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    Throughout my life I've always had friends and been in certain friendship groups. Eventually though, I just get bored of them as it just seems to be the same jokes, same nights out etc There never seems to be developments. It just all gets a little tedious, but everyone else seems to enjoy themselves.

    The same goes for relationships, I get bored of my partner after 6 months, once all the mystery is gone I just lose interest.

    It really worries me as I worry I'll never be able to settle down, have a wife and a happy family life. I can't see me living 40+ years with the same woman whilst remaining committed to them.

    Anyone have advice/thoughts and how I can try and change?
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    Throughout my life I've always had friends and been in certain friendship groups. Eventually though, I just get bored of them as it just seems to be the same jokes, same nights out etc There never seems to be developments. It just all gets a little tedious, but everyone else seems to enjoy themselves.

    The same goes for relationships, I get bored of my partner after 6 months, once all the mystery is gone I just lose interest.

    It really worries me as I worry I'll never be able to settle down, have a wife and a happy family life. I can't see me living 40+ years with the same woman whilst remaining committed to them.

    Anyone have advice/thoughts and how I can try and change?
    Then your an idealist, attraction ends in 2 months, butterflies go bye bye after another 4 months which is when you get " bored ", just put up with whatever comes along... what I do.

    Also, try to find people in relations with close interests (but oppersite in some that you like in a person) and for friends, just whoever is like you, quality more than quantity.
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    I can relate to this. At some point we all get bored of our relationships no matter how long we've known a person for. With friends, I would advise taking a break from socialising with them for a while. I think that breaks are essential in any relationship and they don't have to be long, just so you can start missing your past times together. You've also said that once the mystery disappears, you kind of lose interest? Then why don't you create mystery, I mean: go camping, participate in an active sport, go travelling and explore cities together, have debates about movies/books that you have watched. It's as easy as that!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Throughout my life I've always had friends and been in certain friendship groups. Eventually though, I just get bored of them as it just seems to be the same jokes, same nights out etc There never seems to be developments. It just all gets a little tedious, but everyone else seems to enjoy themselves.

    The same goes for relationships, I get bored of my partner after 6 months, once all the mystery is gone I just lose interest.

    It really worries me as I worry I'll never be able to settle down, have a wife and a happy family life. I can't see me living 40+ years with the same woman whilst remaining committed to them.

    Anyone have advice/thoughts and how I can try and change?
    Become a philosopher, or buy a border collie that'll keep you entertained.
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    Sometimes you've got to be the one to initiate change invite people out different places with different activities
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    Or failing that brother maybe you need a night out in Soho, haha.
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    (Original post by cats_and_music)
    I can relate to this. At some point we all get bored of our relationships no matter how long we've known a person for. With friends, I would advise taking a break from socialising with them for a while. I think that breaks are essential in any relationship and they don't have to be long, just so you can start missing your past times together. You've also said that once the mystery disappears, you kind of lose interest? Then why don't you create mystery, I mean: go camping, participate in an active sport, go travelling and explore cities together, have debates about movies/books that you have watched. It's as easy as that!
    You make good points! Atm the people I enjoy spending most of my time with are my work colleagues as I've only known them for 18 months and only see them a couple of times a week.

    Wrt to the relationship aspect I've tried that but eventually that just becomes too forced, guess I just need to find the right girl. One day:-)
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    Get yourself some cats


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    I do like cats
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    Thats why family and blood relations are important. How many of your friends will be there if you get sick or get cancer? They'll maybe visit once or twice. But you mother/father and family members will always be by ur side.

    Make sure you dont get bored of the right people who matter. Friends come and go.
 
 
 
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