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    lately been feeling like i care way more about people (i.e. my friends) more than they care about me. i feel like no one stops and asks how i am, how my day is, etc, just little things like that, and i don't know, it sucks. maybe i'm being too pernickety but it hurts a bit. i have friends, but it feels like they are too involved in their own lives and no one is concerned about just asking how i am, when i do the same for them? this probably sounds very melodramatic haha
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    lately been feeling like i care way more about people (i.e. my friends) more than they care about me. i feel like no one stops and asks how i am, how my day is, etc, just little things like that, and i don't know, it sucks. maybe i'm being too pernickety but it hurts a bit. i have friends, but it feels like they are too involved in their own lives and no one is concerned about just asking how i am, when i do the same for them? this probably sounds very melodramatic haha
    I'm sorry you're having such a hard time at the moment. I know I've felt this way before, so you aren't alone in that. Try and involve yourself with new people who treat you a little better. A lot of the time we take the people we love for granted and forget to think about them the way we should. It's sad, but it happens. Keep making the effort until you just don't want to. When it gets too difficult, it's okay to walk away. If they aren't putting the effort in, then why should you? Don't feel like you need to run yourself down trying. I hope things get better soon!
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    lately been feeling like i care way more about people (i.e. my friends) more than they care about me. i feel like no one stops and asks how i am, how my day is, etc, just little things like that, and i don't know, it sucks. maybe i'm being too pernickety but it hurts a bit. i have friends, but it feels like they are too involved in their own lives and no one is concerned about just asking how i am, when i do the same for them? this probably sounds very melodramatic haha
    Ik how that feels. It's draining and I know it's hard to stop caring so much. :erm: But it's not worth investing so much of your being in bending over backwards for people who won't do the same for you; you have to make sure you look after yourself first and foremost.
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    used to happen to me too. i basically stopped trying and treated them the same way they were treating me.

    try it, it works well
 
 
 
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