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    I'm beginning to find other girls hot, first it was admiration but now, I find myself staring and admiring them more and checking them out. Problem is, I'm in a relationship and it's kinda serious. And he's guessed that I found some attractive but, I'm confused to why I get jealous when it comes to pretty girls and him? Maybe I just need to be open and also admire them with him. But, I don't really know what to do.. i'm going back to teh stage where I find girls more attractive than guys.. but I love him and he's one of the only guys i've fully had a crush on and wanted beyond crush stage. But, I wouldn't cheat on him so i'm kinda stuck...
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    (Original post by Anaa95)
    I'm beginning to find other girls hot, first it was admiration but now, I find myself staring and admiring them more and checking them out. Problem is, I'm in a relationship and it's kinda serious. And he's guessed that I found some attractive but, I'm confused to why I get jealous when it comes to pretty girls and him? Maybe I just need to be open and also admire them with him. But, I don't really know what to do.. i'm going back to teh stage where I find girls more attractive than guys.. but I love him and he's one of the only guys i've fully had a crush on and wanted beyond crush stage. But, I wouldn't cheat on him so i'm kinda stuck...
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    Nah but srsly, speak to him about it and see what he says.
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    Watch lesbian porn and see how it feels...
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    Be honest with yourself, could you see yourself being in a relationship with a girl or having sex with a girl or is this more of a naughty fantasy thing?
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    Be honest with yourself, could you see yourself being in a relationship with a girl or having sex with a girl or is this more of a naughty fantasy thing?
    not a relationship, but it depends really, I just know i get really turned on at times and moreso with them than guys. That i'm certain about
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Watch lesbian porn and see how it feels...
    Done that before and preferred it more than the hetero one. And if anything, looked at the women more . But haven't even watched any since i've been with my boyfriend if i'm honest.
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    (Original post by Anaa95)
    Done that before and preferred it more than the hetero one. And if anything, looked at the women more . But haven't even watched any since i've been with my boyfriend if i'm honest.
    Suggest a threesome with your boyfriend, he'll love it
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    Suggest a threesome with your boyfriend, he'll love it
    problem is.. i will get jealous and territorial with him, so I can't. And I don't like the idea of it. That's the issue really.
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    Maybe because girls are hot I guess. If you don't wanna do stuff with any girl you don't have to. You might aswell live a sex free life anyways as STDs are pretty common even with condoms on. Enjoy life
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    So you find women more attractive... thats fine. But the question is, do you see yourself in a relationship with one - along with sex. Or would you prefer to stay with your boyfriend. Think about it, don't rush yourself. Speak to your BF about it, I think it will bond both of you because at least you'll be comfortable opening this up with him. I think it's a good idea, you can both talk about your interests of the same gender without any awkwardness

    If threesomes are not for you (they never work out well, only for the very few that have nothing to gain from it/minuscule minority) then it's best to leave that aside and don't encourage him about it.
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    (Original post by Dnkz7)
    So you find women more attractive... thats fine. But the question is, do you see yourself in a relationship with one - along with sex. Or would you prefer to stay with your boyfriend. Think about it, don't rush yourself. Speak to your BF about it, I think it will bond both of you because at least you'll be comfortable opening this up with him. I think it's a good idea, you can both talk about your interests of the same gender without any awkwardness

    If threesomes are not for you (they never work out well, only for the very few that have nothing to gain from it/minuscule minority) then it's best to leave that aside and don't encourage him about it.
    I would prefer to stay with my boyfriend and if anything admire them with him. But, I wouldn't actually want to be with a woman. It's just that guys to me are not as attractive as women. And I just stare more at women. If anything, it's complicated and if it wasn't for the strong attraction I have with my boyfriend and the level of our love, I wouldn't be with him and would be single.

    I've spoken to my boyfriend about it and he understands and agrees that women are more attractive and that, he gets why I would be more territorial about him and them because of our relationship. But, since our friendship side is building up, i'll be able to be more open about my thoughts without being scared if it's right or wrong.

    And yeah, I wouldn't encourage a threesome and he knows my views on it and how I can't stand him being sexual or even letting other girls see him nude
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    Nothing wrong with it. No more different than a straight person finding another member of the opposite sex more attractive than their partner.

    Just try not to think about it so much, and focus on what you have.
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    (Original post by SpiritSharD)
    Nothing wrong with it. No more different than a straight person finding another member of the opposite sex more attractive than their partner.

    Just try not to think about it so much, and focus on what you have.
    Yeah I will, and it's not that i find women more attractive than my partner. he's the only male i've actually liked . so probably more to do with the rest of men. But i see what you mean, just had to correct you on that .
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    (Original post by Anaa95)
    Yeah I will, and it's not that i find women more attractive than my partner. he's the only male i've actually liked . so probably more to do with the rest of men. But i see what you mean, just had to correct you on that .
    My bad. Read your second post and assumed when you said guys that included your partner.
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    (Original post by SpiritSharD)
    My bad. Read your second post and assumed when you said guys that included your partner.
    That's fine
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    I'm going to say what nobody else will...You NEED to make up your mind about what you want ASAP. Dragging out this desire for something you can't have will only hurt both of you in the end.

    I've read the other replies in this thread, and your reasoning behind not taking any action as far as being a flaming bisexual, but not wanting to shock or hurt your boyfriend. And frankly, you have 3 options.

    1) You tell your boyfriend you like women more than guys, but still want to be with him. He'll probably ask you what your type is, and if you two have similar tastes, he'll probably try to check out girls alongside you. You've said in an earlier thread that this idea doesn't appeal to you (because you're a jealous territorial girlfriend). Simply tell him you're not comfortable with that, and if he's a good person, he'll stop. But you should be aware that it's either THAT or the second option, which is;

    2) Break up with him so you can have sex/date whoever you please without worrying about hurting somebodies feelings. This is the simplest option, but the hardest.

    3) You COULD ask your boyfriend is he would mind an open relationship. Meaning, you two can have sex with anyone you want on the sidelines, but relationship stuff would strictly be between you two. "Non-monogamy, is what I believe this is called. If he isn't into it, which most people aren't, you should probably break up with him. The attraction to women won't just go away on it's own.

    You really gotta decide already. My goal isn't to be harsh, but to help you. Which option would be best for you?
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    (Original post by BiancaG.)
    I'm going to say what nobody else will...You NEED to make up your mind about what you want ASAP. Dragging out this desire for something you can't have will only hurt both of you in the end.

    I've read the other replies in this thread, and your reasoning behind not taking any action as far as being a flaming bisexual, but not wanting to shock or hurt your boyfriend. And frankly, you have 3 options.

    1) You tell your boyfriend you like women more than guys, but still want to be with him. He'll probably ask you what your type is, and if you two have similar tastes, he'll probably try to check out girls alongside you. You've said in an earlier thread that this idea doesn't appeal to you (because you're a jealous territorial girlfriend). Simply tell him you're not comfortable with that, and if he's a good person, he'll stop. But you should be aware that it's either THAT or the second option, which is;

    2) Break up with him so you can have sex/date whoever you please without worrying about hurting somebodies feelings. This is the simplest option, but the hardest.

    3) You COULD ask your boyfriend is he would mind an open relationship. Meaning, you two can have sex with anyone you want on the sidelines, but relationship stuff would strictly be between you two. "Non-monogamy, is what I believe this is called. If he isn't into it, which most people aren't, you should probably break up with him. The attraction to women won't just go away on it's own.

    You really gotta decide already. My goal isn't to be harsh, but to help you. Which option would be best for you?
    Firstly, thank you, I appreciate your comment.

    And I have made up my decision, and that's to stay with him and I discussed it with him the exact hour I posted this up. So, we've agreed and also talked about options and he knows my full opinion of it. And reason for staying with him is because our deep romantic connection is something I wouldn't want to exchange for any other.

    And my attraction to women doesn't include sex. That's the difference. It has nothing to with sex but sheer attraction to what I find appealing. And I rather keep such in a friendship level and haven't thought about it in a romantic relationship.

    If anything, I don't class myself as bisexual. But, someone who is attracted to the connection since being with my current boyfriend has showed me what i really am attracted to. So be it a relationship or friendship level, that's the fondation.

    But, I did tell him when i'm more open with him, I wouldn't mind also checking girls out with him, just i'm against sexual contact with them.. which is understandable.
 
 
 
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