What is wrong with me?

Watch this thread
Anonymous #1
#1
Report Thread starter 5 years ago
#1
I don't know how to put this but I am very quiet. At school I am often asked "why are you so quiet" and I can't give them an answer. I overthink most things which make me think more than I speak. I think that I have something wrong with me?? I don't know what to say to people so I just sit there
0
reply
Anonymous #1
#2
Report Thread starter 5 years ago
#2
(Original post by Anonymous)
I don't know how to put this but I am very quiet. At school I am often asked "why are you so quiet" and I can't give them an answer. I overthink most things which make me think more than I speak. I think that I have something wrong with me?? I don't know what to say to people so I just sit there
Ps. In my school report my teachers say that I am a reserved member of the class
0
reply
Bananapeeler
Badges: 10
Rep:
? You'll earn badges for being active around the site. Rep gems come when your posts are rated by other community members.
#3
Report 5 years ago
#3
How old are you?
0
reply
Anonymous #1
#4
Report Thread starter 5 years ago
#4
(Original post by Bananapeeler)
How old are you?
15
0
reply
Bananapeeler
Badges: 10
Rep:
? You'll earn badges for being active around the site. Rep gems come when your posts are rated by other community members.
#5
Report 5 years ago
#5
Don't worry about it man, I think learning to speak more is a good thing though and you should try forcing yourself out of your comfort zone if possible
0
reply
Anonymous #1
#6
Report Thread starter 5 years ago
#6
(Original post by Bananapeeler)
Don't worry about it man, I think learning to speak more is a good thing though and you should try forcing yourself out of your comfort zone if possible
But it isn't that easy
0
reply
Bananapeeler
Badges: 10
Rep:
? You'll earn badges for being active around the site. Rep gems come when your posts are rated by other community members.
#7
Report 5 years ago
#7
(Original post by Anonymous)
But it isn't that easy
If you have social anxiety then I recommend you see a GP, but if you're just quiet there is no easy way to start socialising more
0
reply
Anonymous #2
#8
Report 5 years ago
#8
Omg this happened to me as well. In year 11 these 2 boys asked me why I was so quiet and I just ended up shrugging my shoulders because I didn't know what else to say
1
reply
Anonymous #1
#9
Report Thread starter 5 years ago
#9
(Original post by Bananapeeler)
If you have social anxiety then I recommend you see a GP, but if you're just quiet there is no easy way to start socialising more
I think I could do but I don't want to get my parents involved. I have friends and a close one that has known me for a while and when I'm with him I feel like I can say what ever I want
0
reply
splashywill
Badges: 17
Rep:
? You'll earn badges for being active around the site. Rep gems come when your posts are rated by other community members.
#10
Report 5 years ago
#10
If you want to talk more and become more social then you're going to have to just leave your comfort zone and get talking to people, just fight the awkwardness... But if you're comfortable with the way you are then don't change, just embrace it.
0
reply
Anonymous #1
#11
Report Thread starter 5 years ago
#11
(Original post by Bananapeeler)
If you have social anxiety then I recommend you see a GP, but if you're just quiet there is no easy way to start socialising more
I don't know whether this is relevant but I've had a rocky childhood. My Mum and dad argue a lot on weekends
0
reply
1secondsofvamps
Badges: 21
Rep:
? You'll earn badges for being active around the site. Rep gems come when your posts are rated by other community members.
#12
Report 5 years ago
#12
(Original post by Anonymous)
I don't know whether this is relevant but I've had a rocky childhood. My Mum and dad argue a lot on weekends
It sounds like you're describing my life.
I think one reason why I'm so quiet is because my parents shout a lot especially my mum and she always has to find stuff to argue about as well. Keeping quiet is my way of having peace and not causing conflict/issues
2
reply
Bananapeeler
Badges: 10
Rep:
? You'll earn badges for being active around the site. Rep gems come when your posts are rated by other community members.
#13
Report 5 years ago
#13
(Original post by Anonymous)
I don't know whether this is relevant but I've had a rocky childhood. My Mum and dad argue a lot on weekends
That sucks , do you get scared at the idea of talking to people or do you just prefer not to?
0
reply
tamil fever
Badges: 20
? You'll earn badges for being active around the site. Rep gems come when your posts are rated by other community members.
#14
Report 5 years ago
#14
Nothing is wrong with you....Your like meAn Introvert
Same thing happened to me.Some girls asked me:"We didn't even recognise u were here.Why u so quiet?"
And I said"Because I am not like you."
1
reply
Anonymous #1
#15
Report Thread starter 5 years ago
#15
(Original post by Bananapeeler)
That sucks , do you get scared at the idea of talking to people or do you just prefer not to?
Bit of both to be honest 😔
0
reply
Anonymous #1
#16
Report Thread starter 5 years ago
#16
(Original post by tamil fever)
Nothing is wrong with you....Your like meAn Introvert
Same thing happened to me.Some girls asked me:"We didn't even recognise u were here.Why u so quiet?"
And I said"Because I am not like you."
This is what I really hate when people don't recognise me
0
reply
Ninjasrule
Badges: 12
Rep:
? You'll earn badges for being active around the site. Rep gems come when your posts are rated by other community members.
#17
Report 5 years ago
#17
I used to be the same until I started volunteering within the local community. My parents argued all the time too and it would often leave me feeling down, so I had to find some sort of escape that was therapeutic.Maybe try volunteering at charity shops to start off with - it gets you out of the house and gives you a good reference for when you apply for jobs in the future. This is where I started off and it really broke me out of my shell. I also joined a befriending the elderly scheme after a while and this helped so much as well!
0
reply
tamil fever
Badges: 20
? You'll earn badges for being active around the site. Rep gems come when your posts are rated by other community members.
#18
Report 5 years ago
#18
(Original post by Anonymous)
This is what I really hate when people don't recognise me
Lol.ppl don't recognise me much either.Even sometimes my friends
They are all extroverts and am the only introvert.And the only time people recognise me is when its art because am the "best" and this pisses me off sometimes.
But I've learnt to deal with it because I just recognised "Why am I sad am not getting recoginsed much?"
As an introvert I like silence and being alone..
The thing is when u r recognised you will wish that u were left alone.Tbh u shouldn't worry
0
reply
BlueBlizzard
Badges: 15
Rep:
? You'll earn badges for being active around the site. Rep gems come when your posts are rated by other community members.
#19
Report 5 years ago
#19
(Original post by Anonymous)
Bit of both to be honest 😔
Well, I think you should start off with a few conversations online if you find face-to-face ones intimidating. There are many threads right here on TSR, where you could initiate a convo or put your thoughts forward.

Since you mentioned that you're particularly comfortable with 1 guy, I think you should step out of your comfort-zone a bit. It's not easy, I know but you could always start striking up conversations with anybody. You could start by even talking to your pet! The best part about a pet is that you could tell it about your day, rant as much as you want and it won't judge you. On the other hand, it could be slightly overbearing to tell your friend EVERYTHING. I hope you get my point.

Don't be afraid of making mistakes or saying the wrong thing. Everybody makes mistakes, and it's always better to make them when you're younger. Also, people can get really weird at 15. I'm weird myself, but I'm the exact opposite of you. I probably talk enough for the both of us each day. My point is people aren't going to hold things against you at this stage. But, if you grow up quiet, reserved and don't speak up for yourself, some nutcase could take advantage of that fact. For example, you've got to work in pairs for an assignment, and even though you've done your fair share of work, your partner says that you didn't help at all. Would you speak up? If the answer is no, you've got to fix things right now. If yes, awesome

I'm no therapist or anything like that, so don't let me be the reason you skip the GP and try to solve things yourself. But, if you're going to take thing into your own hands, this might be a good started.

And of course, my PMs are always open
1
reply
Allie4
Badges: 20
Rep:
? You'll earn badges for being active around the site. Rep gems come when your posts are rated by other community members.
#20
Report 5 years ago
#20
theres nothing wrong with you at all. you're either just shy or a naturally quiet person. you're not the only one. dunno why they are asking you such a stupid question, thats like asking someone why are you so tall. they just are.
3
reply
X

Quick Reply

Attached files
Write a reply...
Reply
new posts
Back
to top
Latest
My Feed

See more of what you like on
The Student Room

You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

Personalise

Y13's - If you haven't confirmed your firm and insurance choices yet, why is that?

I am waiting until the deadline in case anything in my life changes (18)
21.18%
I am waiting until the deadline in case something else changes (e.g. exams/pandemic related concerns) (11)
12.94%
I am waiting until I can see the unis in person (5)
5.88%
I still have more questions before I make my decision (15)
17.65%
No reason, just haven't entered it yet (17)
20%
Something else (let us know in the thread!) (19)
22.35%

Watched Threads

View All