Love Mood Swings

Okay im just checkin theres nothing wrong me though im sure there is. Basically ive been with my gf about nine months now, and feel really madly in love with her and feel like she could be a lasting partner, i really feel so strongly for her. Then as soon as she does something to annoy me, i get annoyed and feel nothing for her for a while, shes just said something (unbeknownst to her) that has quite ticked me off (its not her fault), and now the feeling I have for her seem to have just dissapeared , its hard to explain I just feel nothing towards her, like I couldnt care less if we broke up right now. I always get over these little incidents pretty quickly and love her lots again, but im wondering if theres something not quite wrong with me.

Reply 1

ßlαcksωαn

17

Nothing wrong with you apart from the fact that you've said "you're madly in love with her, "she may be a lasting partner" etc. What kind of stuff has she said to peeve you off? And if she doesnt know about it she cant revent it from happening again. So just tell her.

Reply 2

Aquillyne

1

Jesus, get a hold of yourself. If you're so sure you love her other times, remember it right now when you're annoyed, and stop being so self-consumed. You'll regret it if you split up and then you calm down and then you want her again!!! To be honest though, I'd question how much you really do love her - or I'd question whether you don't. That is - if you can feel it sometimes and not others, it can't be that real; but if it is, then I don't believe you don't feel it even now. So just get over it, people do annoying things, yknow what, YOU probably do even worse but I bet she doesn't make such a fuss. And yknow, you'll probably realise it was more "you getting annoyed" than "her annoying you", if you see what I mean. Good luck! :smile:

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

yeah i love my girl friend but if im stressed and she winds me up or we argue i some times get that dont care feeling with her. It usually goes after a few hours and i feel bad etc but i think its normal.

Reply 4

Truman

3

I get exactly the same feelings as you. Ive been with my partner for 6 months and i love her more than anything else. However sometimes she'll say something really small that upsets me, like she'll be talking about one of her male friends and il feel irrationally jealous and il feel like our relationship means nothing and like i have no feelings for her. Its crazy. But i know its irrational so when that happens i just act normal cause i know half an hour later when the feelings passed il love her again. I dont know if its abnormal or not?

Reply 5

herecomestrouble

14

I think its natural and i think these feelings settle more as you get older? I dont think you said how old you are but im guessing late teens? But dont blame yourself for how you feel! She loves you for being who you are! :hugs:

Reply 6

Becca <3.

1

Not to be all whingey, but this whole feeling careless and not "as strongly" or you "wouldn't mind breaking up right now" mumbo jumbo... and you say you're in love?

I don't exactly know myslef as I'm not in love, but surely these wouldn't affect your emotional state towards eachother, not even short term?

I think maybe what I'm trying to say, you can't be in love.. can you? :s-smilie:

Becca <3.

Reply 7

Truman

3

I have to say i disagree with you. You can be in love with someone but at particular times feel other emotions towards them such as anger, frustration etc....

Just because you are in love with someone it doesnt mean there wont be times when you feel negative emotions towards them.

Reply 8

Becca <3.

1

Indeed, I can appreciate that.

But if you're feeling as careless as just being able to end it all right then, and feel no emotional bond to them for a short time.. are you really in love?

I mean the whole "Love is patient, love is kind.. puts up with others, isn't selfish, continues through all etc"...? I don't know.

I'm not disagreeing with you, as like I said, haven't experienced this myself. I guess I'm genuinely intrigued.

Reply 9

Truman

3

I can undertsand exactly why you'd say that. Its really hard to describe. Even though at that moment i feel really detatched from my partner i am able to think rationally, thats why i dont end the relationship then, and the feeling soon passes. The longest ive ever felt like that is for a few hours.

I mean its riduclous i know but i cant help it. But i know im in love with my partner, im 100 percent sure of it, its one of those things that when you know you know it and theres no doubt. Maybe its just part of being an emotionally unstable teenager?

Reply 10

Seoid

Becca <3.

Indeed, I can appreciate that.

But if you're feeling as careless as just being able to end it all right then, and feel no emotional bond to them for a short time.. are you really in love?

I mean the whole "Love is patient, love is kind.. puts up with others, isn't selfish, continues through all etc"...? I don't know.

I'm not disagreeing with you, as like I said, haven't experienced this myself. I guess I'm genuinely intrigued.

The whole "love is patient..." thing is just bollox and if you really believe all that then you're never going to think any relationship is good enough. Even if you're deeply in love with someone it's possible at times to feel negative things about them, hell it's possible to even hate them for short periods of time. It's totally normal and you can't question every feeling you have about someone because often we're not in control of how we feel and what often happens is that you can direct negative emotions towards your partner not because they've done anything wrong but because they're the closest person to you and the one you feel most vulnerable around. It's easy to question things and to feel like you could break up, that's totally understandable. You're both only human and there's no possible way you can be positive and happy all the time, you just have to remember not act rashly or say things you'll regret when the time has passed. Having these negative emotions and riding them out without letting them ruin everything is a big part of developing a mature love with someone. It means you can really relax with them because you know you don't have to monitor your emotions all the time - even if you're down and negative you still know you love them and that it'll pass.

Being in love is not all sunshine and roses, and a person doesn't have to be absolutely perfect for the relationship to work. Anyone believes that when you're in love you're always mad about the other person and think they're the greatest all the time is heading for a big awakening sometime in the future.

Reply 11

Becca <3.

1

Seoid

The whole "love is patient..." thing is just bollox and if you really believe all that then you're never going to think any relationship is good enough. Even if you're deeply in love with someone it's possible at times to feel negative things about them, hell it's possible to even hate them for short periods of time. It's totally normal and you can't question every feeling you have about someone because often we're not in control of how we feel and what often happens is that you can direct negative emotions towards your partner not because they've done anything wrong but because they're the closest person to you and the one you feel most vulnerable around. It's easy to question things and to feel like you could break up, that's totally understandable. You're both only human and there's no possible way you can be positive and happy all the time, you just have to remember not act rashly or say things you'll regret when the time has passed. Having these negative emotions and riding them out without letting them ruin everything is a big part of developing a mature love with someone. It means you can really relax with them because you know you don't have to monitor your emotions all the time - even if you're down and negative you still know you love them and that it'll pass.

Being in love is not all sunshine and roses, and a person doesn't have to be absolutely perfect for the relationship to work. Anyone believes that when you're in love you're always mad about the other person and think they're the greatest all the time is heading for a big awakening sometime in the future.

Oh no, I don't deny love isn't all sunshine and roses, and neither that you're simply always mad for the other person.

I guess it's just such a complex issue, love. And more-so, I can mentally understand exactly all of what you're saying, but emotionally, through lack of experience, I just see it as .. ricketty? Liable to fall apart rather easily?

That sounds terrifically pessimistic. But I also can appreciate that any questions aimed at one's relationship, any "rough patches", would be well worth the end result. :smile:

Becca <3.

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