Boyfriend isn't sure about relationship.....should I end it? Watch
However, in May we broke up for just under two months. He said he loved me more than he'd loved anyone but he'd grown unsure of the relationship and our future. During our break up we kept in contact until I decided to go no contact so I could get over him, and a week later he got in touch telling me he wanted to make it work.
He went on holiday a couple of weeks ago, which was the first time he'd taken any time of work in 7 months. He is also looking for a new job because he has started to hate his current one and I thought once he came back from holiday and had chance to relax things would be much better.
Things have been good, but I asked him about us earlier today and he told me he loves me and loves being back with me, he still feels uncertain about our future. I do love him, but I'm getting to the point where**I don''t know how long I can stay with someone who isn't sure about me. I feel if he is still unsure about how he feels about me then he will never be sure. The thought of breaking up with him breaks my heart but I don't know how much longer I can hold on like this
What should I do?*
Is it because he thinks things will get worse? Because he might want to move on? Maybe he's fearful that you'll hurt him like another girl once did? Or maybe he's just unsure as you two went through a breakup period and he might think the next will be a final?
Once you've found the cause of his worry, you can move on from that point and try to make things better. He might not open up about it, but in my opinion thats the best shot you've got to try and fix things and make it so you can enjoy your relationship without the thought of your future.
Hope this helps Anon.
I think you need to find out what exactly he is unsure about - it could be he can't let go but doesn't love you or it could be he is scared of commitment/confused which can be dealt with and then tell him he needs to sort his head out and make a decision about what he wants (whether that a relationship, friendship or nothing) because it's not fair to leave you wondering