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    My mums friend is normally quite cool and we talk and she just says what she thinks

    I'm 15 and 16 in two months and we where talking and I mentioned that I got my insurance number if I wanted to get a job.

    She then started saying that it would be good as it would bring me in some extra money and that im quite shy so it would be good for me. Then she said that I should "meet up with my friends more and be more sociable". she was like "when my kids where your age they used to be out with mates almost every day."

    Her kids are grown up now but I can imagine that they were quite popular at school.

    To be honest I'm not very popular but I have my own group of friends. I cant really imagine myself working as I think I would just be so awkward.

    Also I don't actually consider myself unsociable as I think I do go out quite a lot. I just got back from 2 1/2 weeks of holiday and I had the weekend and Monday chilling at home and I made plans for the Tuesday and onwards ...

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    (Original post by anonomon)
    My mums friend is normally quite cool and we talk and she just says what she thinks

    I'm 15 and 16 in two months and we where talking and I mentioned that I got my insurance number if I wanted to get a job.

    She then started saying that it would be good as it would bring me in some extra money and that im quite shy so it would be good for me. Then she said that I should "meet up with my friends more and be more sociable". she was like "when my kids where your age they used to be out with mates almost every day."

    Her kids are grown up now but I can imagine that they were quite popular at school.

    To be honest I'm not very popular but I have my own group of friends. I cant really imagine myself working as I think I would just be so awkward.

    Also I don't actually consider myself unsociable as I think I do go out quite a lot. I just got back from 2 1/2 weeks of holiday and I had the weekend and Monday chilling at home and I made plans for the Tuesday and onwards ...

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    heya

    you can just take the `advice` as a pinch of salt if you want don't forget in the olden days our parents didn't have any smartphones or whatever they don't understand about out generation now... hehe (consider yourself lucky you have a group of friends - my ``group`` consists of 2 close friends who I'm not sure are my friends...)

    I'm guessing you've just left school and are awaiting results, and are planning to go to 6th form / college in september? if so you'll meet plenty of new people there and your area of study will hopefully have new clubs / and extra curriculars going on where you can meet new people. college and sixth form will help put yourself out of your comfort zone... eek... did i just say comfort zone...

    I'm also quite shy and the prospect of getting a job seems daunting (I've got a paper round! which is great cos I don't have to talk to people if i don't want to...guess what? I never ever ever spoke rarely in school and barely in reception in primary and I saw my reception teacher a couple of days ago and she was so suprised that I was able to hold a conversation...lol, but she still remembers me...

    have you considered volunteering at all by any chance? its good fun! i volunteer for coffee shop run by a charity so I get to meet new people etc, and gain skills and experience for my wanted career to put on my cv at the same time

    chill and relax its the summer holidays you'll be busy next term!

    ps. extra money is GREAT you can spend it on whatever you want I'm saving up for a samsung tablet
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    Work isn't the deal its cracked up to be. It will only stifle creativity, ruin your social life, ruin your imagination, ruin your lateral thinking and above all it will piss away 40 hours a week for really not that much in return. One can often expect to be surrounded by East Europeans and if despite working hard you may find that you have no talent for that role and be highly disposed of in favour of some Marek or other.

    I'd personally advocate bennies/roadman activities.
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    heya

    you can just take the `advice` as a pinch of salt if you want don't forget in the olden days our parents didn't have any smartphones or whatever they don't understand about out generation now... hehe (consider yourself lucky you have a group of friends - my ``group`` consists of 2 close friends who I'm not sure are my friends...)

    I'm guessing you've just left school and are awaiting results, and are planning to go to 6th form / college in september? if so you'll meet plenty of new people there and your area of study will hopefully have new clubs / and extra curriculars going on where you can meet new people. college and sixth form will help put yourself out of your comfort zone... eek... did i just say comfort zone...

    I'm also quite shy and the prospect of getting a job seems daunting (I've got a paper round! which is great cos I don't have to talk to people if i don't want to...guess what? I never ever ever spoke rarely in school and barely in reception in primary and I saw my reception teacher a couple of days ago and she was so suprised that I was able to hold a conversation...lol, but she still remembers me...

    have you considered volunteering at all by any chance? its good fun! i volunteer for coffee shop run by a charity so I get to meet new people etc, and gain skills and experience for my wanted career to put on my cv at the same time

    chill and relax its the summer holidays you'll be busy next term!

    ps. extra money is GREAT you can spend it on whatever you want I'm saving up for a samsung tablet
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    You should do what makes you happy. I mean, some people are happy enough not being sociable.
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    (Original post by anonomon)
    My mums friend is normally quite cool and we talk and she just says what she thinks

    I'm 15 and 16 in two months and we where talking and I mentioned that I got my insurance number if I wanted to get a job.

    She then started saying that it would be good as it would bring me in some extra money and that im quite shy so it would be good for me. Then she said that I should "meet up with my friends more and be more sociable". she was like "when my kids where your age they used to be out with mates almost every day."

    Her kids are grown up now but I can imagine that they were quite popular at school.

    To be honest I'm not very popular but I have my own group of friends. I cant really imagine myself working as I think I would just be so awkward.

    Also I don't actually consider myself unsociable as I think I do go out quite a lot. I just got back from 2 1/2 weeks of holiday and I had the weekend and Monday chilling at home and I made plans for the Tuesday and onwards ...

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    I think it would be best to invest your time into something related to what you want to do in the future. For example, if you want to do accounting, start reading books and watching videos on accounting. That way you can begin experimenting and finding out what you want to do for a living, rather than potentially sinking loads of time away each week on something that has no long term prospects ( for making a living). Don't get me wrong, some of the smaller jobs (e.g. people working at Starbucks) can definitely provide you with useful skills, but it really depends on you actively trying to get as much of the job as possible, and even then you may only get so many skills.
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    as far as being sociable goes you should do what works for you, some people like to be out every day, personally I need some me-time or i just get worn out and stressed so I wouldn't ever want to socialise every day

    getting a job might be a good thing for you if you're shy, it will help give you some confidence which will benefit you a lot in the future
 
 
 
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