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    A number of girls I've been interested in and asked out have come up with excuses or said "I see you as a little friend" or something like that.

    I'm 5'6, skinny (used to be fat) and compared to most people my age am just abnormal. People are always commenting on how tiny I am, how pale I am etc. And it turns girls off of me. What should I do? How can I look my age? I'm 17 yet people think I'm 14. When I'm out on my own and a bunch of chavs are there I just walk past them without any hassle because they think I'm a kid, but other people my age get into fights (NOT an excuse, just an example).

    Other examples of the negatives:
    - family make fun of me for my size
    - not taken seriously by a lot of people
    - I'm made a joke of because of my size and lack of strength
    - I still fit into trousers and t-shirts I've had since I was about 13 (bear in mind I was fat before)
    - I get ID'd at cinemas for 15s! :rolleyes:

    Any advice? I damn well deserve someone, it's discrimination! hmph.
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    Well firstly congrats on loosing the weight, unless it just happened naturally due to puppy fat. Maybe you should join a gym, I started a few months ago and can see my arms and chest getting toned. Its hard work but the results look great. If you bulked up a bit, perhaps people will take you more seriously, girls will find you more physically attractive, your family can no longer make jokes about your size and finally you can get a new wardrobe.
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    Bulk up a bit? Get some muscle?

    If you've got a young looking face, not much you can do really.

    Just ignore the rude remarks etc. Cliche I know but you'll be glad of your youthful looks when you are older!
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    Yeah, you could bulk up, get a bit bigger. I'd probably concentrate on getting physically fit and strong, rather then going to the gym specifically to get big biceps and a 6 pack.

    You could also try dressing a bit more mature I guess. Don't just wear something that a 13 yr old might wear. To be honest though, above all that, the most important thing is confidence. You can get girls if you have that.
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    Hmm. There are a few things you could try (but I'm probably stating the obvious here).

    - clothes. What do you wear exactly? If it's band t-shirts and trainers you might want to give those a re-think. Nice jumpers, shirts, smart shoes could definitely help.
    - hair. Stubble could help, as could a good hair cut. Invest in an expensive hair cut at a good salon?
    - skin. Do you have a good diet? And would you consider going on a sun bed? (I don't mean to go all tango orange or pretty boy, but a session every 1-2 weeks could give you a touch of colour)
    - muscle. bulk up a bit down the gym?
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    Facial hair. It's amazing how a bit of stubble can make a guy look about 5 years older.
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    If you look young, take joy in knowing that when everyone is starting to look really old and haggered, you'll look relatively fresh faced.
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    pale is sexy. And dont worry about looking young, dont women like younger guys? coughdemiandashtoncough.
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    (Original post by blackswan)
    coughdemiandashtoncough.
    What was the point of that? They're not reading are they?
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    i thnk u have to be patient,,u re just 17 and of course u look young,,also girls always grow up faster than guys.i am 20 and my friends used to look like u when they are 17,but now theie apperance realy changed.only 2 or 3 years later u will reach ur real look..by the way,u can get muscle or change ur hair style clothes etc.
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    (Original post by AntiLearner)
    A number of girls I've been interested in and asked out have come up with excuses or said "I see you as a little friend" or something like that.
    Just use the standard retort for comments like that: "Hey! I moisturise. [grin]"
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    Thank you all for the advice. I did used to go to the gym with my friends until they started taking the piss out of how much I could lift :rolleyes: so I invested in dumbbells at home but rarely use them. I might need to start concentrating on sorting out a lifting routine or something.

    I like my hairstyle (mohawk-y at the back and top with a fringe - gets positive comments) and I'd usually leave the house wearing black jeans and a polo t-shirt - I don't know how old this makes me look though.
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    Well you already acknowledge your faults which is a start.

    You can't change your height, but its likely you've not finished growing at 17. (I'm about 4 inches taller now than I was at 17 and I'm 22). For the skinniness, go to the gym and eat a lot, and for the paleness, go to a tanning salon. Other than that, don't slouch when you walk, have an upright, erect posture, shoulders back, chest out, head up.

    I've just solved all your problems in 2 minutes. I sometimes wonder why my rep is so poor....:rolleyes:

    edit: sack off your mates if they're taking the piss. I was 155 at 6'2" when I started, now THATS skinny. Do it for yourself and take no notice of your so called friends. Dumbells at home won't do anything, you need a gym. Google gym routines and bodybuilding diets. Oh yea, and black is the 'smallest' colour, white is the biggest.....by that I mean, it will make you look bigger and wider....I dunno why but its true.
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    hit the weights and show'em whose boss!
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    (Original post by TopSortedMadForIt)

    I've just solved all your problems in 2 minutes. I sometimes wonder why my rep is so poor....:rolleyes:
    I could answer that for you luv :rolleyes: Although I must admit, from what I've seen you've been a lot better lately.
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    Play rugby, get yourself some scars. Skinny wee guys are good on the wing. Although scars are best gotten in the pack. I was a flanker and my face has a few scars I'm quite proud of.
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    I have the same problem.
    Girls say are bless him when i blush easily.
    I'm 16, got no muscle, longish hair and wear skinny jeans and tops.
    Girls think i'm a joke.
    I know how you feel
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    Have you finished going through puberty , you could just be a late starter.
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    OP, you're only 17. You're not expected to look like a bloke in his 20/30s. Boys go through puberty slower than girls, I think, so you probably still have a lot to do. You might have a growth spurt in the next couple of years. You probably do look young and I know how annoying it is because I'm 20 but people still think I'm about 15. Stop being impatient, you won't look 14 forever.
 
 
 
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