly can't help myself. I feel like I won't feel better without talking to her. I feel lonely too.
    Keep it moving, Keep it moving my g .
    1 stay the f**** away from sad music
    2 listen to corny rap music like this, here i made a playlist for you
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MsAEbXOasz8
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kaO_ZLIeo7M
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M37HHf099oM
    https://soundcloud.com/hood_rap/post-malone-myself
    https://soundcloud.com/tinyldn-1/sec...lete-my-number

    This is my motto, it has worked this summer because I've managed to get off with the girl of my dreams she's a (10/10) and in the process I've become more attractive apparently.
    Tldr; got off with 2 girls and it's helped me move on from my ex
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by Natalierm2707)
    Sorry to hear about how you are feeling, but just know that when your down the only way is up so focus on that (it has always helped me, because no matter how far away that up is, at least you know it will come and it keeps you goin

    As for texting your ex, is this a recent break up or have you been broken up for some time now?
    I think the best idea is to completely block your ex on all social media and have no way of contacting her for a good while. I would personally If I were you permanently delete here number, but because that is to far for some people try giving her number to a friend or family member, and tell them that they can only give it you back when you are not having the urge to text her all the time, and you feel fine without her.
    Feeling lonely is a normal thing, especially after a breakup, but try to do things which take your mind off it and boost your happiness. During hard times I always found it was good to surround myself with family and friends and arrange things to do with them, this will really help if your willing to give it a try.
    Thanks for your advice. It's a recent break up. It was my first serious relationship which is why I'm struggling to cope with the breakup I guess. I just miss having her there and supporting me. For example, if I had a bad day at work I'd call her up and she'd make my worries go away.

    I have other people I can talk to but I don't feel relaxed or better with them. She's the only one that could cheer me up after a bad day. Just right now I typed a long text to her that I was close to sending, but decided not to last min. But 10 mins later when I'm feeling down again I just get a strong urge to contact her. Even the Olympics can't distract me.

    We both blocked each other but I was feeling low a week ago and contacted her via email and then called her on my new number. She told me not to call her again and hung up. I just feel lonely and depressed and that I have to talk to her. But the fact she hung up on me makes me feel pathetic and I hate the fact she may be loving it. But it's difficult because I've been having a bad week and only she can make me feel better. For the past 2 years she's been my go to person.
    Offline

    11
    ReputationRep:
    Maybe try talking to someone else when you're feeling depressed any friend would probably listen.
    • Community Assistant
    Offline

    19
    ReputationRep:
    Community Assistant
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks for your advice. It's a recent break up. It was my first serious relationship which is why I'm struggling to cope with the breakup I guess. I just miss having her there and supporting me. For example, if I had a bad day at work I'd call her up and she'd make my worries go away.

    I have other people I can talk to but I don't feel relaxed or better with them. She's the only one that could cheer me up after a bad day. Just right now I typed a long text to her that I was close to sending, but decided not to last min. But 10 mins later when I'm feeling down again I just get a strong urge to contact her. Even the Olympics can't distract me.

    We both blocked each other but I was feeling low a week ago and contacted her via email and then called her on my new number. She told me not to call her again and hung up. I just feel lonely and depressed and that I have to talk to her. But the fact she hung up on me makes me feel pathetic and I hate the fact she may be loving it. But it's difficult because I've been having a bad week and only she can make me feel better. For the past 2 years she's been my go to person.
    Recent breakups are really hard because adjusting to life without someone you have been around so much for so long can be challenging and can make you feel very lonely and depressed.

    I understand abut not being able to talk to someone, It can be hard sometimes, as much as I urge you to try and find that someone who you can go to, why dont you try whenever you have the urge to text your ex to instead write what you were going to say down in a notebook. Try journalling how you feel as often getting your feelings out onto the page and reading them over a few times can help you eliminate those feelings and help you cope with whats going on. Over time you will go back and read previous pages of the journal and see the progress you have made and this will help a lot. I love to journal when im feeling sad/depressed/anxious/lonely because its a way for me to express my feelings whilst solo and allows great time and oppurtunity for reflection (which trust me is needed).

    Sadly your ex can no longer be your go to person, so you need to find something else/someone else that can pick you up after a bad day. This will take time and wont happen overnight.
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    Just to add I have suffered from social anxiety before I met her and I've always been a really shy person. She helped me build my confidence up. I'm more of a relationship type of person. Going out getting wasted and seeing different girl every night isn't for me. Instead it makes me feel more empty inside. I miss the emotional side more than anything and to have someone to talk to given my history with anxiety.
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    Bump
    Offline

    20
    ReputationRep:
    Throw your phone out of the window. It's literally the only way.

    Anyway OP do you watch Superwoman on youtube? If you don't, watch her stages of a breakup video.
    • Community Assistant
    • Welcome Squad
    Online

    20
    ReputationRep:
    Community Assistant
    Welcome Squad
    Delete her number. Speak to other friends. Watch cat videos on YT.
    • Very Important Poster
    Online

    19
    Very Important Poster
    Try putting yourself in teh shoes of your ex when you text her.
    The fact she hung ip on you shows shes had enough and resents you imo.
    By emotionally dumping on someone you are no longer with, will just create further resentment and you going down further in her esyimation.

    1. Find someone else to confide in. There are other people.
    2. Go about sorting your own issues out by making a plan and trying to do soemthing about it. GP, hobbies, getting out more, socialising etc. You have to learn to let go.
    3. She will block you before long, so its in your interest to stop. It gets better.
    Offline

    18
    ReputationRep:
    Bloody good question. Strangely with my ex I only wanted to contact her when I was feeling happy and missing her. When I was down I down I didn't want to as she was part of my problem! Find someone new to occupy you thoughts, is the best bet.
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi I'm feeling really down and depressed. I'd been with my ex for 2 years and usually when I'm down like this or having a bad day, I'd text or talk to her and it'd help me feel better and relax me. I'm finding it really hard.

    How do I stop myself from texting them when I'm depressed and stop myself looking pathetic. Last time I called she hung up on me. I feel pathetic. I honestly can't help myself. I feel like I won't feel better without talking to her. I feel lonely too.
    save her contact name as "pscho bi*ch ass ex"
    Offline

    9
    ReputationRep:
    Attachments Pending Approval
  1. File Type: jpg quote-my-ex-ask-me-where-i-m-moving-i-said-on-to-better-things-drake-119-64-85.jpg (54.9 KB)
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: August 14, 2016
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • Poll
    What's your favourite Christmas sweets?
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

    Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

    Quick reply
    Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.