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trust issues

My boyfriend has recently come back from holiday after 4 weeks of being away from me and while he was gone a couple of girls said stuff to me which made me think about trust issues and what he's been doing (i won't go into detail) When he came back his father and his brother were telling me how these girls were chatting him up and he was encouraging them and my mate is pretending (well s caled friend, is saying shes getting flirty text messages off my bf.

We are getting to the part in our relationship where most people get bored of each other and with being away so long and with me now being ill, we have stopped meeting up, only he is being off with me and never answers his phone, only when he feels like and normally he rings me back. he has NEVER cheated in the time we've been going out, but now im starting to wonder whether he is. i'm just so confused and upset i don't know whether to trust him or not. I'm constantly checking his email and asking him, in hope he will say he has just so i know!

I know i sound pretty pyshco i just don't know whether i should continue this relationship or not. I know its all my fault, im just confused! :s-smilie:

xxx

....oh and now his mum, dad and sis don't even know where he is. When they asked, he wouldn't tell them. he's up to something!

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

I was like you at one point. I don't know exactly how I overcame my trust issues with my boyfriend, it sort of just happened. I knew that what we had was too special to destroy with distrust. So I just believe in him. A friend once told me to love deeply and with blind faith. I don't think you have anything to worry about. I find that thinking of all the things he has said to me in the past helps a lot. If he loves you, I don't think you should read anymore into this.

Reply 2

dumbdunc

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Reply 3

notsoperfect

how long have you been together?

Reply 4

PinkBalloon

try and talk to him :smile:

I was in a similar situation with my ex, he was starting to be distant and we werent meeting up much (I'd been ill). I talked to him about it, and we admitted we'd been drifting apart. He said he didnt know what he wanted, so we called it a day. It was better that way than carrying on how it was.
Maybe after a chat you'll find out things are ok, but talking to him might help :smile:

Its not all your fault, sometimes people do just drift apart, its not always necassarily someones fault.

Good luck :smile:

Reply 5

soar

notsoperfect

how long have you been together?

nearly ten months

Reply 6

sufiankane

he could have been leading them on for all you know.

Reply 7

username47781

Obviously the relationship can't work without trust but his behaviour is a bit dodgy. I think you both need to talk about all this, least if he reassures you that he loves you then thats a sign.