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How do I tell him?

Right, I was seeing my ex boyfriend for two years, it ended with him cheating on me, which was hypocritical in itself because he was allowed to have friends who were girls but i weren't allowed to have friends who were guys. So because of this "rule" which i blindly followed to make him happy i lost contact with a guy who i was always really close friends with.
Since splitting with EX i went to see the guy friend, Chris, and stayed over at his cause he lives quite far away from me. Nothing happened except he told me he really liked me and there was hugs and i've only ever really thought of him as a friend.
I've recently started seeing someone new and Chris is coming over to see me on Saturday (i've just had an op so he wants to come visit) and he says he cant wait to see me again. I haven't told Chris about ma new boyfriend (we've only been seeing each other 2 weeks) because i don't want to hurt his feelings but i'm going to have to tell him because i don't want him to drive all the way over here on saturday thinking that something might happen.

I really hate hurting peoples feelings so how can i tell him without hurting his? Please help!
If he is just your friend, then you should just come out and say it like you would to anyother friend. then he would support you as his friend. i understand what you mean about him drving all of the way and him being disappointed. But phone him before he comes over and say that you have been seeing someone. If he just wants to be friends he will still come over.

Thats what i would do.
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Thanks hunni, i just rang him now and he sounded really gutted, i understand that but god i feel horrible! He said he'll think about it and talk to me later when he feels like he can... I guess i can't do anything more than that now i just feel so bad. I hate upsetting or disappointing people, thats why my last relationship lasted as long as it did!
Well at least its done now :smile: He will get over it - i have just had to help my friend who was in a similar position as he was, she couldnt get over a guy, but she gradually has and they are back to being friends like they were. so dont worry too much about hurting his feelings :smile: You need to think about yourself too.
Well at the end the day you was honest to him, I am sure he would rather that than be lied to. Your ex sounds like a right pig by the way.