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    Well, basically I'm going out with a girl later today for the first time. Normally that would be no problem, and it isn't really for me. But she's never had a boyfriend.

    So basically I don't want to scare her, but I also don't want to give her the impression I don't fancy her. So any suggestions on what to do, how far to go etc. would be appreciated.

    Oh and if it makes a difference I'm 16, she's 15.
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    Well, tell her you think she looks great, and flirt a little bit, to fulfill the "I fancy you" bit, but don't be too heavy in terms of pinching her arse or try to sleep with her. Just have fun! You never know, she might ravish you by the end of the night.....

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    Don't do anything different from what you'ld normally do on a date.
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    Just make her laugh,chances are she'll be quite nervous,once she's comfertable flirt away
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    it depends, because i'd never had a bf before i was 15, but i liked a confident guy who would treat me nicely, and i wasn't shy.
    from personal experience my first date was a bit nervy, and the guy tried to touch me up a bit which was a definite no-go. definately one step forwards and two steps back there. it could also make her feel wary of your intentions.

    i recon you'll know how to steer the date from how she responds to you. if she likes laughing and joking, and doesn't mind you having her arm around her, then keep there, but if she appears a bit shy, then just chill it out a little and just give her the peck on the lips goodbye.

    but, i say this, and really think you shouldn't plan how the date should go. just let it happen. read her to see what signals she is sending back.

    good luck!
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    Act normally and DO NOT plan! It will come across as being too orchestrated and then you will only push her away.
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    ^^ :ditto:
    You sound really sweet, just take it as it happens and have fun
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    Just take it slow and have fun while you are out with her.
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    Don't discuss religion or politics.
    Be confident, but not too intimidating.
    Ask her expansive questions where you can get her to talk as well - try and keep conversation at about 50/50.
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    She'll probably be really nervous, so ask her questions that she can use to open up.

    If you think she'd be responsive to holding hands, or a hug when you first meet he, go for it Don't push it, she'll appreciate it.
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    Awww, it's sweet that you're so concerned. I'm sure that'll be just the thing that makes the date a success. I'd just add that you should try not to be put off by her answering quietly, or with little detail to questions. She'll probably just be nervous, and you lapsing into silence as well will probably freak her out. Not to mention that that a half an hour silence will probably kill your will to live.
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    ask her to sleep with you.
    o wait, shes underage, so a kiss will have to do.
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    Be yourself and hope she likes it
    If she hasn't had a boyfriend at least you don't have anything to live up to
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    Have fun, make sure she is having fun and don't be a sleazebag. Just about covers it I think!
 
 
 
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