Asking a girl out

Hi, im a 21 year old guy ive been friends with a girl since September, i really really like her more than as a friend though.

We do hang out sometimes and go cinema/meet in town etc when i was at uni in term time. But i dont know if she is interested. She only texts when i text, but that may be because she works during the week.

The thing is ive not really shown that i really like her in that way, im really crap at flirting lol.

So i would like to ask her out next time but dont know how to ask her out. What do I say, how can I show her that i like her more than a friend.

But what shall i do first, shall i flirt first with her (maybe you can give me some pointers on how to do this) or surprise her next time we meet up and ask her out, as i dont want to wait any longer. My whole life is full of missed opportunities with girls and being in the dreated "friends zone".

Reply 1

yellow96

15

I wouldn't just spring it all on her in one go as, even if she does like you, it'll be a bit of a shock. You should try being subtly flirty / romantic. I don't know about where you live, but in Swanners there's a street where people go drinking, and along this street are people selling individual flowers (roses I think). If you find yourself in a situation like this, buy her a flower and gauge her reaction. Just drop little hints and see how she reacts to them, maybe make a bit more physical contact. Do you hug? Might be time to start if not. Compliment her (without going overboard). If she seems to react positively to all of this, you're pretty much in there, and could just ask her out on an actual date. If she seems reluctant about the whole thing, give some serious thought to whether you're willing to risk ruining the friendship for the sake of throwing caution to the wind and asking her out.

Reply 2

NW8_SW1_EC3

You might have missed your chance as you have gone out with her as a friend to the cinema etc and not made a move. She'll consider you just a friend now, and if you made a move now, it could look a bit wierd. No?

Reply 3

The Bishman

8

Im not going to give you advice on how to flirt as my method of flirting usually involves getting drunk and hitting on extremely feminine looking men by mistake. Its all ok in the end but to be honest my girlfriend hates it.

You say you have been friends with this girl since september, and done friend stuff. She has probably put you well in the 'friend' zone. This is bad but all is not lost, I would sugest going trying to up the amount of time you spend together, this allows you to get to know her loads more, and vice-versa. Start showing signals that you like her maybe.

Reply 4

fat_hobbit

2

Anonymous

Hi, im a 21 year old guy ive been friends with a girl since September, i really really like her more than as a friend though.

We do hang out sometimes and go cinema/meet in town etc when i was at uni in term time. But i dont know if she is interested. She only texts when i text, but that may be because she works during the week.

The thing is ive not really shown that i really like her in that way, im really crap at flirting lol.

So i would like to ask her out next time but dont know how to ask her out. What do I say, how can I show her that i like her more than a friend.

But what shall i do first, shall i flirt first with her (maybe you can give me some pointers on how to do this) or surprise her next time we meet up and ask her out, as i dont want to wait any longer. My whole life is full of missed opportunities with girls and being in the dreated "friends zone".

Yeah, I think you have been put in the 'friends' zone. Once in, theres no coming out mate. :p:

You can try and flirt with her, but tbh it could come across as strange esp if she just 'sees' you as a mate (esp if you just start flirting with her out of nowhere)....or if not that, she will flirt back harmlessly - it might not mean anything.

In which case, I would advice that you just ask her out - be blunt, cut the BS and go for it. If she rejects you, move onto another girl.

The worst thing that will happen is a) she will tell you she has met someone else or b) she isn't interested....That does not mean that you will not be able to remain friends.

Reply 5

2026

15

NW8_SW1_EC3

You might have missed your chance as you have gone out with her as a friend to the cinema etc and not made a move. She'll consider you just a friend now, and if you made a move now, it could look a bit wierd. No?

It could be weird, and too late to take the relationship any further. However, the OP could set the foundations of a future romantic relationship in small steps and not freak her out.

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