Any honest guys here?

I just wondered if you could help me to figure out what guys are thinking lol. Basically im really quiet and not confident but say if I go into a room (lets say lecture) and talk to some guys, on the way out I will say bye or see you later, they will say bye and then when i look round they are smirking at one another or laughing. They obviously don't fancy me as they think im odd ( they said they can't figure me out or something) and know I don't have a lot of friends. This happened throughout high school too with different guys.

Whats going on in there heads? I know its not good lol but be honest.

Reply 1

daniel_williams

15

well everyone is different in different circumstances. i can't say exactly what they are thinking or what's going on in their heads.

some of us guys will reflect on what's been said and recall the interesting parts of the conversation if we show some form of interest. other guys if not interested will pick up on bits that they can pick up on and joke about it at your expense. its a minor form of bullying and jsut their immature way of rejecting/dismissing you.

there are people out there who will take a genuine interest in you and that even if you are shy will be in the same boat. but then again they say opposites attract so just keep trying to be sociable, think carefully about what you say so not to give them any ammo against you and relax, don't think about their reactions afterwards, let them think whatever... you know the real you and thats all that matters.

Reply 2

Jonas13

anything is the answer. not all guys are the same, we're human beings just like you and u may worry it was about you but dnt worry it probs wasnt. You just have a confidence problem, so dont let them get to you, ur probs just paranoid when actually its probably nothing bad at all :smile:

so, whats going on in women's heads?

Reply 3

chidona

15

Well, we're not homogeneous, so we can't really say for certain. It just sounds like your personality isn't clicking with theirs, and seems strange to them.

Oh well - there's plenty of guys out there that can 'figure you out', i'm sure.

Reply 4

All at once

10

It could be a number of things, either:
- they're saying, possibly jokingly/possibly seriously, "ooh, you're in there mate"
- you're uglier than they are, and they feel they're out of your league
- you said really stupid things
- their smirking and giggling has nothing to do with you, in which case, stop being so paranoid.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

hm ok, come to think of it its not just immature lads grown men have smirked at one another too after I spoke with them, like they say bye, tap me on the head or something and then smirk at each other. Does this change anything?

lol I admit im making a bigger deal of it than i need to but im not paranoid.

Reply 6

pinkchampers

5

Anonymous

I just wondered if you could help me to figure out what guys are thinking lol. Basically im really quiet and not confident but say if I go into a room (lets say lecture) and talk to some guys, on the way out I will say bye or see you later, they will say bye and then when i look round they are smirking at one another or laughing. They obviously don't fancy me as they think im odd ( they said they can't figure me out or something) and know I don't have a lot of friends. This happened throughout high school too with different guys.

Whats going on in there heads? I know its not good lol but be honest.

maybe you are just paranoid, they may not be laughing about you, and it is normal behaviour to say good bye etc.

Reply 7

PatchTheCatch

6

Psh screw 'em lassy if they're laughing, next time, go back and go "oh hey I love jokes, what's so funny?" and then you can analyse their actions and decipher whether it was about you or not ^^
Some guy (most guys) can be truely dumb and silly and POOEY so aye screw them if they are, then again it could be innocent so don't worry ^^

Reply 8

.ACS.

19

Honestly, none of us here can say what’s going on in their minds.

It could be a range of things from talking about you, mocking you, talking about something that happened in the lecture, making fun of the lecturer, jokingly talking about their chances to be with you, and the list just goes on and on.

If you’re that worried about it, confront them, yet be warned that if their joking has nothing to do with you, you’ll look a complete fool.

Anonymous

hm ok, come to think of it its not just immature lads grown men have smirked at one another too after I spoke with them, like they say bye, tap me on the head or something and then smirk at each other. Does this change anything?

They tap you on the head? ^o)

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

lol not hard, but yea, im rubbish at working out people's behaviour etc.

Reply 10

.ACS.

19

Anonymous

lol not hard, but yea, im rubbish at working out people's behaviour etc.

When they tap you on the head, how is it? Like when you pet a dog/cat/baby? Hmmm... quite strange behaviour. ^o)

Reply 11

*Katie*

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teenageclay

Psh screw 'em lassy if they're laughing, next time, go back and go "oh hey I love jokes, what's so funny?" and then you can analyse their actions and decipher whether it was about you or not ^^

Good plan. Do that. It's better than any guesswork TSR can perform, anyhow.

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

They'll probably be comparing their thoughts of your attractiveness if they are smirking, I'm afraid.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

Andrzej S.

When they tap you on the head, how is it? Like when you pet a dog/cat/baby? Hmmm... quite strange behaviour. ^o)

Yea as though im a kid :confused:

Though I am small and look young but still they know my age, I don't get it but its not really something you ask them though.

Reply 14

.ACS.

19

Anonymous

Yea as though im a kid :confused:

Though I am small and look young but still they know my age, I don't get it but its not really something you ask them though.

While it’s impossible for us to know what they’re thinking, I wouldn’t think it’s anything good, I’m sorry to say. :frown:

Do you like them (as friends or fancy one of them)? Possibly break contact with them, or try to devise a plan (hinting at it, running up to them and saying ‘I like a joke too, what’s so funny?’ when they’re laughing (as suggested by teenageclay), or something similar) to find out what they’re talking/laughing about after speaking with you.

Reply 15

Dionysus

15

Impossible to say for sure without knowing you and the people involved, but they don't sound very pleasant.

Reply 16

chooka

11

It might depend on their "stature" at school. If it is the "cool" guys then they are probably jsut doing it for laughs. DO the same back to them. If its more of shy guys or something that do it, migt mean they find you cute or something.

Reply 17

DeSiFiEd

2

Anonymous

I just wondered if you could help me to figure out what guys are thinking lol. Basically im really quiet and not confident but say if I go into a room (lets say lecture) and talk to some guys, on the way out I will say bye or see you later, they will say bye and then when i look round they are smirking at one another or laughing. They obviously don't fancy me as they think im odd ( they said they can't figure me out or something) and know I don't have a lot of friends. This happened throughout high school too with different guys.

Whats going on in there heads? I know its not good lol but be honest.

Erm not sure exactly how "honesty" fits in here! Its more childishness? I'd say in ways as a guy I've experienced the same, and I'm pretty quiet and underconfident at times (although once you get me started, you literally cannot get me to shutup lol). There are "honest" guys, and ones that will treat you in a way that is parallel with this, just be patient, thats what I'm doing!

Personally I think these guys who seem to mimick (?) you are not worth the time of day, there are decent, honest guys who will treat you well! Again that comes with patience, as I've experienced in my friends there aren't many of us guys who can be so "genuine" around a group of males... and even though I'd say I'm quite genuine, it still seems out of place at times when with other guy friends!

Just smile, and find a group of friend's who don't make you feel so...awkward? :smile:

take care

Reply 18

.ACS.

19

chooka

It might depend on their "stature" at school. If it is the "cool" guys then they are probably jsut doing it for laughs. DO the same back to them. If its more of shy guys or something that do it, migt mean they find you cute or something.