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    Soon I'll be going into Year 13. I've been going to lots of Uni Open Days and I am planning to study Geography at Uni. I'm not sure what I want to do yet, but I suppose doing something to do with the environment like a surveyor sounds interesting.
    However, I'm really, really scared and often worry about going. I'm not really worried about the course or anything - it's the social side of things. I'm terrified I won't make friends and I'll just be a bit of a loner. I do have some friends at the moment but compared to most people in my year, I don't have that many and I get very shy. I'm also dreading the first few weeks where, from what I've heard, so much is going on. I get tired easily (like if I'm out with my friends I can't wait to get home to bed after a few hours) and I don't know if I'll be able to keep it up. I also don't understand how people do it, like going to Uni not knowing anyone and then being expected to go to all these Freshers parties and events and stuff.
    I know there's the option to just not go. I could do an apprenticeship or just get a job quite easily. And that idea fills me with relief, but I know I'd probably regret it in like 10 years time because of all the things I could have missed out on.
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    (Original post by bobbybobby98)
    Soon I'll be going into Year 13. I've been going to lots of Uni Open Days and I am planning to study Geography at Uni. I'm not sure what I want to do yet, but I suppose doing something to do with the environment like a surveyor sounds interesting.
    However, I'm really, really scared and often worry about going. I'm not really worried about the course or anything - it's the social side of things. I'm terrified I won't make friends and I'll just be a bit of a loner. I do have some friends at the moment but compared to most people in my year, I don't have that many and I get very shy. I'm also dreading the first few weeks where, from what I've heard, so much is going on. I get tired easily (like if I'm out with my friends I can't wait to get home to bed after a few hours) and I don't know if I'll be able to keep it up. I also don't understand how people do it, like going to Uni not knowing anyone and then being expected to go to all these Freshers parties and events and stuff.
    I know there's the option to just not go. I could do an apprenticeship or just get a job quite easily. And that idea fills me with relief, but I know I'd probably regret it in like 10 years time because of all the things I could have missed out on.
    Don't worry, everyones in the same situation and everyone worries about these things before going which is only natural because you're taken out of your comfort zone. My advice is go at your own pace, if you don't want to go out all the time don't, my flat in freshers didn't go out every single night during freshers week we sometimes just went to the pub or for a meal and had an early night. Just be yourself, join societies that you want to join and enjoy yourself. You're bound to make friends on your course or through societies

    You'll be fine x
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    (Original post by bobbybobby98)
    Soon I'll be going into Year 13. I've been going to lots of Uni Open Days and I am planning to study Geography at Uni. I'm not sure what I want to do yet, but I suppose doing something to do with the environment like a surveyor sounds interesting.
    However, I'm really, really scared and often worry about going. I'm not really worried about the course or anything - it's the social side of things. I'm terrified I won't make friends and I'll just be a bit of a loner. I do have some friends at the moment but compared to most people in my year, I don't have that many and I get very shy. I'm also dreading the first few weeks where, from what I've heard, so much is going on. I get tired easily (like if I'm out with my friends I can't wait to get home to bed after a few hours) and I don't know if I'll be able to keep it up. I also don't understand how people do it, like going to Uni not knowing anyone and then being expected to go to all these Freshers parties and events and stuff.
    I know there's the option to just not go. I could do an apprenticeship or just get a job quite easily. And that idea fills me with relief, but I know I'd probably regret it in like 10 years time because of all the things I could have missed out on.
    90% of the people are in the same boat of joining while not knowing anyone. You can get a headstart by joining university groups on Facebook and getting into chat groups with people doing the same course or who got a room in the same hall, etc. I rent privately and got into a Facebook group for people who don't live in halls and we set up a few meetings just for coffee and stuff the week before fresher's just so we would know someone when we start.

    You'll most likely become friends with your flatmates if you go to halls. They will be the people you'll go to fresher's with or just hang out. Most halls have shared sitting room area that people hang out in, especially shortly after moving in.

    Majority of the fresher's events are just going out and getting drunk. You'll find that loads of students don't care about that. You can have fun nights just by getting a few board games and having people join in in the sitting room.
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    (Original post by bobbybobby98)
    Soon I'll be going into Year 13. I've been going to lots of Uni Open Days and I am planning to study Geography at Uni. I'm not sure what I want to do yet, but I suppose doing something to do with the environment like a surveyor sounds interesting.
    However, I'm really, really scared and often worry about going. I'm not really worried about the course or anything - it's the social side of things. I'm terrified I won't make friends and I'll just be a bit of a loner. I do have some friends at the moment but compared to most people in my year, I don't have that many and I get very shy. I'm also dreading the first few weeks where, from what I've heard, so much is going on. I get tired easily (like if I'm out with my friends I can't wait to get home to bed after a few hours) and I don't know if I'll be able to keep it up. I also don't understand how people do it, like going to Uni not knowing anyone and then being expected to go to all these Freshers parties and events and stuff.
    I know there's the option to just not go. I could do an apprenticeship or just get a job quite easily. And that idea fills me with relief, but I know I'd probably regret it in like 10 years time because of all the things I could have missed out on.
    Hello

    Well, it sounds like a lot of your worries are based off of stereotypes. One thing that upsets me a little is that you compare 'how many friends' you have compared to the 'others' in your year - because 'having loads of friends' makes you some what 'cooler' than having a couple of close friends? I'm confused why you'd mention that - either way, university is completely different to any other type of education.

    It's important to mention that everybody is in the same boat when starting university and everybody shares common misconceptions and stereotypes regarding university - there is only a minority that don't.

    Freshers week is full of parties and events run by the SU and clubs in the city but you do not have to attend them and even if you do, you don't have to drink or anything like that. The events during Freshers week are basically 'socials' and 'ice-breaker' events in order to help you meet people. Everybody feels they won't make friends but you will - it'll just happen naturally. Think about how you'll meet people on your course and they'll share similar interests to you.

    Don't let these negative thoughts bring you down and definitely, never-ever, compare yourself to other people as if the number of friends they have defines them. That's more of a high school view to have on the people around you.

    Best of luck
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    In the UK? God no. You're a paying customer, you get service, and an army of admin and support staff. Try uni in Germany, where it's free, and there is zero service or support.
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    You have all the same worries I had. All of which just disappeared within the first few weeks. If you decide to live away from home, (I would suggest doing so for anyone like me who is shy and introverted) it makes you become more independent; along with putting you in the centre of the social side of things. I'm not going to lie and say everything just fell into place straight away, but for freshers events my flat (most of use didn't have much in common with each other) went to them together; because and this is the key thing to remember, the vast majority of people at first don't know anyone, so as a flat you go to things together.

    Now I was anxious during the day because as a flat, we weren't social at all in the day for the first few weeks. But after a few days of my course, (induction wasn't that great but I did get to know a couple of people) things improved a lot. By my third week of Uni everything had worked out fine, on your course you meet people who share your interests. Because you've all decided to specialise in a single subject, opposed to how it is in sixth form/school.

    Once you've settled in, you meet loads of people, who introduce you to more people and so on. You will meet a small number of people out of the many you will meet, that you will become really close with. Throughout school I had a couple of close friends, and we still are after 12 years. It's always better to have a smaller group of friends, than loads who you won't see after school or whatever. So what I'm trying to say is, don't worry like I did, as my concerns were ill founded. If you have any questions of what Uni is like, just ask.
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    (Original post by bobbybobby98)
    Soon I'll be going into Year 13. I've been going to lots of Uni Open Days and I am planning to study Geography at Uni. I'm not sure what I want to do yet, but I suppose doing something to do with the environment like a surveyor sounds interesting.
    However, I'm really, really scared and often worry about going. I'm not really worried about the course or anything - it's the social side of things. I'm terrified I won't make friends and I'll just be a bit of a loner. I do have some friends at the moment but compared to most people in my year, I don't have that many and I get very shy. I'm also dreading the first few weeks where, from what I've heard, so much is going on. I get tired easily (like if I'm out with my friends I can't wait to get home to bed after a few hours) and I don't know if I'll be able to keep it up. I also don't understand how people do it, like going to Uni not knowing anyone and then being expected to go to all these Freshers parties and events and stuff.
    I know there's the option to just not go. I could do an apprenticeship or just get a job quite easily. And that idea fills me with relief, but I know I'd probably regret it in like 10 years time because of all the things I could have missed out on.
    These are pretty common fears your having but I''try and answer your questions weather you asked them directly.

    First of all when you move in to halls you'll have a group of people who don't know each other and will want to get to know each other one way or the other
    how is that done:
    pre gaming usually drinking games ( I used water because i don't drink)
    going out clubbing and to freshers events(more on this later)
    and bit by bit just by living together

    so you'll probably make friend s that way then there's your course mates having lunch and drinking and things with them oh and society's you'll make friends there too.

    the other thing you mentioned was feeling tired just have a Relentless or Rockstar or one of those types of things before you go out and you'll be like a Duracell bunny able to go and go and go.
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    (Original post by bobbybobby98)
    Soon I'll be going into Year 13. I've been going to lots of Uni Open Days and I am planning to study Geography at Uni. I'm not sure what I want to do yet, but I suppose doing something to do with the environment like a surveyor sounds interesting.
    However, I'm really, really scared and often worry about going. I'm not really worried about the course or anything - it's the social side of things. I'm terrified I won't make friends and I'll just be a bit of a loner. I do have some friends at the moment but compared to most people in my year, I don't have that many and I get very shy. I'm also dreading the first few weeks where, from what I've heard, so much is going on. I get tired easily (like if I'm out with my friends I can't wait to get home to bed after a few hours) and I don't know if I'll be able to keep it up. I also don't understand how people do it, like going to Uni not knowing anyone and then being expected to go to all these Freshers parties and events and stuff.
    I know there's the option to just not go. I could do an apprenticeship or just get a job quite easily. And that idea fills me with relief, but I know I'd probably regret it in like 10 years time because of all the things I could have missed out on.
    These are pretty common fears your having but I''try and answer your questions weather you asked them directly.

    First of all when you move in to halls you'll have a group of people who don't know each other and will want to get to know each other one way or the other
    how is that done:
    pre gaming usually drinking games ( I used water because i don't drink)
    going out clubbing and to freshers events(more on this later)
    and bit by bit just by living together

    so you'll probably make friend s that way then there's your course mates having lunch and drinking and things with them oh and society's you'll make friends there too.

    the other thing you mentioned was feeling tired just have a Relentless or Rockstar or one of those types of things before you go out and you'll be like a Duracell bunny able to go and go and go.
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    (Original post by bobbybobby98)
    Soon I'll be going into Year 13. I've been going to lots of Uni Open Days and I am planning to study Geography at Uni. I'm not sure what I want to do yet, but I suppose doing something to do with the environment like a surveyor sounds interesting.
    However, I'm really, really scared and often worry about going. I'm not really worried about the course or anything - it's the social side of things. I'm terrified I won't make friends and I'll just be a bit of a loner. I do have some friends at the moment but compared to most people in my year, I don't have that many and I get very shy. I'm also dreading the first few weeks where, from what I've heard, so much is going on. I get tired easily (like if I'm out with my friends I can't wait to get home to bed after a few hours) and I don't know if I'll be able to keep it up. I also don't understand how people do it, like going to Uni not knowing anyone and then being expected to go to all these Freshers parties and events and stuff.
    I know there's the option to just not go. I could do an apprenticeship or just get a job quite easily. And that idea fills me with relief, but I know I'd probably regret it in like 10 years time because of all the things I could have missed out on.
    These are pretty common fears your having but I'l try and answer your questions whether you asked them directly or not

    First of all when you move in to halls you'll have a group of people who don't know each other and will want to get to know each other one way or the other
    how is that done:
    pre gaming usually drinking games ( I used water because i don't drink)
    going out clubbing and to freshers events(more on this later)
    and bit by bit just by living together

    so you'll probably make friend s that way then there's your course mates having lunch and drinking and things with them oh and society's you'll make friends there too.

    the other thing you mentioned was feeling tired just have a Relentless or Rockstar or one of those types of things before you go out and you'll be like a Duracell bunny able to go and go and go.
 
 
 
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