Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    I start college in about a week and have been really torn up about if I should cover up my old self harm scars or not. I haven't done it in over 4 months but I have pretty visible marks up my left arm on all sides . Normally I don't worry about trying to cover them because most people I know already know all bout them.But since this is a new environment I am worried about judgement and being labeled as a crazy freak before I have the chance to make friends at all.
    Offline

    12
    ReputationRep:
    People are very judgmental, so for that reason alone I would cover them up initially. There's no shame in it, it's just that young people are fickle when it comes to this sort of thing and I think it's best to lean on the side of caution.

    Once you get to know these people, you can stop hiding the scars as they will know you as a person and won't make quick assumptions on you.
    Offline

    20
    ReputationRep:
    I agree with the guy above that it would probably be wise to cover them at least to start with to avoid the stigma before people get to know you.

    I just started my second semester at uni and was holding a skull in my left hard pointing out various bits to some girl I got partnered with the other day. Needless to say, she definitely was not at all concentrating on what I was saying, I could see exactly what she was staring at. I really should wear long sleeves but it was 38C yesterday. :sad:
    Offline

    18
    ReputationRep:
    your call... personally I prefer to wear long sleeves when I first meet people so their first impression of me isn't that I'm 'crazy' or 'depressed' or any of the other stereotypes for self harm but if it was very hot I would probably just wear short sleeves rather than be uncomfortable
    Offline

    12
    ReputationRep:
    I have extensive self-harm scars and since my recovery I haven't made any real effort to cover them up. I think only twice in 7 years has anyone made a comment about them. If you act like they aren't a big deal, other people will follow suit.
    Offline

    14
    ReputationRep:
    Instead of just covering them up, you could start actively trying to get them to fade? Things like using bio oil and putting lemon juice over the discolouration or something might help? I'm just trying to think longer term for you!
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: August 23, 2016
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • Poll
    What's your favourite Christmas sweets?
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

    Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

    Quick reply
    Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.